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I went to a brewery last night with some friends, and 2 of my other friends were playing acoustic guitar there. Nothing too exciting with women happened, but thought I'd report it anyway. Women at breweries tend to be nice to approach, but the number of attractive women is very slim. It's mostly men and plumper women. I hate to be shallow, but I only approach slim girls (even though I have plump women as friends)...
Interaction #1:
Cute girl was leaving out door. My friend texted me that he had arrived, so I got up to meet him at the door. Perfect timing. She walks back in with him behind. I say, "I guess you didn't find what you were looking for?" She goes, "Haha, I thought my friends were out here." I point to my buddy, "Here he is!" She laughs and smiles and begin to walk away. I was meaning for my buddy to jump in and introduce himself, but he thought that I actually knew her haha. I kind of blew it here; I should have introduced myself.
Interaction #2:
2 gorgeous women walk in and sit down (at least "gorgeous" compared to the other women there). My buddies and I are talking about it of course. I tell them that I'll approach. I get up and grab a refill on my beer. I stand there waiting for the beer pretty much psyching myself out. I pay, head back, see the women, and just can't. I sit back down.
My buddies tell me that the longer I wait the harder it will be. Chase's same words ring in my ears. Then it hits me... I think of a great conversation starter... I take a swig, leave my beer, and go over to them.
As I'm approaching, they're deep in conversation. Approaching 2 women deep in conversation... always makes me nervous. I walk a little past and do the glance head move (like I just noticed them). Walk back and stand right next to the both of them sitting. I don't say "excuse me" or "sorry". I just go "hi". Pause. They stop talking and looking at me:
(I don't remember the exact responses, so just putting blah.)
"Having a good night? Enjoying the music?"
"Yes" "Yes"
"Well, I'm actually friends with the guitarists on stage. I'm just seeing how people like the music."
(blah)
"By the way, you girls have impeccable fashion tonight. I really like that."
(blah)
I then go into what kind of music they like and why. I ask them about what instruments they play if any. I ask them what instruments they would want to play (throwing in "harp" and "didgeridoo" which gets a laugh). I do some other light banter. They then say, "Wow, usually guys just come over and say, 'What's up?' You actually have interesting questions."
This makes me feel really good, so I take that hint and invite them over to my table. They say "yes" and come over. We all talk until the brewery closes (like 10 PM, not that late). I deep-dive, thread, etc. I made sure to keep the conversation moving and mainly focusing on them. Everyone seems to be enjoying themselves.
Well, it's late, and my buddies (and guitarists) decide to go to another bar. The girls say that they're out for tonight. For the one I was mainly talking with, I say we should trade contact information, but then she says she has a boyfriend. I'm pretty tipsy at this point and see that my friend hasn't made a move on the girl he's mainly been talking with, so I offer the same for him and her (later, not at the same time), but she also says she has a boyfriend. We end on good terms though, and I make a joke about it. Nothing awkward. We tell each other "nice meeting" and "have a fabulous night" and part ways.
So, not too bad. I wanted to approach some more girls that night, but the next bar had no girls (without a boyfriend holding their hands). This is why I dislike where I live... day game is the only game really.
My biggest problems last night:
Interaction #1:
Cute girl was leaving out door. My friend texted me that he had arrived, so I got up to meet him at the door. Perfect timing. She walks back in with him behind. I say, "I guess you didn't find what you were looking for?" She goes, "Haha, I thought my friends were out here." I point to my buddy, "Here he is!" She laughs and smiles and begin to walk away. I was meaning for my buddy to jump in and introduce himself, but he thought that I actually knew her haha. I kind of blew it here; I should have introduced myself.
Interaction #2:
2 gorgeous women walk in and sit down (at least "gorgeous" compared to the other women there). My buddies and I are talking about it of course. I tell them that I'll approach. I get up and grab a refill on my beer. I stand there waiting for the beer pretty much psyching myself out. I pay, head back, see the women, and just can't. I sit back down.
My buddies tell me that the longer I wait the harder it will be. Chase's same words ring in my ears. Then it hits me... I think of a great conversation starter... I take a swig, leave my beer, and go over to them.
As I'm approaching, they're deep in conversation. Approaching 2 women deep in conversation... always makes me nervous. I walk a little past and do the glance head move (like I just noticed them). Walk back and stand right next to the both of them sitting. I don't say "excuse me" or "sorry". I just go "hi". Pause. They stop talking and looking at me:
(I don't remember the exact responses, so just putting blah.)
"Having a good night? Enjoying the music?"
"Yes" "Yes"
"Well, I'm actually friends with the guitarists on stage. I'm just seeing how people like the music."
(blah)
"By the way, you girls have impeccable fashion tonight. I really like that."
(blah)
I then go into what kind of music they like and why. I ask them about what instruments they play if any. I ask them what instruments they would want to play (throwing in "harp" and "didgeridoo" which gets a laugh). I do some other light banter. They then say, "Wow, usually guys just come over and say, 'What's up?' You actually have interesting questions."
This makes me feel really good, so I take that hint and invite them over to my table. They say "yes" and come over. We all talk until the brewery closes (like 10 PM, not that late). I deep-dive, thread, etc. I made sure to keep the conversation moving and mainly focusing on them. Everyone seems to be enjoying themselves.
Well, it's late, and my buddies (and guitarists) decide to go to another bar. The girls say that they're out for tonight. For the one I was mainly talking with, I say we should trade contact information, but then she says she has a boyfriend. I'm pretty tipsy at this point and see that my friend hasn't made a move on the girl he's mainly been talking with, so I offer the same for him and her (later, not at the same time), but she also says she has a boyfriend. We end on good terms though, and I make a joke about it. Nothing awkward. We tell each other "nice meeting" and "have a fabulous night" and part ways.
So, not too bad. I wanted to approach some more girls that night, but the next bar had no girls (without a boyfriend holding their hands). This is why I dislike where I live... day game is the only game really.
My biggest problems last night:
- Didn't properly screen. I should have subtly asked about boyfriends
- Probably came in too friendly, when needs to be sexual
- I complimented them on looks, clothes, etc., but I did a horrible job on chase framing, sexual framing, and good flirting. I think the alcohol hurt me here, as I wasn't thinking "framing" at all. I was focused on conversation
