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TLDR: looking for angles to escalate a massage into sex w/o intimacy
saw a girl who might have been interesting in a shared space. seemed like a nice figure under the flowy linen pants, but i was with a different girl so didn’t even say hey.
my girl left and i went back to that place a week later. saw blondie again. Talked to her casually once or twice - realized her face is actually mid so I don’t think much. meet a different girl at the same place who’s a bit into me. gc is on my mind and I get it in my head I want to make something happen before I leave.
I’m out walking and I pass blondie randomly, stop and chat for a minute and i see a bikini under her clothes. My hunch about her body was right. the other girl seems to be more interested and has more personality, but that’s not what I’m looking for. I decide to focus on blondie just because of her body. So far it’s been just a couple casual convos between us with slight sexual tension.
later I’m on the balcony and she passes beneath. say psst a couple times to get her attention. hear she’s got no plans for tonight and asks about me so I know she’s down to hang. This surprises me because she’s been pretty cool yet anyways I go downstairs to meet her.
we’re not supposed to be outside so I move a couple chairs around the corner where no one can see. have to be quiet because someones bedroom is right next to us. chat for a while. and she’s generally unresponsive/distant. I can’t tell if this is just her personality or if she’s uncomfortable at first. I keep mentioning it because I know I can’t get any further with this block in the way. It’s as if she’s deep in thought about something important.
go deeper with the talk, confirm there’s something weighing on her, I don’t get too sucked in, bring it back to more casual getting to know each other. we connect on health/fitness and I bring up massage. start with her hand as we sit diagonalish to each other in plastic chairs. She likes it though barely lets this on. Teasing, innuendo, verbal imagery, touch all got positive responses but nothing really popped - I’m at a bit of a loss because she’s not really responding to anything. She likes what I’m saying/doing but it’s as if she’s still somewhere off in the distance.
So I keep moving things forward. The massage theme seems the best route so I play that road out. A bit later she asks how many days I’ll be here to confirm, then agrees to the idea give each other massages because “why not”. I say let’s go, stand up, and lead her inside. We’ve already talked about how where we’re sleeping won’t work, so I open the door to the biggest bathroom saying it looks like the best we got. She doesn’t follow and instead goes towards a shared lounge that’s dark and asks what I think.
I say it’s fine as long as we draw the curtains. Have her do half then we start massaging. she’s a bit hesitant and tentative so I don’t push hard at all, focus on relaxing and taking my time.
Tell her take her shirt off after a little, takes it off asking “what’s your plan”. This is a bad sign, I say “massage” and pretty much ignore it. Again she’s unreactive so I have her tell me it feels good, she confirms, but this is just weird to me. She likes it and it definitely feels good but it’s like she’s afraid to say it. At this point I’ve moved down her back and now on to her ass a bit. But, she’s been pretty closed off and nonresponsive. Earlier I moved forward but here I want to be extra careful for very obvious reasons.
Also, I’m content in the moment. her body is spectacular. short, perky, soft skin, muscle in all the right places, used to be a gymnast and dancer, 10/10 to feel in my hands. unfortunately she is not a 10/10 massage giver. guess you can’t have it all.
Anyways as I start on her ass I tell her to confirm it feels good before I keep going because I want her to be fully on board. she says yes but “a little higher”, which means she is not. try to circle back without any real feedback and kind of let her make a decision about continuing vs stopping. Unusual move but I want to make sure she’s on board given the circumstances. She tentatively is not.
now we sit differently and she says she’s tired, has to get up early etc. but that I’m making it hard for her to leave. She’s turned on. I could probably start making out and escalate from there, but I don’t want to kiss and be affectionate with this girl.
She’s now fine with me feeling more than before but still closed off and passively blocking me with her arms. all in all weird situation. my read is she really has something heavy on her mind or has reservations about hooking up I hadn’t addressed earlier.
I decide it’s better to try for a day 2 and agree she should shower etc, based on previous conversations we could just meet tomorrow night. We're near each other so she would have to actively hide to not see me. I get up and we say goodnight, see you tomorrow.
And she was never seen again.
Thoughts:
Would've been much higher % off the bat without her existential crisis, could maybe position myself as a distraction
I could've built more confirmation before the pull. Maybe 'as soon as she's ready' was too soon and it was a bit bait & switch
Should've explored sexual themes more seeing as I didn't want to be intimate
Curious if/how you guys have handled similar situations. Suggestions welcome
saw a girl who might have been interesting in a shared space. seemed like a nice figure under the flowy linen pants, but i was with a different girl so didn’t even say hey.
my girl left and i went back to that place a week later. saw blondie again. Talked to her casually once or twice - realized her face is actually mid so I don’t think much. meet a different girl at the same place who’s a bit into me. gc is on my mind and I get it in my head I want to make something happen before I leave.
I’m out walking and I pass blondie randomly, stop and chat for a minute and i see a bikini under her clothes. My hunch about her body was right. the other girl seems to be more interested and has more personality, but that’s not what I’m looking for. I decide to focus on blondie just because of her body. So far it’s been just a couple casual convos between us with slight sexual tension.
later I’m on the balcony and she passes beneath. say psst a couple times to get her attention. hear she’s got no plans for tonight and asks about me so I know she’s down to hang. This surprises me because she’s been pretty cool yet anyways I go downstairs to meet her.
we’re not supposed to be outside so I move a couple chairs around the corner where no one can see. have to be quiet because someones bedroom is right next to us. chat for a while. and she’s generally unresponsive/distant. I can’t tell if this is just her personality or if she’s uncomfortable at first. I keep mentioning it because I know I can’t get any further with this block in the way. It’s as if she’s deep in thought about something important.
go deeper with the talk, confirm there’s something weighing on her, I don’t get too sucked in, bring it back to more casual getting to know each other. we connect on health/fitness and I bring up massage. start with her hand as we sit diagonalish to each other in plastic chairs. She likes it though barely lets this on. Teasing, innuendo, verbal imagery, touch all got positive responses but nothing really popped - I’m at a bit of a loss because she’s not really responding to anything. She likes what I’m saying/doing but it’s as if she’s still somewhere off in the distance.
So I keep moving things forward. The massage theme seems the best route so I play that road out. A bit later she asks how many days I’ll be here to confirm, then agrees to the idea give each other massages because “why not”. I say let’s go, stand up, and lead her inside. We’ve already talked about how where we’re sleeping won’t work, so I open the door to the biggest bathroom saying it looks like the best we got. She doesn’t follow and instead goes towards a shared lounge that’s dark and asks what I think.
I say it’s fine as long as we draw the curtains. Have her do half then we start massaging. she’s a bit hesitant and tentative so I don’t push hard at all, focus on relaxing and taking my time.
Tell her take her shirt off after a little, takes it off asking “what’s your plan”. This is a bad sign, I say “massage” and pretty much ignore it. Again she’s unreactive so I have her tell me it feels good, she confirms, but this is just weird to me. She likes it and it definitely feels good but it’s like she’s afraid to say it. At this point I’ve moved down her back and now on to her ass a bit. But, she’s been pretty closed off and nonresponsive. Earlier I moved forward but here I want to be extra careful for very obvious reasons.
Also, I’m content in the moment. her body is spectacular. short, perky, soft skin, muscle in all the right places, used to be a gymnast and dancer, 10/10 to feel in my hands. unfortunately she is not a 10/10 massage giver. guess you can’t have it all.
Anyways as I start on her ass I tell her to confirm it feels good before I keep going because I want her to be fully on board. she says yes but “a little higher”, which means she is not. try to circle back without any real feedback and kind of let her make a decision about continuing vs stopping. Unusual move but I want to make sure she’s on board given the circumstances. She tentatively is not.
now we sit differently and she says she’s tired, has to get up early etc. but that I’m making it hard for her to leave. She’s turned on. I could probably start making out and escalate from there, but I don’t want to kiss and be affectionate with this girl.
She’s now fine with me feeling more than before but still closed off and passively blocking me with her arms. all in all weird situation. my read is she really has something heavy on her mind or has reservations about hooking up I hadn’t addressed earlier.
I decide it’s better to try for a day 2 and agree she should shower etc, based on previous conversations we could just meet tomorrow night. We're near each other so she would have to actively hide to not see me. I get up and we say goodnight, see you tomorrow.
And she was never seen again.
Thoughts:
Would've been much higher % off the bat without her existential crisis, could maybe position myself as a distraction
I could've built more confirmation before the pull. Maybe 'as soon as she's ready' was too soon and it was a bit bait & switch
Should've explored sexual themes more seeing as I didn't want to be intimate
Curious if/how you guys have handled similar situations. Suggestions welcome
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