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- Sep 10, 2018
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Matched with a Spanish girl on Bumble. Tried a little Spanish I learned a million years ago in school:
"You are the kind of cheerleader I need in my life" = Making her feel wanted/needed with a cute compliment
"or maybe an alcoholic enabler I should stay away from" = Balancing the former statement with a "neg" that could also trigger a seductive femme fatale sort of feeling, drawing on similar principles from push/pull and the Shock and Awe technique
I actually did have a cold at the time, but using any reason that sounds like "but we can't" for any reason outside of our control sets up sort of a star-crossed lovers frame, adding to sexual tension.
After moving the conversation to instagram DMs and chatting a little bit:
Begun the transition to some light sexual framing with the "trying to get into your pants" bit.
Intentionally misinterpreted her response to establish a sexual frame between the two of us.
Left things to her imagination. It's good to be vague when sexually framing for a multitude of reasons.
"So far I see that you are sweet and humble and have a good sense of humor." I do a verbally direct form of qualifying/screening by listing out the qualities I like about her, setting up the frame that I am seeing if she meets my standards, leaving less room for the opposite frame where she would be doing that to me. I will also often make positive assumptions and add on positive traits that I like in women but haven't even fully noticed in her. This utilizes the Pygmalion Effect for behavioral shaping.
"tell me something bad about you" once again touches on something like Shock and Awe where I am looking for a solution to my frustrating desire for her.
I tell women about my connection to the seduction community all the time like this. I don't see what the big deal is.
"You are the kind of cheerleader I need in my life" = Making her feel wanted/needed with a cute compliment
"or maybe an alcoholic enabler I should stay away from" = Balancing the former statement with a "neg" that could also trigger a seductive femme fatale sort of feeling, drawing on similar principles from push/pull and the Shock and Awe technique
I actually did have a cold at the time, but using any reason that sounds like "but we can't" for any reason outside of our control sets up sort of a star-crossed lovers frame, adding to sexual tension.
After moving the conversation to instagram DMs and chatting a little bit:
Begun the transition to some light sexual framing with the "trying to get into your pants" bit.
Intentionally misinterpreted her response to establish a sexual frame between the two of us.
Left things to her imagination. It's good to be vague when sexually framing for a multitude of reasons.
"So far I see that you are sweet and humble and have a good sense of humor." I do a verbally direct form of qualifying/screening by listing out the qualities I like about her, setting up the frame that I am seeing if she meets my standards, leaving less room for the opposite frame where she would be doing that to me. I will also often make positive assumptions and add on positive traits that I like in women but haven't even fully noticed in her. This utilizes the Pygmalion Effect for behavioral shaping.
"tell me something bad about you" once again touches on something like Shock and Awe where I am looking for a solution to my frustrating desire for her.
I tell women about my connection to the seduction community all the time like this. I don't see what the big deal is.
