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Long story short: a co-worker of mine had become single recently. We have never really talked on a deep or fun level. But our conversation began turning into sexual ones - not directly sexual, but innuendos and topics that could be interpreted in the same context as sex (does that make any sense? lol). We did this on two separate days (last Thursday and Sunday) where we happened to work simultaneously because of overlaps in our shifts. On Sunday, when my shift was finished and I had left the work place with much sexual tension built up between us, I suddenly realized I missed a nice opportunity to invite her to my place to dance salsa which was one of the topics we touched upon.
On Tuesday, our work had a meeting, and I made her drive me home (a 10 minute ride). I tried to built up the same high we were feeling on Sunday but didn't really reach it because I was too much in my head, and I felt the timing was way off. But nonetheless I went for it. Before getting off the car I suggested her coming to my place sometimes later, and we tried to set up the meeting. We agreed to Saturday evening (yesterday), but that we should keep in touch about the details (what time and all that).
Friday morning I texted her that I would call her during the evening.* No respons. I called her in the evening - still no respons. At first I was caught off guard and didn't know what to do. So I did nothing. But I realized that for whatever reason she ignored my call, I didn't want to think more about it as it would shift my attention from my studies to her, and I know from past experience that girls can wait when something bigger lies ahead.
For future meetings with her I will just proceed as if nothing has happened and maintain my frame. For future girls I will keep in mind to set up a meeting faster.
But I would still like to know a few things related to the case
1. How could I have proceeded when she didn't answer my call?
2. Was it a bad idea to text her that I would call her?
* 3. And one question for my general process. The reason I call people to set up meetings is that I think it's way easier than texting them as texting can take too long, and I don't have their undivided attention unless I'm talking to them. Should I drop this for now and use texting as my primary method to set up meetings?
On Tuesday, our work had a meeting, and I made her drive me home (a 10 minute ride). I tried to built up the same high we were feeling on Sunday but didn't really reach it because I was too much in my head, and I felt the timing was way off. But nonetheless I went for it. Before getting off the car I suggested her coming to my place sometimes later, and we tried to set up the meeting. We agreed to Saturday evening (yesterday), but that we should keep in touch about the details (what time and all that).
Friday morning I texted her that I would call her during the evening.* No respons. I called her in the evening - still no respons. At first I was caught off guard and didn't know what to do. So I did nothing. But I realized that for whatever reason she ignored my call, I didn't want to think more about it as it would shift my attention from my studies to her, and I know from past experience that girls can wait when something bigger lies ahead.
For future meetings with her I will just proceed as if nothing has happened and maintain my frame. For future girls I will keep in mind to set up a meeting faster.
But I would still like to know a few things related to the case
1. How could I have proceeded when she didn't answer my call?
2. Was it a bad idea to text her that I would call her?
* 3. And one question for my general process. The reason I call people to set up meetings is that I think it's way easier than texting them as texting can take too long, and I don't have their undivided attention unless I'm talking to them. Should I drop this for now and use texting as my primary method to set up meetings?
