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VinM

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Hey there, this is gonna be a little field report, but also I would like your point of view, because this kinda confused me:

So, I had this girl I met through dating app. We were chatting back and forth, having a call. And one day, she texts me that she got time off from work, so I arrange a date. Few minutes later, she blocks me.

Fast forward, she unblocks me a month later, and is totally different. No longer a friendly banter, we begin flirting off the bat, escalating, she starts sending me underwear pics showing her ass, we talk more about sexual stuff (at this stage I already know, that she is open to something more on the first date). This time we agree to meet up. I walk around with her from place to place, have a coffee and a little chat, then we begin to kiss. She invites me home and we get it off no problem. One hour after sex I tell her that I need to get back home because I work tomorrow (we are from different cities). She offers me to go with me to the station, explains that she blocked me back then because she was scared but in my mind I called it bullshit, and starts asking me questions about relationship.

Till this day, I can't really explain this situation. From the first moment, I realized that she must be anxious attachment from the way she worried when I haven't texted back for a long time. But I can't really explain what changed her behaviour from being paranoid meeting up to being totally open to it+open to having sex on the first date.
 
a good date brings a smile to your lips... and hers

Beck Bass

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Can't get inside a girl's (or anyone or thing, for that matter), really, so no point stressing about "the truth".

In post, you can see that in the end she wanted you to fuck her, so maybe it was all tactics, to seem higher value. Maybe she blocked you to see if you would flip out and act like a violent moron (maybe some guy did that to her before), or just to signal that she can leave at any moment or something, dunno.

Maybe she was a really normie prudish girl and something in that month made her say "screw it, let's just live in the moment and do what I feel like doing". It really could be a million things.

But props on getting the lay after being blocked, not that common, at least in my experience (I can be very forward with girls and got blocked numerous times, they would act friendly and interested if they saw me IRL again but in general they wouldn't unblock me and comply via text without any "live" interaction, so I'm guessing it's really something changed for her, or she was playing games).
 

TomInHo

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Could be anything really. She might be borderline, she might have hooked up with another dude then swung back to you when it fizzled out, it could be she was playing games

Don’t think too hard about it and keep seeing her if you like and the real truth should reveal itself over time
 

VinM

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Can't get inside a girl's (or anyone or thing, for that matter), really, so no point stressing about "the truth".

In post, you can see that in the end she wanted you to fuck her, so maybe it was all tactics, to seem higher value. Maybe she blocked you to see if you would flip out and act like a violent moron (maybe some guy did that to her before), or just to signal that she can leave at any moment or something, dunno.

Maybe she was a really normie prudish girl and something in that month made her say "screw it, let's just live in the moment and do what I feel like doing". It really could be a million things.

But props on getting the lay after being blocked, not that common, at least in my experience (I can be very forward with girls and got blocked numerous times, they would act friendly and interested if they saw me IRL again but in general they wouldn't unblock me and comply via text without any "live" interaction, so I'm guessing it's really something changed for her, or she was playing games).
Yeah, I guess that's most likely what happened. Maybe some type of test that I didn't knew I passed by not lashing out or anything. It was just a really unexplainable ride, from her blocking me, to her wanting more in bed, to her wanting more relationship wise.
Could be anything really. She might be borderline, she might have hooked up with another dude then swung back to you when it fizzled out, it could be she was playing games

Don’t think too hard about it and keep seeing her if you like and the real truth should reveal itself over time
This one maybe was 50/50 on BPD, but I knew bpds that were utter crazy unpredictable lunatics. This one was pretty predictable expect for this situation. Unfortunately, she wanted to rush things towards relationship, but I wasn't too keen on that. She got someone else now, so I let it be.
 
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