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As @Bismarck told me, it's summertime and that means the ladies are looking for bratwurst.
I've been trying to get back into game from multiple avenues. I've increased the amount of outings by doing daygame during the week, and restarting my nights out as well. The last week especially, I've felt my sexual vibe come back. It's not where it was, but it will be soon-and soon it will get even greater.
I decided to go out to a social circle event yesterday, mostly for change of pace, and because I figured I could always ditch the social circle and use it to warm up if nothing interesting was out. Plus I thought it would be fun to hang out with friends. At the pre-game, I was feeling a lot of sensory overload. I actually have a harder time avoiding sensory overload when with friends than I do at a bar where I know nobody. I think this is because it's easier to filter out information when it's not relevant to you, but for social, all conversations feel relevant to me. In this way, alcohol actually helped me by improving my ability to filter out information. After a few drinks, I started to vibe more and became more social.
I introduced myself to two roommates while playing a drinking game, and made some jokes and had some fun with them, and then switched up talking to other potential targets that I found cute. Worked to improve deep diving, and to ask questions in a more challenging manner. The difference between "what do you do", and "who are you" in terms of the vibe of the question. I have a hard time remembering the exact way I would scope and focus the questions, but it's something I've been doing more recently, and I will try to capture it more concretely so I can write it down more explicitly. But the effect is that girls are hooking much better.
Anyway, we switch to the actual event venue. I see a girl whose number I had gotten a while ago, who never responded to my texts. I eventually end up in a conversation with her and her friend. I realize now that she's definitely a pretty princess/bratty. Her and her friend are big testers, and I can't really deal with that, but talking with them, and having them laughing at my jokes and engaging strongly with me, plus hooking was great practice. One thing I remember was this:
I leave the set above on a relative high note. (Aside: I had assumed familiarity and took the girls sunglass from her face and put it on my own-this led to a whole bunch of other frame grabs from the girls, which I was not equipped to deal with. But when I went to get the drink, I went to take the girls sunglasses with me-they were very cheap prop glasses-and planned to use it as an excuse to talk to them later. Reflecting on this, I think it was creepy, and not the right move. I should have verbalized and told them I'd return it, or just given it back).
I get my drink and talk with my friends. And then I end up in a conversation with the girls from the beginning of the story. I somehow realign the group, so now I've gotten one girl talking with me and two guys, and the girls roommate talking with someone else. I then build up some rapport, and more physically qualify (I don't explicitly say that I like what she's said, I just become more physically intense and interested in what she's saying-giving attention basically), and then I just pull her elbow, while putting my back against a wall. Boom-isolated and locked in just the two of us. I do some more deep diving, and also start to sexualize the conversation. I mostly use contrasting and she eats it up. Within like 15 minutes, I feel she's ready for the pull. It's almost 1:30AM by this point, so it's socially acceptable to leave the party. I seed a pull talking about some wine I have at home, and her response leads me to more soft close leaving and trying the wine. She responds positively again, so I explicitly tell her that we should go, and grab wine.
I tell her we'll just Irish exit, but since we run into the host, we both say bye to her (though I'm not sure anyone actually noticed me and the girl leaving together).
We end up back at my apartment. Given the girl's cultural background, that we've been drinking, and that this is social circle, I'm wary of the pull being too fast, and leaving the girl with sex regret that could affect my reputation. So I have her pour us the wine, then go use the bathroom. I come out, and make some small comments before kissing her. Then I sit us down and talk for 15-30 minutes in my apartment. I go much deeper into sex talk and set a bunch of anti-ASD frames and anti-FSC frames. I also make sure to explicitly imply that I'm a person who loves sex, who loves being single, who will make her feel comfortable, respected, and feminine. I spend the time doing this because I really don't want to deal with LMR. I also don't really want to have more than one time sex with this girl (not sure if I want that with any girl right now tbh). So I spend the extra time building those frames for prevention. Maybe it was overkill, but the results speak for themselves.
The girl gives me no LMR, is extremely enthusiastic during sex, and has an amazing time. Post-coitus, I actually do a lot of sex talk gambits on her, because I want to hear what she actually thinks about them. It was a fascinating discussion. I also think I do a good job making her feel warm and appreciated, while at the same time being very clear that this was a one-time thing.
Eventually, I call her an Uber home, she reaches, and I send my usual post-lay text. Got a warm response back.
In some ways, this was definitely a freebie. The girl was interested, and I could tell based on how she looked at me at the very beginning of the night. She wasn't the most attractive girl at the party (but she was cute enough), and so I didn't give as much focus to her while I surveyed the other options and tried to find other options. While I failed at that, I think it worked out well, and getting a lay is certainly nothing to complain about.
In other ways, I'm really proud of how I behaved and displayed myself. I built social proof by having good conversations and vibing with different groups of girls, effortlessly isolated and preventatively dealt with any resistance, and most importantly, set the frames I wanted with this girl in a way that was mutually beneficial to both of us. I felt in control, and so there was no nervousness on my part in terms of moving the interaction from hook -> bed.
I've been trying to get back into game from multiple avenues. I've increased the amount of outings by doing daygame during the week, and restarting my nights out as well. The last week especially, I've felt my sexual vibe come back. It's not where it was, but it will be soon-and soon it will get even greater.
I decided to go out to a social circle event yesterday, mostly for change of pace, and because I figured I could always ditch the social circle and use it to warm up if nothing interesting was out. Plus I thought it would be fun to hang out with friends. At the pre-game, I was feeling a lot of sensory overload. I actually have a harder time avoiding sensory overload when with friends than I do at a bar where I know nobody. I think this is because it's easier to filter out information when it's not relevant to you, but for social, all conversations feel relevant to me. In this way, alcohol actually helped me by improving my ability to filter out information. After a few drinks, I started to vibe more and became more social.
I introduced myself to two roommates while playing a drinking game, and made some jokes and had some fun with them, and then switched up talking to other potential targets that I found cute. Worked to improve deep diving, and to ask questions in a more challenging manner. The difference between "what do you do", and "who are you" in terms of the vibe of the question. I have a hard time remembering the exact way I would scope and focus the questions, but it's something I've been doing more recently, and I will try to capture it more concretely so I can write it down more explicitly. But the effect is that girls are hooking much better.
Anyway, we switch to the actual event venue. I see a girl whose number I had gotten a while ago, who never responded to my texts. I eventually end up in a conversation with her and her friend. I realize now that she's definitely a pretty princess/bratty. Her and her friend are big testers, and I can't really deal with that, but talking with them, and having them laughing at my jokes and engaging strongly with me, plus hooking was great practice. One thing I remember was this:
So initial comment from me was good, and I kind of ignored the second comment. Not the best way to pass the test. I'll need to think more on how to deal with sequential tests like this. Something tells me that tests and dealing with tests is going to be the next step that leads to big improvements in my game and consistency.
I leave the set above on a relative high note. (Aside: I had assumed familiarity and took the girls sunglass from her face and put it on my own-this led to a whole bunch of other frame grabs from the girls, which I was not equipped to deal with. But when I went to get the drink, I went to take the girls sunglasses with me-they were very cheap prop glasses-and planned to use it as an excuse to talk to them later. Reflecting on this, I think it was creepy, and not the right move. I should have verbalized and told them I'd return it, or just given it back).
I get my drink and talk with my friends. And then I end up in a conversation with the girls from the beginning of the story. I somehow realign the group, so now I've gotten one girl talking with me and two guys, and the girls roommate talking with someone else. I then build up some rapport, and more physically qualify (I don't explicitly say that I like what she's said, I just become more physically intense and interested in what she's saying-giving attention basically), and then I just pull her elbow, while putting my back against a wall. Boom-isolated and locked in just the two of us. I do some more deep diving, and also start to sexualize the conversation. I mostly use contrasting and she eats it up. Within like 15 minutes, I feel she's ready for the pull. It's almost 1:30AM by this point, so it's socially acceptable to leave the party. I seed a pull talking about some wine I have at home, and her response leads me to more soft close leaving and trying the wine. She responds positively again, so I explicitly tell her that we should go, and grab wine.
I tell her we'll just Irish exit, but since we run into the host, we both say bye to her (though I'm not sure anyone actually noticed me and the girl leaving together).
We end up back at my apartment. Given the girl's cultural background, that we've been drinking, and that this is social circle, I'm wary of the pull being too fast, and leaving the girl with sex regret that could affect my reputation. So I have her pour us the wine, then go use the bathroom. I come out, and make some small comments before kissing her. Then I sit us down and talk for 15-30 minutes in my apartment. I go much deeper into sex talk and set a bunch of anti-ASD frames and anti-FSC frames. I also make sure to explicitly imply that I'm a person who loves sex, who loves being single, who will make her feel comfortable, respected, and feminine. I spend the time doing this because I really don't want to deal with LMR. I also don't really want to have more than one time sex with this girl (not sure if I want that with any girl right now tbh). So I spend the extra time building those frames for prevention. Maybe it was overkill, but the results speak for themselves.
The girl gives me no LMR, is extremely enthusiastic during sex, and has an amazing time. Post-coitus, I actually do a lot of sex talk gambits on her, because I want to hear what she actually thinks about them. It was a fascinating discussion. I also think I do a good job making her feel warm and appreciated, while at the same time being very clear that this was a one-time thing.
Eventually, I call her an Uber home, she reaches, and I send my usual post-lay text. Got a warm response back.
In some ways, this was definitely a freebie. The girl was interested, and I could tell based on how she looked at me at the very beginning of the night. She wasn't the most attractive girl at the party (but she was cute enough), and so I didn't give as much focus to her while I surveyed the other options and tried to find other options. While I failed at that, I think it worked out well, and getting a lay is certainly nothing to complain about.
In other ways, I'm really proud of how I behaved and displayed myself. I built social proof by having good conversations and vibing with different groups of girls, effortlessly isolated and preventatively dealt with any resistance, and most importantly, set the frames I wanted with this girl in a way that was mutually beneficial to both of us. I felt in control, and so there was no nervousness on my part in terms of moving the interaction from hook -> bed.
