This something George Clooney said (Brad Pitt level Charisma)
Hey, this is Einstein. I guess he's part cocker spaniel or something. I got him out of a shelter about a year and a half ago. I was looking for a dog because I hadn't had one for a while — and I wanted one that was house-trained. I'm just terrible at house-training dogs.
So I go online and see Einstein. They had a whole film about him. It was actually really sweet. You see him all beat up and shit in the shelter, and they show how they cleaned him up. God, I love this dog. So I called and said, "I like Einstein!"
The woman goes, "Well, we don't know if Einstein will like you."
"Well, can I meet with Einstein?"
"Yes, we'll bring him to your house, but if he doesn't like you, he can't stay. We have to have good homes for these dogs." She sounded very serious.
Okay. I have this really long driveway, and I open the gate for them, and I start to panic that Einstein is not going to like me. So I run into the kitchen, where I have these turkey meatballs, and I rub them all over my shoes.
This woman opens the door, and who knew Einstein was such a food whore on top of everything? He throws himself at my feet.
She says, "I've never seen him react like that, ever!" And she left him with me on the spot. And forever, now, he just thinks of me as the guy with meatball feet. He loves me. I can do no wrong. He follows me everywhere.
Read the cover story from the January Meaning of Life 2012 issue
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Cool? Charisma?
Cool is not natural or effortless, it's intentional and calculated.
It just
looks natural and effortless. (I'd talk about the differences between soul and rock and roll here, but folks might miss the point)
Knowing that, on our quest to be cool, we have to realize that the coolest people in the world - are clear on what sort of emotional experience they want to deliver and then very polished in doing so. This is especially true of the coolest people on the planet, artists.
Which means, there is no trick, no tip, no hack, no secret ninja scroll.
It's very very hard work. It's being intentional in mind, but also in action.
In the example, George Clooney deeply understands PEOPLE. He knows how the dog would react, but he's gambling on the woman's reaction to the dog's reaction.
So you might not think of rubbing meatballs on your shoes to attract animals, but you will be more intentional in what you do, because you're thinking about how it will be received.
And the thing with the Clooney bit, he's not saying or doing anything to the woman, to come off as charismatic - she's discovering it via the dog - which he is manipulating. He's able to pass this story off as something funny that he did to impress a dog woman and a dog - and in that way we are further impressed by Clooney. What he's doing is actually manipulative, but we don't think of it that way.
There are layers and layers to this stuff.
So if you want to impress Person A, you need to deal with Person's B and C in their presence.
Let Person A
discover who you are/your coolness through reactions of persons B and C. Your charisma in cool is not in your effect on Person A, but on everyone else.
This part of the reason why Group Game, handling a chick's friends, handling competition, dealing with staff and 3rd parties is much more powerful than going one on one with a chick.
WIA
