can you get a gf or get laid if you live with parents, not financially stable?

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

Is it still possible?, any success stories of guys being able to get a cute, decent girlfriend or still get laid, have a sex life/dating life if you are not financially stable yet, live with parents? Because I recently turned 27 and i'm not financially stable yet, live with my parents.

I should introduce myself somewhat, and mention why I chose my username, it's because I still haven't officially had a girlfriend in my entire life, although I have been on dates and have had sex with a friend with benefits, lost my virginity at age 25, but I wasn't that strongly attracted to her, I lowered my standards in order to make it happen, I still have yet to do it with a girl i'm very strongly attracted to, so hopefully I can make the best of the rest of my 20's which I consider the last decade of my youth, although I wonder if early 30's still counts as youth.

Although the somewhat good news is that I have a friend of mine who is around my age, he lives in an apartment, he's not exactly financially stable yet either, he lives in an apartment, he told me that half of his rent is paid for by his parents, the other half he pays for himself, well his parents are kinda wealthy which he told me.
I haven't gotten the whole details about it, but me and him discussed recently about me possibly moving in with him, so we could be roommates and pitch in together, the only bad news is that my paycheck from my job would only be enough to pay for the rent for the apartment, I still wouldn't be completely financially responsible in the sense of paying for my insurance and cell phone bill, other bills, etc., but at least I would have some independence in terms of living outside of my parents house, but so far this is just me and him in the discussing, planning stages, like we haven't fully decided yet to be roommates. I do have a car at least, but anyway, the reason why i'm asking this is because I would not be comfortable having to put my dating life/sex life on hold since I am not getting any younger, don't want to waste the rest of my prime years.

So, anybody have success stores about this? and any other guys that were late bloomers when it came to success with women like me? I know it's wrong to not compare yourself to others, it just makes me feel better knowing I am not alone in this.

 

[ray_zorse]

Re: can you get a gf or get laid if you live with parents, not financially stabl

Think positive bro If you're determined to make it happen, and you work hard to make it happen, and you believe it will happen... then it will happen Just don't expect it to fall in your lap I can think of quite a few dudes here who live with parents and get laid regularly incl. at least one rank 3 member.

It's mostly a mindset thing. If not being independent, is a big thing for you, then it's likely to come out in your body language and phraseology, e.g. averting your eyes and pausing when asked what you do, women can smell this shit and zero in on it. OTOH there are guys who have never done much useful in their lives except sleep with millions of hot women and it isn't a problem cos they are rock solid in their frame... they know they are attractive, firmly in the lover category (no risk of women going after their pension fund cos they don't have one), refuse to qualify themselves to society's standards and genuinely have their priorities sorted... (do I want to be in the rat race slaving my arse off for 40+ years to pay for a nice house and car? nope. can I do without those things? yep. how would I like to spend my time? studying fellow human beings). See how this works? It's your inner game and frame that counts.

Having said all that... at your age women expect you to be at least moderately successful, or to be likely to become that way in the near future... I guess this is to do with dominance... a guy who takes charge is just expected to have his house in order. A guy who lives off his parents is seen as weak and supplicating, the opposite of dominant. So as part of your self improvement project... focus on becoming the dominant guy who has his house in order. Look for a better job... undertake some training... hell even turn one of your hobbies into an ebay business if you have a bit of time on your hands... you live in USA? how about buying Nike and Converse basketball boots in local stores and selling them to Australia where they cost three times the price? well I dunno if that's a viable business but it just illustrates "out of the box" thinking... do something!

As to logistics... well firstly living with your parents isn't a big deal, why don't you search the "Field Reports" board for "parents" to see how other guys have handled it... secondly before you go crazy moving in with your friend, pay some attention to logistics... is it close to where you plan to meet girls? half an hour away can be a big problem especially if you don't have a car which I imagine you don't... also maybe your friend would let you use his logistics even if u don't move in...

Maybe the new place has poor logistics but still significantly better than parents' place? Or maybe it's the other way around... or maybe it has kickin' logistics, a student apartment across from the central railway station for example... whatever, but what you need to do is a cost/benefit analysis, rent will be your biggest expense and an enormous weight on the "cost" side so unless you can afford it easily it had better be worth it, i.e. bringing big benefits in getting you laid.

I'd suggest you would be better off sticking with your current logistics and putting your meagre resources into fashion, boots, jewellery/accessories, cologne, gym and personal trainer fees, voice classes, haircuts/personal grooming, etc... I spent about $3000 to $4000 in my first month following GC and I was really only getting started, had to spend a similar amount again a few months later to expand my limited wardrobe to something more reasonable, and I was not buying particularly expensive items by local standards... $100 jeans, $65 shirts, $200 blazer, $100 shoes, $200 neck chain, $100 rings etc, it adds up quickly. Later after things settled and I had a dependable wardrobe, I could afford some luxuries like $250 cologne and $400 boots etc. Unfortunately, standing out from the crowd does not come cheap, unless you are exceptionally creative, determined and fashion savvy, these things you'll also develop but it does take time. You'll definitely have to splash some cash to get the ball rolling.

You'll also have a much better idea of what you are looking for in a seduction pad and a better and more motivated feeling about yourself once you get approaching women, all you need is one halfway decent outfit and you're good to go. Check the newbie assignment on these boards, go do it and report back

-Ray

Edit: One last note... if you spend 3 or 4 months practicing your conversation, dominant body language and social skills, dealing with shit tests, aproaching a shit ton of women etc, interviews should be a piece of cake so you'll prob be able to find a better job and improve your cash flow that way also.

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

Re: can you get a gf or get laid if you live with parents, not financially stabl

Think positive bro If you're determined to make it happen, and you work hard to make it happen, and you believe it will happen... then it will happen Just don't expect it to fall in your lap I can think of quite a few dudes here who live with parents and get laid regularly incl. at least one rank 3 member.

It's mostly a mindset thing. If not being independent, is a big thing for you, then it's likely to come out in your body language and phraseology, e.g. averting your eyes and pausing when asked what you do, women can smell this shit and zero in on it. OTOH there are guys who have never done much useful in their lives except sleep with millions of hot women and it isn't a problem cos they are rock solid in their frame... they know they are attractive, firmly in the lover category (no risk of women going after their pension fund cos they don't have one), refuse to qualify themselves to society's standards and genuinely have their priorities sorted... (do I want to be in the rat race slaving my arse off for 40+ years to pay for a nice house and car? nope. can I do without those things? yep. how would I like to spend my time? studying fellow human beings). See how this works? It's your inner game and frame that counts.

Having said all that... at your age women expect you to be at least moderately successful, or to be likely to become that way in the near future... I guess this is to do with dominance... a guy who takes charge is just expected to have his house in order. A guy who lives off his parents is seen as weak and supplicating, the opposite of dominant. So as part of your self improvement project... focus on becoming the dominant guy who has his house in order. Look for a better job... undertake some training... hell even turn one of your hobbies into an ebay business if you have a bit of time on your hands... you live in USA? how about buying Nike and Converse basketball boots in local stores and selling them to Australia where they cost three times the price? well I dunno if that's a viable business but it just illustrates "out of the box" thinking... do something!

As to logistics... well firstly living with your parents isn't a big deal, why don't you search the "Field Reports" board for "parents" to see how other guys have handled it... secondly before you go crazy moving in with your friend, pay some attention to logistics... is it close to where you plan to meet girls? half an hour away can be a big problem especially if you don't have a car which I imagine you don't... also maybe your friend would let you use his logistics even if u don't move in...

Maybe the new place has poor logistics but still significantly better than parents' place? Or maybe it's the other way around... or maybe it has kickin' logistics, a student apartment across from the central railway station for example... whatever, but what you need to do is a cost/benefit analysis, rent will be your biggest expense and an enormous weight on the "cost" side so unless you can afford it easily it had better be worth it, i.e. bringing big benefits in getting you laid.

I'd suggest you would be better off sticking with your current logistics and putting your meagre resources into fashion, boots, jewellery/accessories, cologne, gym and personal trainer fees, voice classes, haircuts/personal grooming, etc... I spent about $3000 to $4000 in my first month following GC and I was really only getting started, had to spend a similar amount again a few months later to expand my limited wardrobe to something more reasonable, and I was not buying particularly expensive items by local standards... $100 jeans, $65 shirts, $200 blazer, $100 shoes, $200 neck chain, $100 rings etc, it adds up quickly. Later after things settled and I had a dependable wardrobe, I could afford some luxuries like $250 cologne and $400 boots etc. Unfortunately, standing out from the crowd does not come cheap, unless you are exceptionally creative, determined and fashion savvy, these things you'll also develop but it does take time. You'll definitely have to splash some cash to get the ball rolling.

You'll also have a much better idea of what you are looking for in a seduction pad and a better and more motivated feeling about yourself once you get approaching women, all you need is one halfway decent outfit and you're good to go. Check the newbie assignment on these boards, go do it and report back

-Ray

Edit: One last note... if you spend 3 or 4 months practicing your conversation, dominant body language and social skills, dealing with shit tests, aproaching a shit ton of women etc, interviews should be a piece of cake so you'll prob be able to find a better job and improve your cash flow that way also.

I actually do have a car, been driving since I was 18

 

[RDawg]

Re: can you get a gf or get laid if you live with parents, not financially stabl

Is it still possible?, any success stories of guys being able to get a cute, decent girlfriend or still get laid, have a sex life/dating life if you are not financially stable yet, live with parents? Because I recently turned 27 and i'm not financially stable yet, live with my parents.

So, anybody have success stores about this? and any other guys that were late bloomers when it came to success with women like me? I know it's wrong to not compare yourself to others, it just makes me feel better knowing I am not alone in this.

Hey brother, I can speak for myself. I am in my early 20's and I still with my parents, yet I still have a great sex life. Actually, my main seduction location would be my parents basement. It's where I bring girls all the time when I am home. It's basically the only place I can escalate to sex too without having really an interference from my parents. I've got a decent set-up in the basement but by all means it's not perfect. If you would like more information, you could check out some of Lay reports or Field reports, as I usually mention my parents all the time and you can see the process that I follow. I actually recently mentioned a decent amount about them in my latest FR++x3 https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=9272

Hope this helps,

Rdawg

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

Re: can you get a gf or get laid if you live with parents, not financially stabl

Is it still possible?, any success stories of guys being able to get a cute, decent girlfriend or still get laid, have a sex life/dating life if you are not financially stable yet, live with parents? Because I recently turned 27 and i'm not financially stable yet, live with my parents.

So, anybody have success stores about this? and any other guys that were late bloomers when it came to success with women like me? I know it's wrong to not compare yourself to others, it just makes me feel better knowing I am not alone in this.

Hey brother, I can speak for myself. I am in my early 20's and I still with my parents, yet I still have a great sex life. Actually, my main seduction location would be my parents basement. It's where I bring girls all the time when I am home. It's basically the only place I can escalate to sex too without having really an interference from my parents. I've got a decent set-up in the basement but by all means it's not perfect. If you would like more information, you could check out some of Lay reports or Field reports, as I usually mention my parents all the time and you can see the process that I follow. I actually recently mentioned a decent amount about them in my latest FR++x3 https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=9272

Hope this helps,

Rdawg

great to hear, it's just I assume the age of a guy plays a factor in terms of being able to get laid if he still lives with his folks, or maybe i'm assuming wrong. Also, anybody know of any guys who didn't get laid, lose their v-card until 25+ years of age?

 

[RDawg]

Re: can you get a gf or get laid if you live with parents, not financially stabl

FeelIWastedMyYouth

great to hear, it's just I assume the age of a guy plays a factor in terms of being able to get laid if he still lives with his folks, or maybe i'm assuming wrong. [.quote]

I don't feel like age plays much of a factor at all. I actually have a good friend who is 31 years old and he still lives with his parents. He just got a girlfriend about 4 months ago and I know he spent most of time hanging out at her place. Actually, he just bought a condo with his girlfriend and they are moving into together sometime in April. Before, he got this girlfriend he had a relationship that lasted about 8 years and then he experienced a hard break up. But got back into the scene and was able to still get women once in a while, even though he lived with his parents. So, to answer that, if your looking to just get "laid", living with your folks shouldn't necessarily affect you.

Rdawg

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

Re: can you get a gf or get laid if you live with parents, not financially stabl

FeelIWastedMyYouth

great to hear, it's just I assume the age of a guy plays a factor in terms of being able to get laid if he still lives with his folks, or maybe i'm assuming wrong. [.quote]

I don't feel like age plays much of a factor at all. I actually have a good friend who is 31 years old and he still lives with his parents. He just got a girlfriend about 4 months ago and I know he spent most of time hanging out at her place. Actually, he just bought a condo with his girlfriend and they are moving into together sometime in April. Before, he got this girlfriend he had a relationship that lasted about 8 years and then he experienced a hard break up. But got back into the scene and was able to still get women once in a while, even though he lived with his parents. So, to answer that, if your looking to just get "laid", living with your folks shouldn't necessarily affect you.

Rdawg

awesome, same thing with casual dating? like I would like to date girls, but in a casual way

 

[Man-O]

Re: can you get a gf or get laid if you live with parents, not financially stabl

Got the first lay like a bit over half a year ago and I'm still the same age (24). She was the first one I got to make dove-eyes after me when I left. She flaked on my text as I did n-close her. Met her a second time the same place 2 months later and she was still pretty much into me. Ended up with me getting home to her place by saying I'll give her massage but no sex. Ofc she had an ugly girl friend who tried to cb but she got dismissed by her as she felt very secure around me. I remember qualification did a lot in this incident.

I can only tell you logistics mean a lot. I've seen tons of guys now I know who has much worse game than me but they're getting lays unlike me since they got a flat in the city and so have great opportunity to use tinder as well.
I can't even lay the girls outside in alleys or parks as it's pretty cold in DK atm. (even doing it in a car with carpet etc.) And I am definetly not taking a girl home in my car to my parents'. Would simply make it too awkward. Instead I just get the training I can get in n-closing and trying to get ons by the girls' place or on the toilet (though I've alrdy been thrown out one place do to tagging a girl with me on a toilet).

I know my friend (Rfriend) who also lives by parents did take a girl whole the way home for a cab fare that's like 30$ just to fck her.

 

[ILoveElla]

Re: can you get a gf or get laid if you live with parents, not financially stabl

Go up to the gal and say "Hi, I'm FeelIWastedMyYouth, do ya wanna come home ta ma place for a bloody good time". Hey, nothing's better than being able to laugh at your own situation. That's what us Irish are good at.

I remember I'd a username once called StrugglingSoul, which at least had a bit of humor(at my expense, the way I like it) and assonance to it. But your username... well it's just too much of a 'call a spade a spade' type thing! You've gotta being more tasteful with that mate

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

Re: can you get a gf or get laid if you live with parents, not financially stabl

Go up to the gal and say "Hi, I'm FeelIWastedMyYouth, do ya wanna come home ta ma place for a bloody good time". Hey, nothing's better than being able to laugh at your own situation. That's what us Irish are good at.

I remember I'd a username once called StrugglingSoul, which at least had a bit of humor(at my expense, the way I like it) and assonance to it. But your username... well it's just too much of a 'call a spade a spade' type thing! You've gotta being more tasteful with that mate

As in be more enthusiastic?

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

Re: can you get a gf or get laid if you live with parents, not financially stabl

well what do you know, I actually find an article posted from April of last year about a 27 year old guy that lives with his parents, interesting, but I love how he says get started right now, ya because I would not want to put my dating life or sex life on hold:https://www.girlschase.com/content/when-should-you-start-right-now

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

Re: can you get a gf or get laid if you live with parents, not financially stabl

anybody know of any other guys in their late 20's and older who are able to get laid despite not being financially stable yet, live with parents?