I do some online dating, and recently met a girl which had very good pictures up there. But when we became friends on facebook I got the full picture, and it seems like she is a bit fat, which I don't really find attractive. But she could be very hot without the extra kgs, and she is active on the training. I've already set up a date with her. Anyone been in this situation?
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When people change dramatically, their standards follow suit.
What that means is, if you get her while she's fat, and you get her to drop the weight, unless you also drop a lot of weight / pack on a lot of muscle, expect her to thank you for helping her lose weight by finding herself a more attractive man (that is, her dating options will go up as soon as she's more attractive, and the men she couldn't get before will now be interested in her).
Also... the general trend for women in relationships is to gain more weight, rather than lose it
When selecting someone for a relationship, only date a girl you can accept everything about. Nobody changes anything unless she decides to change it yourself, so if you go in thinking you're going to get her to change one thing and then it'll all be fine, you're going in with a mentality that's setting you up for barrels of disappointment. Assume that nothing will change, and decide if you're happy with her like that, or if you aren't.
Chase
What that means is, if you get her while she's fat, and you get her to drop the weight, unless you also drop a lot of weight / pack on a lot of muscle, expect her to thank you for helping her lose weight by finding herself a more attractive man (that is, her dating options will go up as soon as she's more attractive, and the men she couldn't get before will now be interested in her).
Also... the general trend for women in relationships is to gain more weight, rather than lose it
When selecting someone for a relationship, only date a girl you can accept everything about. Nobody changes anything unless she decides to change it yourself, so if you go in thinking you're going to get her to change one thing and then it'll all be fine, you're going in with a mentality that's setting you up for barrels of disappointment. Assume that nothing will change, and decide if you're happy with her like that, or if you aren't.
Chase
