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I've been going out quite a bit lately and have been meaning to start one of these, so why not start with the events last night?
I noticed last night that I do not like to pick up girls on the dance floor. Strange considering that in my 18-23 age that's about all I tried to do, but it never worked well. Coincidence? I think not. When I read one of Chase's articles that discouraged trying to pick up girls who were dancing, it all made more sense. This doesn't mean I don't like to dance, however my buddy and I jumped out of that bar and went to a place with seating that was more casual...
Approach #1
It was really crowded by the bar area so I told my friend that we should dive right into all that mess. We spotted three girls, one of which was talking to a guy, and the other two were speaking between themselves. Yay! Perfect. My friend hangs back and I approach the two girls and ask them if their friend with the guy has just found love at the club (I decided to go with a situational opener). Turns out it was her boyfriend but we ask the two girls if they are single and they say yes. I tell the gorgeous brunette I'm interested in that the real reason I came up to them was to tell her how pretty she looked in her dress. She thanked me and smiled. We chatted for a bit but we were having trouble hearing so I suggested we move to sit down. The brunette told me that they did not want to leave her friend and I replied, I'm sure your friend will be able to find you and smiled. She then replied that clubs were not meant for sitting...ugh I hate when they resist, so I just gave up. We said it was nice to meet them and moved on. My friend seemed very confused why we were moving on, but I know if they won't move with us they probably weren't that into us. I didn't go for the digits because Ive just had too many flaky numbers recently and so I am in a bitter state right now.
Approach #2
We go to the patio but every time we try to sit down someone says the seats are taken. Its getting embarrassing at this point when finally an extremely cute girl sitting down says there are some seats right over here and points to the table next to them. We sit down and after a few songs I decide its time to open the group (its 2 girls and one guy). I opened the guy at the table who I was closest to and he seemed very friendly. The guy was with the other girl, not the cute one I was interested in. We chatted for a bit and they were friendly but it felt awkward because of the spacing. It felt like we were outsiders and never truly into the conversation even though we chimed in a few times. So once again we said it was nice to meet them, and went back inside. I didn't chat up the cute girl enough to really justify getting her digits..again I was sure the digits would probably not yield anything.
Where I screwed up royally was not asking if we could join their table...they had space too. Not doing this created the awkwardness that made my friend and I feel like outsiders in their conversations. Also, the cute girl clearly was keeping tabs on us and then proceeded to point us to open seats. She could have just been nice, but it seems to me that this was her way of showing interest...not happy with myself for not pursuing this harder.
Approach #3
We saw a group of guys and girls (more girls than guys) standing together and chatting. My eyes caught a beautiful latina in a very sexy striped dress. I walked up to the group and introduced myself, and immediately realized it wasn't my best opener. This didn't matter because I had enough social momentum and I bounced back pretty quickly. I chat up the latina and tell her she looks fantastic in her dress. Then we talk about where she lives and what she does. Turns out she lives very far from me and so I told her I would ask for her number but the logistics just weren't there. She agreed and again I said it was nice to meet her and leave the club.
I'm not sure if I am giving up early on these girls. One thing I know for sure is that I am clearly not getting blown out. Another thing that will haunt me was not getting any numbers. It really can't hurt me just to grab them even if they do end up leading to nowhere.
I need to approach more girls next time (at least 5) and also take a couple goals to work on. I am not sure what these will be just yet.
Thanks for reading. There will be much more to come.
Regards,
CB
I noticed last night that I do not like to pick up girls on the dance floor. Strange considering that in my 18-23 age that's about all I tried to do, but it never worked well. Coincidence? I think not. When I read one of Chase's articles that discouraged trying to pick up girls who were dancing, it all made more sense. This doesn't mean I don't like to dance, however my buddy and I jumped out of that bar and went to a place with seating that was more casual...
Approach #1
It was really crowded by the bar area so I told my friend that we should dive right into all that mess. We spotted three girls, one of which was talking to a guy, and the other two were speaking between themselves. Yay! Perfect. My friend hangs back and I approach the two girls and ask them if their friend with the guy has just found love at the club (I decided to go with a situational opener). Turns out it was her boyfriend but we ask the two girls if they are single and they say yes. I tell the gorgeous brunette I'm interested in that the real reason I came up to them was to tell her how pretty she looked in her dress. She thanked me and smiled. We chatted for a bit but we were having trouble hearing so I suggested we move to sit down. The brunette told me that they did not want to leave her friend and I replied, I'm sure your friend will be able to find you and smiled. She then replied that clubs were not meant for sitting...ugh I hate when they resist, so I just gave up. We said it was nice to meet them and moved on. My friend seemed very confused why we were moving on, but I know if they won't move with us they probably weren't that into us. I didn't go for the digits because Ive just had too many flaky numbers recently and so I am in a bitter state right now.
Approach #2
We go to the patio but every time we try to sit down someone says the seats are taken. Its getting embarrassing at this point when finally an extremely cute girl sitting down says there are some seats right over here and points to the table next to them. We sit down and after a few songs I decide its time to open the group (its 2 girls and one guy). I opened the guy at the table who I was closest to and he seemed very friendly. The guy was with the other girl, not the cute one I was interested in. We chatted for a bit and they were friendly but it felt awkward because of the spacing. It felt like we were outsiders and never truly into the conversation even though we chimed in a few times. So once again we said it was nice to meet them, and went back inside. I didn't chat up the cute girl enough to really justify getting her digits..again I was sure the digits would probably not yield anything.
Where I screwed up royally was not asking if we could join their table...they had space too. Not doing this created the awkwardness that made my friend and I feel like outsiders in their conversations. Also, the cute girl clearly was keeping tabs on us and then proceeded to point us to open seats. She could have just been nice, but it seems to me that this was her way of showing interest...not happy with myself for not pursuing this harder.
Approach #3
We saw a group of guys and girls (more girls than guys) standing together and chatting. My eyes caught a beautiful latina in a very sexy striped dress. I walked up to the group and introduced myself, and immediately realized it wasn't my best opener. This didn't matter because I had enough social momentum and I bounced back pretty quickly. I chat up the latina and tell her she looks fantastic in her dress. Then we talk about where she lives and what she does. Turns out she lives very far from me and so I told her I would ask for her number but the logistics just weren't there. She agreed and again I said it was nice to meet her and leave the club.
I'm not sure if I am giving up early on these girls. One thing I know for sure is that I am clearly not getting blown out. Another thing that will haunt me was not getting any numbers. It really can't hurt me just to grab them even if they do end up leading to nowhere.
I need to approach more girls next time (at least 5) and also take a couple goals to work on. I am not sure what these will be just yet.
Thanks for reading. There will be much more to come.
Regards,
CB
