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Hello everyone. I have been reading the site for almost one year, but never really took much action. I come from a town of 100k, but I moved to a bigger city (2M) to go to university. I actually was in the city the previous year, but 6 months ago I decided to drop out from what I was studying and start something new this year. I didn't do much the previous year. Never approached a girl on the street. I only approached one girl in the gym and talked, talked on the train with a girl and asked her out, but she said she had a boyfriend. And that's pretty much it. I also went out once with the sole purpose to talk to girls, but obviously didn't do anything. When I returned to my home town, I didn't even try anything, I felt to intimidated in my town to approach and make a fool out of myself.
But now I'm back in the city and I said to myself before, that if I don't start doing something, I will never do it and die a virgin. Yes, I haven't had any experiences with girls yet. But if it wasn't for that, I would never find GirlsChase and never changed my point of view on girls and relationships. Thank you Chase Amante for creating this awesome website, although I don't know you, you are one of the most impactful people on my life.
So the great thing is I discovered the newbie assignment. I don't know how is it possible that I read so many articles, but didn't really read how to get started properly, so I googled how to get started and searched girlschase and found it. It's a brilliant idea with these small tasks and getting used to the routine. I have started exactly one week ago, when I've just moved in. The first day I've visited 2 shopping malls and was amazed at how many beatiful girls are out there.
The second day I almost didn't go out, didn't feel like it and it was kinda late when I went back from the gym. But I went out anyway, now it was time to focus on posture.
The day after that I decided to focus also on slow movements and facial expression. My default facial expression is kinda angry/sad, that day I walked with a little smile.
Overall it's been great to explore the city. In 3 days I have seen more places than the whole previous year. After that I decided to make eye contact with girls. But I really struggle with it, I feel a little intimidated when I make eye contact. The next day was a little better, when I was making eye contact I felt perfectly normal. I was even wondering if I really made eye contact, but it happened a few times so I guess I did.
Today was a little breakthrough to me, I said hi to a girl in the mall whom I didn't know. I mean it is a simple task, but it wasn't simple for me. I was in the gym in a shopping mall. I planned to go to another mall later when I got back from the gym and ate. But it was late and I wouldn't make it so I thought I'm already at a mall and there are a lot of girls so why don't I just stay there and eat later. The goal was to say hi to one girl. I did a round on the ground floor, passed by a few girls, didn't do anything and head out to the exit. When I was waiting for a bus and saw the traffic jam, I said screw it, I'm going back to the mall lol. So basically I was walking around for half an hour, passed a dozen of attractive girls. I told myself I'm not moving out of there until I say hi. If I broke that rule and went back home, how could I trust myself that I will do anything challenging in the future. So finally after half an hour of walking I said hi. She was turning to my side like wtf, but I already was passing her when she turned. This may be a really simple silly thing to do, but for my it was a great barrier. To think that I actually had a goal before to just straight approach girls - no wonder it never worked.
I have also noticed that my fundamentals are improving. On the bus back to my place, a girl smiled to me, some girl placed herself next to where I was sitting and looked at me, and one more girl I noticed looking at me. I don't maybe it was because I felt like the shit, and the girl smiling made me feel even better. Overall I have just felt so freaking awesome, I don't remember when was the last time I felt that good. So I really feel I made some progress in this week.
Also I had (sometimes still have) an issue with nervousness when walking on the street alone. By that I mean that my breathing is heavy. Of course it didn't happen all the time, but when it happened I couldn't control it and especially when I just went out. It's a thought pattern, go out - and the environment instantly reminds of that pattern. And each experience like that adds up and the pattern grows stronger. I know that you musn't focus on bad things, but it's harder than it sounds. But now when for the whole week I was focusing on my fundamentals, the pattern almost disappeared, because I wouldn't focus on it and now I'm walking with confidence most of the time.
The next thing to do on my list is to say hi to 6 girls in one outing. But I'm going back to my home town for the weekend and probably will attempt to do it on monday.
I don't know how often I will update that journal. I just want it to be a summary of my pickup life. I mean it would be nice to have a journal where the first entry was about a 20yo virgin struggling to say hi to girls and after a few years some advanced shit and get other people inspired. I'm not saying that it will be, words don't mean anything. For now I just want to focus on the small things that drive me to the bigger goal. I got some grit already, I know what it is like to follow a routine. I attended the gym regularly for 5 years (although my physique is not what you would expect when someone says he trains for 5 years). I just didn't really put much focus on the gym recently. What I put on extreme focus for the last 1.5 years is a software project I'm working on, so I get the idea of building something brick by brick and working hard with no reward in the hope that it will work one day (I'm going to be releasing it next month and hopefully reap the rewards). I was super excited at the beginning, but the excitement dropped over time, I even started to hate it sometimes - there have been days when I worked all day, 13-15 hours. However it become a habit, there was even a time when I had to force myself to not work and do something relaxing, unproductive. Hopefully I will also stick to pickup and always push myself forward.
But now I'm back in the city and I said to myself before, that if I don't start doing something, I will never do it and die a virgin. Yes, I haven't had any experiences with girls yet. But if it wasn't for that, I would never find GirlsChase and never changed my point of view on girls and relationships. Thank you Chase Amante for creating this awesome website, although I don't know you, you are one of the most impactful people on my life.
So the great thing is I discovered the newbie assignment. I don't know how is it possible that I read so many articles, but didn't really read how to get started properly, so I googled how to get started and searched girlschase and found it. It's a brilliant idea with these small tasks and getting used to the routine. I have started exactly one week ago, when I've just moved in. The first day I've visited 2 shopping malls and was amazed at how many beatiful girls are out there.
The second day I almost didn't go out, didn't feel like it and it was kinda late when I went back from the gym. But I went out anyway, now it was time to focus on posture.
The day after that I decided to focus also on slow movements and facial expression. My default facial expression is kinda angry/sad, that day I walked with a little smile.
Overall it's been great to explore the city. In 3 days I have seen more places than the whole previous year. After that I decided to make eye contact with girls. But I really struggle with it, I feel a little intimidated when I make eye contact. The next day was a little better, when I was making eye contact I felt perfectly normal. I was even wondering if I really made eye contact, but it happened a few times so I guess I did.
Today was a little breakthrough to me, I said hi to a girl in the mall whom I didn't know. I mean it is a simple task, but it wasn't simple for me. I was in the gym in a shopping mall. I planned to go to another mall later when I got back from the gym and ate. But it was late and I wouldn't make it so I thought I'm already at a mall and there are a lot of girls so why don't I just stay there and eat later. The goal was to say hi to one girl. I did a round on the ground floor, passed by a few girls, didn't do anything and head out to the exit. When I was waiting for a bus and saw the traffic jam, I said screw it, I'm going back to the mall lol. So basically I was walking around for half an hour, passed a dozen of attractive girls. I told myself I'm not moving out of there until I say hi. If I broke that rule and went back home, how could I trust myself that I will do anything challenging in the future. So finally after half an hour of walking I said hi. She was turning to my side like wtf, but I already was passing her when she turned. This may be a really simple silly thing to do, but for my it was a great barrier. To think that I actually had a goal before to just straight approach girls - no wonder it never worked.
I have also noticed that my fundamentals are improving. On the bus back to my place, a girl smiled to me, some girl placed herself next to where I was sitting and looked at me, and one more girl I noticed looking at me. I don't maybe it was because I felt like the shit, and the girl smiling made me feel even better. Overall I have just felt so freaking awesome, I don't remember when was the last time I felt that good. So I really feel I made some progress in this week.
Also I had (sometimes still have) an issue with nervousness when walking on the street alone. By that I mean that my breathing is heavy. Of course it didn't happen all the time, but when it happened I couldn't control it and especially when I just went out. It's a thought pattern, go out - and the environment instantly reminds of that pattern. And each experience like that adds up and the pattern grows stronger. I know that you musn't focus on bad things, but it's harder than it sounds. But now when for the whole week I was focusing on my fundamentals, the pattern almost disappeared, because I wouldn't focus on it and now I'm walking with confidence most of the time.
The next thing to do on my list is to say hi to 6 girls in one outing. But I'm going back to my home town for the weekend and probably will attempt to do it on monday.
I don't know how often I will update that journal. I just want it to be a summary of my pickup life. I mean it would be nice to have a journal where the first entry was about a 20yo virgin struggling to say hi to girls and after a few years some advanced shit and get other people inspired. I'm not saying that it will be, words don't mean anything. For now I just want to focus on the small things that drive me to the bigger goal. I got some grit already, I know what it is like to follow a routine. I attended the gym regularly for 5 years (although my physique is not what you would expect when someone says he trains for 5 years). I just didn't really put much focus on the gym recently. What I put on extreme focus for the last 1.5 years is a software project I'm working on, so I get the idea of building something brick by brick and working hard with no reward in the hope that it will work one day (I'm going to be releasing it next month and hopefully reap the rewards). I was super excited at the beginning, but the excitement dropped over time, I even started to hate it sometimes - there have been days when I worked all day, 13-15 hours. However it become a habit, there was even a time when I had to force myself to not work and do something relaxing, unproductive. Hopefully I will also stick to pickup and always push myself forward.
