There's a bit of an adage that if you cancel the date yourself the woman will feel like she has to have you even more.
Similar to you communicating how super busy you are and giving her a hard time to fit her in.
It's also been said on these boards.
It makes sense and it might be true, in certain occasion, especially if you had sex with woman already.
But it's far from a general rule you can apply to most scenarios and in my experience, for first dates, I can't remember once when it worked.
I never used it on purpose, but when I was too busy and couldn't find a spot for the woman in reasonable time frames, she lost faith it was going to happen and replied much slower or stopped replying. And now I was in the chasing position.
When, again not on purpose, I had to cancel on the same day, the woman was more focused on showing herself not available than giving me free slots options.
An example of the latter case happend just last week: I knew the woman was a bit of a fiery one with an ego (how I teased it out is very interesting too but doesn't fit here), and that's the high risk you'll encounter: rather than putting them in a position to chase you, you (also) put them in a position they want to get back at you, which is a bad dynamic if you don't have a strong leverage yet. And emotions being fleeting, you'll rarely have a strong leverage if you haven't properly met once yet and/or haven't had sex yet, even if your first impression was very positive.
Compound to that the obvious risk they'll auto-reject, and I'd say that as a general rule of thumb, not canceling the date and being flexible to make it happen -but without communicating to her of course you're doing your best to make it happen!- is the safest way to go.
Remember, if your goal is to meet her in person, then why would you play too many unneeded (phones) games once the date has been scheduled or once she's giving your her free slots to make it happen?
Exactly, just don't
Similar to you communicating how super busy you are and giving her a hard time to fit her in.
It's also been said on these boards.
It makes sense and it might be true, in certain occasion, especially if you had sex with woman already.
But it's far from a general rule you can apply to most scenarios and in my experience, for first dates, I can't remember once when it worked.
I never used it on purpose, but when I was too busy and couldn't find a spot for the woman in reasonable time frames, she lost faith it was going to happen and replied much slower or stopped replying. And now I was in the chasing position.
When, again not on purpose, I had to cancel on the same day, the woman was more focused on showing herself not available than giving me free slots options.
An example of the latter case happend just last week: I knew the woman was a bit of a fiery one with an ego (how I teased it out is very interesting too but doesn't fit here), and that's the high risk you'll encounter: rather than putting them in a position to chase you, you (also) put them in a position they want to get back at you, which is a bad dynamic if you don't have a strong leverage yet. And emotions being fleeting, you'll rarely have a strong leverage if you haven't properly met once yet and/or haven't had sex yet, even if your first impression was very positive.
Compound to that the obvious risk they'll auto-reject, and I'd say that as a general rule of thumb, not canceling the date and being flexible to make it happen -but without communicating to her of course you're doing your best to make it happen!- is the safest way to go.
Remember, if your goal is to meet her in person, then why would you play too many unneeded (phones) games once the date has been scheduled or once she's giving your her free slots to make it happen?
Exactly, just don't
