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This happened a couple days ago. This night turned out to be a somewhat chaotic night for me. I came close to pulling about 3 times with different girls but I just had terrible luck
I decided to go out to my local college bar and end up running into a friend and joining his group. We pregamed for a bit and decided to hit the first bar. We spent time just socializing and playing pool in this bar and right before we left, I opened this group of girls sitting by the pool table. I had had my eyes on one of them (girl A) the entire time we were at the bar but didn't have the courage/momentum to open. I said hey to the group, my friend comes in and starts talking to the two of the girls and I discreetly move over to my target.
Me: "Actually came over to talk to you. what's your name?" (with piercing eye contact and a smirk, almost)
Her: "I'm <name>"
Me: "How you doing?"
Her: "Actually pretty terrible. It's been a long day"
Me: "Maybe I turn your night around then"
She gets a bit curious but I leave an open loop and we talk about our majors, which i qualify her on (she seemed really smart, which i like) and i grabbed her number
At this point, my friends and i move to a bigger bar with more of a club vibe. At some point, I see this girl (girl B) that I've sorta been talking to. We only ever meet at this bar and she's bad at texting so I only ever see her at this one bar. I open and tease her about how elusive she is. She gives excuses about how she's dealing with school and friends etc. We continue talking and she suddenly says she has to leave to look for her friend(she's usually with a big friend group so this always happens). I let her go and continue dancing with my friends. At this point, I had gotten a text from the first girl (girl A) asking if i went home already. I saw the texts about 15 minutes too late and i responded but never got a response. At some point in the night, I called and she said she would text me (which of course she never did lol)
After a while, I catch a glimpse of girl B talking to this other guy. I correctly guess that he belongs to her social circle and they have some sort of history. He seems to be chasing her and she seems neutral so I'm not super concerned. However, according to her friend, they're on and off and in close proximity since they kind of work together and have a lot of mutual friends which leaves me at a disadvantage regardless. She leaves him for a while to dance with her friends and I swoop in, take her hand, spin her around and we start dancing. Things are going well but she suddenly says she has to leave because of "friend drama". I look behind me and it's the other guy with her friends waiting for her. Right before she leaves, I have a window to kiss her and "claim" her in front of the other guy but I decide not to because her friends were there and I didn't want to trigger ASD. (I'm starting to think this is not as much of a problem in college since girls make out with strangers in front of their friends here all the time). Thoughts?
At this point, I figure I've lost my chance with her at least for that night since I doubt the other guy would leave her side now that he's seen me (I was right)
I leave the dancefloor where I see my next memorable target, girl C, sitting with her friend by the fireplace. I had seen this girl give me eye contact earlier on the dance floor but I didn't feel like approaching at the time. They look to be in deep discussion so I open with:
"Are you guys having a serious conversation?"
Her friend: "Kind of, you should come join us"
I sit down, say hey and go:
"So what are we talking about?"
The girls look high/drunk so the conversation is a bit all over the place which wasn't so bad since I needed to just chill and have fun at this point. I'm giving off a very high value, non-needy vibe as we talk about relationships. My girl mentions she's not emotionally available at the moment to which I say "same here" and I mention how I'm just trying to put myself first and enjoy being single (hoping to spark the same vibe in her). She goes to use the bathroom for a bit and her friend says "She's very into you. Just don't blow it up". Tbh, shout out to the friend, she was winging hard and even made my girl get my contact. Her friend also says:
"By the way, you won't be getting any tonight so keep that in mind"
I respond with:
"Nothing has to happen tonight. I'm always down for just an adventure and a good time"
This really hits with the girls and gets them giggling. We talk a bit more and they say they have leave to do some more drugs after which we ended up parting ways. In hindsight, I probably should have left with them. This seemed like my most promising set yet. I was just afraid of committing too early to a set that might not go anywhere. As always, the contact information goes no where and I lose the set.
After this, I talk to some more girls, none of which go anywhere and I'm pretty much out of luck as all the other girls in the club look coupled up or re about to leave.
I feel like I had at least 2 solid chances of pulling here. Is there anything I could have done better?
I decided to go out to my local college bar and end up running into a friend and joining his group. We pregamed for a bit and decided to hit the first bar. We spent time just socializing and playing pool in this bar and right before we left, I opened this group of girls sitting by the pool table. I had had my eyes on one of them (girl A) the entire time we were at the bar but didn't have the courage/momentum to open. I said hey to the group, my friend comes in and starts talking to the two of the girls and I discreetly move over to my target.
Me: "Actually came over to talk to you. what's your name?" (with piercing eye contact and a smirk, almost)
Her: "I'm <name>"
Me: "How you doing?"
Her: "Actually pretty terrible. It's been a long day"
Me: "Maybe I turn your night around then"
She gets a bit curious but I leave an open loop and we talk about our majors, which i qualify her on (she seemed really smart, which i like) and i grabbed her number
At this point, my friends and i move to a bigger bar with more of a club vibe. At some point, I see this girl (girl B) that I've sorta been talking to. We only ever meet at this bar and she's bad at texting so I only ever see her at this one bar. I open and tease her about how elusive she is. She gives excuses about how she's dealing with school and friends etc. We continue talking and she suddenly says she has to leave to look for her friend(she's usually with a big friend group so this always happens). I let her go and continue dancing with my friends. At this point, I had gotten a text from the first girl (girl A) asking if i went home already. I saw the texts about 15 minutes too late and i responded but never got a response. At some point in the night, I called and she said she would text me (which of course she never did lol)
After a while, I catch a glimpse of girl B talking to this other guy. I correctly guess that he belongs to her social circle and they have some sort of history. He seems to be chasing her and she seems neutral so I'm not super concerned. However, according to her friend, they're on and off and in close proximity since they kind of work together and have a lot of mutual friends which leaves me at a disadvantage regardless. She leaves him for a while to dance with her friends and I swoop in, take her hand, spin her around and we start dancing. Things are going well but she suddenly says she has to leave because of "friend drama". I look behind me and it's the other guy with her friends waiting for her. Right before she leaves, I have a window to kiss her and "claim" her in front of the other guy but I decide not to because her friends were there and I didn't want to trigger ASD. (I'm starting to think this is not as much of a problem in college since girls make out with strangers in front of their friends here all the time). Thoughts?
At this point, I figure I've lost my chance with her at least for that night since I doubt the other guy would leave her side now that he's seen me (I was right)
I leave the dancefloor where I see my next memorable target, girl C, sitting with her friend by the fireplace. I had seen this girl give me eye contact earlier on the dance floor but I didn't feel like approaching at the time. They look to be in deep discussion so I open with:
"Are you guys having a serious conversation?"
Her friend: "Kind of, you should come join us"
I sit down, say hey and go:
"So what are we talking about?"
The girls look high/drunk so the conversation is a bit all over the place which wasn't so bad since I needed to just chill and have fun at this point. I'm giving off a very high value, non-needy vibe as we talk about relationships. My girl mentions she's not emotionally available at the moment to which I say "same here" and I mention how I'm just trying to put myself first and enjoy being single (hoping to spark the same vibe in her). She goes to use the bathroom for a bit and her friend says "She's very into you. Just don't blow it up". Tbh, shout out to the friend, she was winging hard and even made my girl get my contact. Her friend also says:
"By the way, you won't be getting any tonight so keep that in mind"
I respond with:
"Nothing has to happen tonight. I'm always down for just an adventure and a good time"
This really hits with the girls and gets them giggling. We talk a bit more and they say they have leave to do some more drugs after which we ended up parting ways. In hindsight, I probably should have left with them. This seemed like my most promising set yet. I was just afraid of committing too early to a set that might not go anywhere. As always, the contact information goes no where and I lose the set.
After this, I talk to some more girls, none of which go anywhere and I'm pretty much out of luck as all the other girls in the club look coupled up or re about to leave.
I feel like I had at least 2 solid chances of pulling here. Is there anything I could have done better?
