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Cheated on her boyfriend with me, now he found out

AfterMath

Space Monkey
space monkey
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Hey guys, I'm gonna try to keep this as short as possible. I started seeing this girl a couple of weeks after she broke up, we went on multiple dates and I slept with her most times. Around a month after we first started seeing each other, she got back with her boyfriend (initially without me knowing) but we continued dating for a few more weeks. A couple of weeks ago she told me she didn't want to date anymore and never really told me straight up why, but I knew it had something to do with the boyfriend, so I just let it go and cut off contact completely from that point on. Now, a few days ago i find out from someone who's in her social circle that her bf somehow found out that she cheated on him and is threatening to break up. By the look of things, she is desperately trying to get him to forgive her and regain his trust to save the relationship.

Now here's the question...
I want to make a move on her again in the future if she truly does end up getting dumped, but if I'm essentially the "cause" of her breakup, will she tie the bad feelings of a break-up to me and not want anything to do with me?
In other words, will she indirectly "blame" me for the break-up and feel anger towards me?
 
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Cro-Magnon Man
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Dec 20, 2012
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As a person who's experienced both sides of cheating, I think that this girl could go with you as long as you remain non-judgmental and don't criticize her about it. However, what do you want with this girl? Do you want her as a casual fling, or a girlfriend? Because if it is the later, I'd use caution. That's not to say don't date her ever again, but right now she seems unsure about what she wants. The challenge for you is going to be remaining in contact with her w/o seeming needy. Then removing the negative memories she attached to you if she has them. (But really she cheated on her bf, not you). There's a quote that girls love about how you should always pick the second guy bc if she went for him, the girl truly didn't love the guy she was with. Maybe you can use that to turn a negative feeling into a closer positive feeling.
 

Tyme2k

Cro-Magnon Man
Cro-Magnon Man
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Isn't what you're asking theoretical anyways? Who knows maybe she will initiate with you after the breakup... Your best bet is to get more high quality women in your life and not settle for the easy rebound lay again.
 
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