Building a Amazing Social Circle
You're at work late one night with a cute girl and a male coworker. It's been 6 months you've worked there and you feel the girl likes you and you like her too. The male coworker you've had lunch with a few times and he is cool. The girl you've chatted with a few times and sometimes Boss puts both of you on a mission together.
That night you'd prefer to be at a bar or club cold approaching girls instead of doing paper work meh. Actually the goal is to get laid tonight but what if I told you there was a big opportunity right in front of you to get laid. Your male coworker, Syvon is a ladies man and is good friends with Biggie, the owner of the top club in town. And the lovely lady across from your work desk has loads of beautiful female friends she would set you up with if she knew you better...
( Disclaimer: This isn't to say you'll be meeting people in a way to use them to get something. You meet people to be interested in them and add VALUE TO THEIR LIVES. I had to point out this from early. At the same time I tell that story to show the posibilities of building a social circle. )
Many times I have asked how do I make friends?. I asked Chase, Colt, Franco and other board members and the answer remains ADD VALUE.......to narrow it down what I REALLY WANTED a answer to was how do I build a social circle? A strong one too and preferably multiple circles.
Over the summer I have done a bit of partying, I got work experience as a grade 1 teacher, and I went to a chuch camp 2 weeks ago. I have learnt a lot. I haven't reached as far as I want to build my social circle but its a start.
I will share with you what I learnt this summer and hopefully someone will benefit from my experience. Hopefully you will build your social circle faster.
What is a Social Circle?
According to Wikipedia dictionary, a social circle is a group of socially interconnected people. A social circle may be viewed from the perspective of an individual who is the locus of a particular group of socially interconnected people and from the perspective of a group as a cohesive unit.
The Value of Having Social Circles
In my opinion social circles keep people happy. I, personally get my happiness from interacting within a social circle. Once I know I am accepted I am happy. It brings about comfort knowing I am surrounded by lots of people, it's in everyone's blood. There is more to it than that. Back in ancient cave men days the strongest tribes were the ones with a lot of wealth, land, food and all the pleasures. Being ostracized was considered very dangerous because a man would be stripped of all his pleasures, if a man was ostracized from his tribe he would be eaten by the wild animals, starve to death and have little if any chance with women.
Social circles are vitally important to a man's wellbeing.
Point blank if you want to make dating easier then go out and make social circles. I have touched only the surface of doing this and trust me my social life has boomed. For instance when I went to camp 2 weeks ago, Western Bile Camp, I was new to 90% of the folks. Most people were already acqaninted. I had to carve out my niche so i socialized with everyone. Coming to the last two days of the week camp I realized I had made a good impression and I should keep contact with these persons. I spoke to a church Auntie. I suggested that a whatsapp group could be made for camp persons so we all keep in contact throughout the year. The following day I collected 100 plus contacts. About 60 of those new numbers were girls who I made a good impression on.
See the thing is I can pick, choose and refuse which girl to call and text. Note I didn't say date. Reason why is the camp was built up of churches from all around my country and 90% of those girls live way too far for me to meet up with.
You know what though? That doesn't bother me. Before coming to camp I thought I was going to be a laughing stock among those church girls and guys. I surprised myself and I'm proud. Remember sometimes when you reach half way and cant complete your goal, still be proud you PUSHED PAST YOUR COMFORT ZONE.
In part 2 I go more in detail on different types of social circles and how to build social circles.
Happiness is being socially connected
Ciao
Troy
You're at work late one night with a cute girl and a male coworker. It's been 6 months you've worked there and you feel the girl likes you and you like her too. The male coworker you've had lunch with a few times and he is cool. The girl you've chatted with a few times and sometimes Boss puts both of you on a mission together.
That night you'd prefer to be at a bar or club cold approaching girls instead of doing paper work meh. Actually the goal is to get laid tonight but what if I told you there was a big opportunity right in front of you to get laid. Your male coworker, Syvon is a ladies man and is good friends with Biggie, the owner of the top club in town. And the lovely lady across from your work desk has loads of beautiful female friends she would set you up with if she knew you better...
( Disclaimer: This isn't to say you'll be meeting people in a way to use them to get something. You meet people to be interested in them and add VALUE TO THEIR LIVES. I had to point out this from early. At the same time I tell that story to show the posibilities of building a social circle. )
Many times I have asked how do I make friends?. I asked Chase, Colt, Franco and other board members and the answer remains ADD VALUE.......to narrow it down what I REALLY WANTED a answer to was how do I build a social circle? A strong one too and preferably multiple circles.
Over the summer I have done a bit of partying, I got work experience as a grade 1 teacher, and I went to a chuch camp 2 weeks ago. I have learnt a lot. I haven't reached as far as I want to build my social circle but its a start.
I will share with you what I learnt this summer and hopefully someone will benefit from my experience. Hopefully you will build your social circle faster.
What is a Social Circle?
According to Wikipedia dictionary, a social circle is a group of socially interconnected people. A social circle may be viewed from the perspective of an individual who is the locus of a particular group of socially interconnected people and from the perspective of a group as a cohesive unit.
The Value of Having Social Circles
In my opinion social circles keep people happy. I, personally get my happiness from interacting within a social circle. Once I know I am accepted I am happy. It brings about comfort knowing I am surrounded by lots of people, it's in everyone's blood. There is more to it than that. Back in ancient cave men days the strongest tribes were the ones with a lot of wealth, land, food and all the pleasures. Being ostracized was considered very dangerous because a man would be stripped of all his pleasures, if a man was ostracized from his tribe he would be eaten by the wild animals, starve to death and have little if any chance with women.
Social circles are vitally important to a man's wellbeing.
Point blank if you want to make dating easier then go out and make social circles. I have touched only the surface of doing this and trust me my social life has boomed. For instance when I went to camp 2 weeks ago, Western Bile Camp, I was new to 90% of the folks. Most people were already acqaninted. I had to carve out my niche so i socialized with everyone. Coming to the last two days of the week camp I realized I had made a good impression and I should keep contact with these persons. I spoke to a church Auntie. I suggested that a whatsapp group could be made for camp persons so we all keep in contact throughout the year. The following day I collected 100 plus contacts. About 60 of those new numbers were girls who I made a good impression on.
See the thing is I can pick, choose and refuse which girl to call and text. Note I didn't say date. Reason why is the camp was built up of churches from all around my country and 90% of those girls live way too far for me to meet up with.
You know what though? That doesn't bother me. Before coming to camp I thought I was going to be a laughing stock among those church girls and guys. I surprised myself and I'm proud. Remember sometimes when you reach half way and cant complete your goal, still be proud you PUSHED PAST YOUR COMFORT ZONE.
In part 2 I go more in detail on different types of social circles and how to build social circles.
Happiness is being socially connected
Ciao
Troy
