I checked out a new club tonight. I set myself a fairly gentle target of going there for a few hours, seeing the room and approaching three girls and asking them to move with me. I did talk to three girls, but one of them opened me. I also only asked one of them to move. That was a bit disappointing, although I did stay for the time I allocated.
The bright side is I went, stayed out and continued getting comfortable with being out alone. I've also found a great venue that I'll be coming back to. The place ticked off most of Chase's criteria for a good venue.
1. The girls were very cute. Almost every single girl I saw was attractive
2. It played house music (I think...electronic music isn't my strong point)
3. It had two floors
4. It had plenty of spare seats
5. It had friendly staff - admittedly this wasn't one of Chase's criteria necessarily, but it does help
6. It's a good size. One of the problems with where I live is that a lot of the bars and clubs are quite small. This one isn't.
7. It's about a 10-15 min walk from me
Downsides:
1. It's very expensive, both to get into and for drinks
2. It's hard to turn up on the night - you have to get a ticket in advance
I noticed was it was important to get there early. After about 12:30pm everyone starts filling out on to the dancefloor and the bar areas get quite deserted.
I still need to make more approaches. Three isn't enough - I know I can do more. I wasn't really feeling like going out tonight, but I scheduled it in as Chase has advised and went into "explorer mode" and had set goals. All in all, quite pleased with tonight. It's a bank holiday tomorrow, so some day game is in order before going out in the evening.
Questions - I saw someone I knew from school in the club tonight. I didn't say hello and he wouldn't have seen me. What should I have said if I had bumped into him? He knows some of my friends. Currently, I haven't told any of my friends that I go out alone to meet girls and I don't particularly want word to travel. Does anyone have any experience of handling these situations?
The bright side is I went, stayed out and continued getting comfortable with being out alone. I've also found a great venue that I'll be coming back to. The place ticked off most of Chase's criteria for a good venue.
1. The girls were very cute. Almost every single girl I saw was attractive
2. It played house music (I think...electronic music isn't my strong point)
3. It had two floors
4. It had plenty of spare seats
5. It had friendly staff - admittedly this wasn't one of Chase's criteria necessarily, but it does help
6. It's a good size. One of the problems with where I live is that a lot of the bars and clubs are quite small. This one isn't.
7. It's about a 10-15 min walk from me
Downsides:
1. It's very expensive, both to get into and for drinks
2. It's hard to turn up on the night - you have to get a ticket in advance
I noticed was it was important to get there early. After about 12:30pm everyone starts filling out on to the dancefloor and the bar areas get quite deserted.
I still need to make more approaches. Three isn't enough - I know I can do more. I wasn't really feeling like going out tonight, but I scheduled it in as Chase has advised and went into "explorer mode" and had set goals. All in all, quite pleased with tonight. It's a bank holiday tomorrow, so some day game is in order before going out in the evening.
Questions - I saw someone I knew from school in the club tonight. I didn't say hello and he wouldn't have seen me. What should I have said if I had bumped into him? He knows some of my friends. Currently, I haven't told any of my friends that I go out alone to meet girls and I don't particularly want word to travel. Does anyone have any experience of handling these situations?
