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I don't know why I didn't get the idea to start a journal sooner, but here I am. This seems like a good place to write out my thoughts and flesh out my experiences.
Yesterday I noticed there is a big mistake I am making after meeting a girl for the first time. That mistake being that my mind thinks that for some reason I have to constantly try to text her and always have a conversation going or she will lose interest/investment in me, and that's simply not logical. On some level I believe I start chasing somewhat and that's what happens, every single time that a girl has lost interest in me after our first meet is due to me becoming too boyfriendy/invested and her losing attraction and walking away.
Yesterday it really clicked for me after I was making similar mistakes with this girl I saw 2 days ago, trying to deep dive or do too much rapport building over text, no good. But thankfully it clicked, and I corrected that mistake today and I will keep this in mind for the future.
I have a date with a new girl for saturday, and I asked the girl I met 2 days ago out again today, though she hasn't responded. I followed the structure, she asked what I had in mind, I mentioned lets go for drinks at the mall and go from there, and then I asked her if she was still free for tmw, but she has not responded. She had mentioned before our first meet she was free this week every afternoon and saturday, so that's why I took the liberty of mentioning tomorrow, but I'm not sure if that was a mistake on my part and I should have asked her about her schedule again. Another thing, I mentioned drinks but technically she cannot legally drink since she is 20, but she mentioned she does drink sometimes and I think in her mind it would be exciting to do something with me she is "not supposed to do".
I'll find out soon if she has an issue with that or not. The biggest hurdle is the fact she lives kinda far, on our first meet I set it up in a location between each other, and it was still 30 minutes away due to traffic. This place is even farther away from her and right next to me, so she might be slightly turned off by the drive but I had in mind that if she complains about it I can tell her that I would make it worth her while. This is already our second meet so she should be more invested and willing to put a little more effort to meet up. Let's see what happens
Yesterday I noticed there is a big mistake I am making after meeting a girl for the first time. That mistake being that my mind thinks that for some reason I have to constantly try to text her and always have a conversation going or she will lose interest/investment in me, and that's simply not logical. On some level I believe I start chasing somewhat and that's what happens, every single time that a girl has lost interest in me after our first meet is due to me becoming too boyfriendy/invested and her losing attraction and walking away.
Yesterday it really clicked for me after I was making similar mistakes with this girl I saw 2 days ago, trying to deep dive or do too much rapport building over text, no good. But thankfully it clicked, and I corrected that mistake today and I will keep this in mind for the future.
I have a date with a new girl for saturday, and I asked the girl I met 2 days ago out again today, though she hasn't responded. I followed the structure, she asked what I had in mind, I mentioned lets go for drinks at the mall and go from there, and then I asked her if she was still free for tmw, but she has not responded. She had mentioned before our first meet she was free this week every afternoon and saturday, so that's why I took the liberty of mentioning tomorrow, but I'm not sure if that was a mistake on my part and I should have asked her about her schedule again. Another thing, I mentioned drinks but technically she cannot legally drink since she is 20, but she mentioned she does drink sometimes and I think in her mind it would be exciting to do something with me she is "not supposed to do".
I'll find out soon if she has an issue with that or not. The biggest hurdle is the fact she lives kinda far, on our first meet I set it up in a location between each other, and it was still 30 minutes away due to traffic. This place is even farther away from her and right next to me, so she might be slightly turned off by the drive but I had in mind that if she complains about it I can tell her that I would make it worth her while. This is already our second meet so she should be more invested and willing to put a little more effort to meet up. Let's see what happens
