Can I Rekindle After This Missed Escalation Window?

[lebronjames]

So, last semester I had a class with a stunning girl. About three weeks later I saw her in the library sitting alone. I went up to her and said, "hey aren't you in my class?" or something along those lines. Long story short, I sat with her for a bit and she got all anxious and started doing things like rolling around in her rolling chair and playing hoops with garbage paper and the bin. I knew it was on - except I didn't know how to handle her awkwardness. I guess because of ego, I was instantaneously turned off by her behavior, but was physically attracted immensely. After about 20 minutes of sitting next to her and ignoring her attention seeking, she left and asked for my number "to study."

Next class I texted her in the middle of it and said something like, "hey i haven't had lunch, how about we head out to get some food after." She had to be somewhere but said the following week was OK. To my expectancy, I caught her on our way out to class the following week and just said hi. She invited me to get food with her, but on our low-commitment mini-date, I realized that she was throwing me shit test after shit test (all of which were a breeze to pass because they were so obvious). Nonetheless, she was still acting a bit anxious and nervous like the first time I saw her in the library, and I didn't know how to handle it. I didn't feel like I could build any sexual tension or personal connection because, I guess, I didn't feel in control and her awkwardness was a distraction or throwing me off. Anyway, she asked me to drop her off at her car in which I missed an escalation window to at least kiss her but I didn't because ... it doesn't matter because at the end of the day my ego was too high (too good for her immaturity) or I was being a pussy. Either or both.

She texted me a few times to study later in the semester but we never ended up studying because I was never around when she texted me.

Now, it's a new semester with new cute girls in my classes. But, I saw this girl again in passing and I said hi. She said hi back but the look on her face, reminded me of the time when I caught her off guard in the library - kind of nervous but excited. I really want to have a sexual relationship with this girl but I'd like some "do's" and "don'ts" before I make further communication.

How should this be handled?
Can I text her?
I may run into her at the library again - should I wait for that time?
If I run into her again in passing, should I stop her?
Should I have a long or short conversation?

We haven't spoken in a while but I'm telling you, this girl makes me drop my jaw and drool - I want.

 

[ray_zorse]

It doesn't really sound to me like anything that bad has happened -- why do you think you missed an escalation window? Seems as if she's still interested, if anything she's slightly in chasing mode and you've been a bit aloof. Go ahead and text her to set something up, but be smart about it -- I'd try to break out of the "study buddy" frame by suggesting something off campus / non study related... such as heading out for a drink after a late class...? Make sure you've got your date plan sorted, like you'll grab a drink in this bar, then you'll sit in the park nearby on a rug and watch the sunset, then you'll invite her to cook food... whatever (I realize it may be winter where you are but the key point is to have a plan... you can adapt it as you go but you need logistics + a way to get her to the seduction location that's appropriate to time of day etc). Obviously, escalate within 10min of getting her alone, cos it sounds like you might not get a whole lot more chances at her.
-Ray

 

[lebronjames]

It doesn't really sound to me like anything that bad has happened -- why do you think you missed an escalation window? Seems as if she's still interested, if anything she's slightly in chasing mode and you've been a bit aloof. Go ahead and text her to set something up, but be smart about it -- I'd try to break out of the "study buddy" frame by suggesting something off campus / non study related... such as heading out for a drink after a late class...? Make sure you've got your date plan sorted, like you'll grab a drink in this bar, then you'll sit in the park nearby on a rug and watch the sunset, then you'll invite her to cook food... whatever (I realize it may be winter where you are but the key point is to have a plan... you can adapt it as you go but you need logistics + a way to get her to the seduction location that's appropriate to time of day etc). Obviously, escalate within 10min of getting her alone, cos it sounds like you might not get a whole lot more chances at her.
-Ray

She was a bit in chasing mode you could say. She was pulling more than I was and when I didn't escalate with her, she started acting cold towards me in the classroom and so I would sit next to another cute girl and other friends in the class more frequently and I guess that's why things never picked up again after that. Anyway, enough time has passed to give it another shot. But, I don't know how to go about it because I only saw her in passing.

Texting could work but I only saw her in passing. I feel if I were to text her, even though she may still be interested, it would look a bit desperate on my part considering she felt rejected from the first time around.

 

[ray_zorse]

Well what about ringing her by voice, try to rekindle some of the good feelings, if she seems to be responding okay say something like "I regretted having acted like a bit of a dick towards you, long story but I'd like to make it up to you by buying you a coffee..." (a + attainability move)... waiting till you bump into her around campus is just too chancey and waiting for the perfect moment just looks beta, you've got her number, use it, and make your own perfect moment...
-Ray