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I'd like to say hello to everyone on the community 
. I've decided to register here to ask a question about a particular problem I have with a girl, however I also intend to invest some time on the forum later on . I hope starting out like that won't be considered too offensive.
I've stumbled across this website, due to a girl I'm trying to get together with. So I'd like to start by saying, that not having any experience nor knowledge I did everything wrong you could do wrong: I moved slowly, didn't make it sexual early, wasn't dominant enough, chased a bit too much, however, we always had a great time and really substantial emotional connection, I was playful, built value (probably too much) and didn't frame myself as a nice guy. I learned the lessons the hard way and I'm sure they will stick. Because looking backwards, it could have been so much easier. Despite those mistakes, I still made out with her and after that she initiated a long discussion (persisting really hard on getting answers, witch seemed wierd to me) we readily agreed, that we'll simply find out where it's going. However, her guards were up in any way possible. She barely invested, we didn't have much facetime nor sex yet. I tried to call her out and got some strange answers; however, when I said we maybe should just let it be, she reacted extremely emotionally. After that I stopped investing. Now suddenly (after one real meeting in 6 weeks since the kiss) she proposed that she doesn't feel enough to try it and we should just be friends. I said I wasn't interested in a friendship, because I see her as something else. Besides, I only lead close friendships, nothing like that. She got extremely mad, chased really hard after the friendship, but I was firm and we parted ways.
The long thinking time together with what she told me I more or less assume the story is the following: Her life is dominated by a guy she has a strange relationship with. They have contact every few months, constant fighting. It seems like she has really intense feelings for him, yet also know that it will never work out. When she told the story she showed very intense emotions, in a completely different manner than usual. Besides, she has some purely sexual things, where she refuses to create any kind of emotional intimacy. I obviously don't fit into this scheme, as a the guy I presented myself. And if she didn't have any feelings, she would have told me right away and I told her I didn't buy that reasoning.
In retrospect, I should have kissed her early on and had quick sex swept him of her feet and made her fall in love, nobody needs to explain that to me.And I know I shouldn't chase after her, but meet new girls.
Yet, there is also the fact that I'd love to give this a shot and I'm considering calling her out on this story. Do you think, that this would be a productive last move and if so now or after some time? Or should I just move on and give her time, because she has to come to this realisation herself?
. I've decided to register here to ask a question about a particular problem I have with a girl, however I also intend to invest some time on the forum later on . I hope starting out like that won't be considered too offensive.I've stumbled across this website, due to a girl I'm trying to get together with. So I'd like to start by saying, that not having any experience nor knowledge I did everything wrong you could do wrong: I moved slowly, didn't make it sexual early, wasn't dominant enough, chased a bit too much, however, we always had a great time and really substantial emotional connection, I was playful, built value (probably too much) and didn't frame myself as a nice guy. I learned the lessons the hard way and I'm sure they will stick. Because looking backwards, it could have been so much easier. Despite those mistakes, I still made out with her and after that she initiated a long discussion (persisting really hard on getting answers, witch seemed wierd to me) we readily agreed, that we'll simply find out where it's going. However, her guards were up in any way possible. She barely invested, we didn't have much facetime nor sex yet. I tried to call her out and got some strange answers; however, when I said we maybe should just let it be, she reacted extremely emotionally. After that I stopped investing. Now suddenly (after one real meeting in 6 weeks since the kiss) she proposed that she doesn't feel enough to try it and we should just be friends. I said I wasn't interested in a friendship, because I see her as something else. Besides, I only lead close friendships, nothing like that. She got extremely mad, chased really hard after the friendship, but I was firm and we parted ways.
The long thinking time together with what she told me I more or less assume the story is the following: Her life is dominated by a guy she has a strange relationship with. They have contact every few months, constant fighting. It seems like she has really intense feelings for him, yet also know that it will never work out. When she told the story she showed very intense emotions, in a completely different manner than usual. Besides, she has some purely sexual things, where she refuses to create any kind of emotional intimacy. I obviously don't fit into this scheme, as a the guy I presented myself. And if she didn't have any feelings, she would have told me right away and I told her I didn't buy that reasoning.
In retrospect, I should have kissed her early on and had quick sex swept him of her feet and made her fall in love, nobody needs to explain that to me.And I know I shouldn't chase after her, but meet new girls.
Yet, there is also the fact that I'd love to give this a shot and I'm considering calling her out on this story. Do you think, that this would be a productive last move and if so now or after some time? Or should I just move on and give her time, because she has to come to this realisation herself?
