Big issue HELP

[girlsfollow]

So been seeing this girl on and off for 2 years. She was initially REALLY into me we had sex first night and she was really into me for the last two years - she tried everything to get me to commit - was desperate for it for the whole 2 years and I kept putting it off, she always got really angry at me and so many times cried about us not being properly together.

BUT recently I tried giving her what she wanted - at first she got really angry at me for a while because I wasn't giving her enough time and intimacy - I wasn't giving her everything - so much so she ended it with me

I wanted to salvage things and go and tell her how much I cared but when I went to see her she was all smiles, clearly liking me and and really liking that I had come, wanted to kiss etc - I didnt seem to need to do any of that talking (telling her I really care) so I just had a nice time with her. - all seemed good we had a great evening and great sex (she came properly many times - as usual!)

BUT now she is getting really cold - she didn't call me yesterday and now today she says she doesn't feel anything anymore and wants to "end it" because she doesn't see any point because she doesn't feel anything anymore.

I was very calm (which she found surprising) and explained I can understand why she would feel that way after me not giving her what she wanted for SO long - I see it as a defence mechanism.

So what do I do to make her feel what she felt for so long?

 

[trashKENNUT]

girlsfollow,

So what do I do to make her feel what she felt for so long?

You can't, It's the Two year drop thing. Getting sex was probably the last of emotions for her to just release it all.

Zac

 

[girlsfollow]

girlsfollow,

So what do I do to make her feel what she felt for so long?

You can't, It's the Two year drop thing. Getting sex was probably the last of emotions for her to just release it all.

Zac

Actually I managed to turn this around! - I started being really nice/sweet over text, reduced contact a little, let her initiate once or twice was goood then as a reward took her out on a really unique cool date. She loved it and now wants me to come to lots of things with her and even meet her family (little worrying).

 

[Whizzy]

Nicely done!

 

[girlsfollow]

Nicely done!

Yeh a little niceness can go a long way if you've been a bit of a dick. Was nice to have her happy again.

However, I think the main thing that helped me here was that I think objectively I am a little more attractive than her and she doesnt have an active social circle - I sometimes get the feeling that with not incredibly hot/fashionable girls you can almost do anything wrong and you are fine - whereas with the "it" girls they have so many options and are so spoilt that they are simply more difficult. Its going back to the whole idea that looks matter - it does seem to make things much easier and makes me think sometimes that any techniques are just the icing on the cake.

 

[Whizzy]

It all comes back to an abundance mentality in that case

 

[trashKENNUT]

Actually I managed to turn this around! - I started being really nice/sweet over text, reduced contact a little, let her initiate once or twice was goood then as a reward took her out on a really unique cool date. She loved it and now wants me to come to lots of things with her and even meet her family (little worrying).

I think that if you pursuing a relationship, then definitely this makes her happy. Expectation setting, can sometimes be overlook.

Zac