Cold approach on small college campus: Does it affect reputation?

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

The main reason I ask this is because I've concluded that if im bad at approaching (which I am) and my approaches are noticed by a lot of people, then I will gain an unfavorable reputation. I'm wondering if there's anyone on this site that has been in my situation, small college campus, and how it affected their reputation when they approached 100+ women on campus. If getting a bad rep is inescapable (because of my lack of experience), I would like to at least like to know what I'm in for.

best of luck to all seductors,

Kupid

 

[Starboy]

Hector one of the gc writers talked about approaching on college campuses and getting a reputation. I would recommend getting his book if you want to learn more about gaming in colleges. If you approach in a small college you should be more lowkey and less direct imo. You don't want people to recognize you and associate you with making approaches that go bad because you were nervous/uncomfortable. If you have the frame and strength of character to handle gossip and people wanting to slander you could approach,but most people don't so i'd recommend against it.

If you go to a commuter college btw a lot of people are less open to social interactions. They just see college as a place to go to class and then leave afterwards. Not all, but a good amount. So another thing to look out for.

 

[Fuck This]

Be indirect in your approaches. Only go seductive if she hooks. Best cold approach is a flyer to a party at your place with a phone number.

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[HoofHearted]

I think you're just nervous, which is okay.

I certainly embarassed myself in college a few times. It's... embarassing. But it's okay!

I have no idea wtf you're doing but when I was in college I did stupid shit like talk to girls, mention the Beatles, and then be overly-fake happy if they said they liked the Beatles, too. Clearly we were soulmates for liking one of the most popular, generic bands in history together. Corny AF. People saw that, and saw me acting psuedosuave and like a douche. Which I was at the time, and perhaps still am.

You don't need to do all that, I did it for you and confirm I was trying real hard. Why not just go up to people and say Hi, how's today going? and go from there. You can tell pretty early on if people want to talk.

I remember one time, in the quad, I managed to grab my nuts and kneel down on the grass next to a big tittied bitch, don't call them bitches by the way, and I said "Hey, I was passing by and you looked really cute!" Man, I was nervous, and she was beautiful. I couldn't believe it. She was actually super nice to me, but I had no idea what to do after that. It's kind of a happy memory now.

Also, maybe you don't want to fuck around at school, and that's fine too. Maybe even better, in a way-- go find somewhere else to fuck around, because the challenge of finding that is super interesting. You're going to need to do that after college anyway, and college is mostly a waste of time and matters so little in the grand scheme of things. Could be good for your manhood to go learn how to hunt in the wild, if you catch my drift, but it certainly wont be as easy or convenient.

Whatever you choose to do, I love you, and just be calm and nice and polite and read the body language my man and you'll be fine. Don't try to pet a bitch that's snarling its teeth, and I mean the dog in this metaphor so it's fine.

In life, in anything you do, if that thing is important, somebody, somewhere, is going to see you fail. Sometimes groups of people. Accept this across all domains. It is your destiny to sometimes make a spectacle and an ass of yourself. Join us.

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

I think you're just nervous, which is okay.

I certainly embarassed myself in college a few times. It's... embarassing. But it's okay!

I have no idea wtf you're doing but when I was in college I did stupid shit like talk to girls, mention the Beatles, and then be overly-fake happy if they said they liked the Beatles, too. Clearly we were soulmates for liking one of the most popular, generic bands in history together. Corny AF. People saw that, and saw me acting psuedosuave and like a douche. Which I was at the time, and perhaps still am.

You don't need to do all that, I did it for you and confirm I was trying real hard. Why not just go up to people and say Hi, how's today going? and go from there. You can tell pretty early on if people want to talk.

I remember one time, in the quad, I managed to grab my nuts and kneel down on the grass next to a big tittied bitch, don't call them bitches by the way, and I said "Hey, I was passing by and you looked really cute!" Man, I was nervous, and she was beautiful. I couldn't believe it. She was actually super nice to me, but I had no idea what to do after that. It's kind of a happy memory now.

Also, maybe you don't want to fuck around at school, and that's fine too. Maybe even better, in a way-- go find somewhere else to fuck around, because the challenge of finding that is super interesting. You're going to need to do that after college anyway, and college is mostly a waste of time and matters so little in the grand scheme of things. Could be good for your manhood to go learn how to hunt in the wild, if you catch my drift, but it certainly wont be as easy or convenient.

Whatever you choose to do, I love you, and just be calm and nice and polite and read the body language my man and you'll be fine. Don't try to pet a bitch that's snarling its teeth, and I mean the dog in this metaphor so it's fine.

In life, in anything you do, if that thing is important, somebody, somewhere, is going to see you fail. Sometimes groups of people. Accept this across all domains. It is your destiny to sometimes make a spectacle and an ass of yourself. Join us.

Honestly I just think I'm gonna be direct with girls like ive been doing. Telling them I'm into them via compliment and see their reaction. Things could get ugly reputation wise but im willing to risk it. I just have to solidify relationships with friends incase shit hits the fan.

 

[StrayDog]

Honestly I just think I'm gonna be direct with girls like ive been doing. Telling them I'm into them via compliment and see their reaction. Things could get ugly reputation wise but im willing to risk it. I just have to solidify relationships with friends incase shit hits the fan.

What was the point of creating this thread then? If you're just gonna do what you're gonna do any way

 

[HoofHearted]

Eh he's just nervous.

It doesn't need to be so high stakes though.

You don't have to go up to 100 girls in the quad and say, "Excuse me, you're beautiful, I want to meet you."

That could work but it strikes me as a hammer of a tool, not everything is a hammer problem. You get to pick.

You can go gentler, I guess. Briefly make casual conversation, she how receptive she is, and pull a number. If you're particularly on fire and/or ready for it, take her on a date then and there!

No need to come in hot, unless you want to. I don't like to do it no more, it feels like I'm begging her because of her beauty. I'll them they're gorgeous, but later I think, when they need it.

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

Eh he's just nervous.

It doesn't need to be so high stakes though.

You don't have to go up to 100 girls in the quad and say, "Excuse me, you're beautiful, I want to meet you."

That could work but it strikes me as a hammer of a tool, not everything is a hammer problem. You get to pick.

You can go gentler, I guess. Briefly make casual conversation, she how receptive she is, and pull a number. If you're particularly on fire and/or ready for it, take her on a date then and there!

No need to come in hot, unless you want to. I don't like to do it no more, it feels like I'm begging her because of her beauty. I'll them they're gorgeous, but later I think, when they need it.

I've been giving it some thought, asking people I trust about it and I think college is like a giant social circle, every clique is connected to another one in an all encompassing web. If I approach 100 girls, a percentage of those girls are going to tell their circle about it, and then a percentage of those in the circle will communicate this to another circle. This chain reaction will turn a micro reputation into a macro reputation real fast. So yeah I changed my mind. New course of action will be to occasionally approach on campus but focus most of my approaches in the real world to avoid any negative reputation. Additionally I'm gonna treat college like social circle, making connections, rising in popularity in order to increase desirability.

 

[Don Giovanni]

Just learn cold approach elsewhere… dont shit where you eat.

And learn indirect. That way when you’ll see a hot girl on campus you really like you will have the tools to meet her smoothly.

 

[lceman]

I've been giving it some thought, asking people I trust about it and I think college is like a giant social circle, every clique is connected to another one in an all encompassing web. If I approach 100 girls, a percentage of those girls are going to tell their circle about it, and then a percentage of those in the circle will communicate this to another circle. This chain reaction will turn a micro reputation into a macro reputation real fast. So yeah I changed my mind. New course of action will be to occasionally approach on campus but focus most of my approaches in the real world to avoid any negative reputation. Additionally I'm gonna treat college like social circle, making connections, rising in popularity in order to increase desirability.

how small is your college? unless it's like 1-2000 people total this is not even remotely true.

1. no one is paying attention to you as you cold approach. They either assume you already know her, or (if within earshot) they'll admire your balls.
2. girls get hit on. Only a small percentage are going to tell their friends, that percentage is only high if your approach was extremely bad/unusual
3. GIRLS GET HIT ON. you're just another guy she's rejected. you're not special because you walked up in public.
4. you can go more indirect, and have a reputation as a social guy instead of that "guy that talks to girls all the time"
5. "That guy who talks to girls all the time" definitely gets laid more than the guy who never talks to girls.

Also, who the fuck cares? In a few years, would you rather graduate having learned skills with women and a reputation, or with no reputation and no skills? Don't let YOUR BELIEF of what people will think of you hold you back from making progress.

You're rationalizing not approaching. Just do it.

 

[HoofHearted]

I've been giving it some thought, asking people I trust about it and I think college is like a giant social circle, every clique is connected to another one in an all encompassing web. If I approach 100 girls, a percentage of those girls are going to tell their circle about it, and then a percentage of those in the circle will communicate this to another circle. This chain reaction will turn a micro reputation into a macro reputation real fast. So yeah I changed my mind. New course of action will be to occasionally approach on campus but focus most of my approaches in the real world to avoid any negative reputation. Additionally I'm gonna treat college like social circle, making connections, rising in popularity in order to increase desirability.

Well, whatever you choose to do, I might suggest you relax.

You strike me as just a regular, timid young guy who wants to grow. Nothing wrong with that, and not unusual.

Why don't you just start off by talking to a few girls you don't know? Make some idle conversation.

You could probably forget all this stuff about 100s of girls and 'reputation' and 'cold approach' for a while, if you wanted. Although to me the 'cold approach' is a thing of beauty in surprising ways

Maybe just try talking to a few girls. When you're young, or when you're in college, they're all around you. Girls are somewhat prescribed, so enjoy that.

 

[Starboy]

how small is your college? unless it's like 1-2000 people total this is not even remotely true.

1. no one is paying attention to you as you cold approach. They either assume you already know her, or (if within earshot) they'll admire your balls.
2. girls get hit on. Only a small percentage are going to tell their friends, that percentage is only high if your approach was extremely bad/unusual
3. GIRLS GET HIT ON. you're just another guy she's rejected. you're not special because you walked up in public.
4. you can go more indirect, and have a reputation as a social guy instead of that "guy that talks to girls all the time"
5. "That guy who talks to girls all the time" definitely gets laid more than the guy who never talks to girls.

Also, who the fuck cares? In a few years, would you rather graduate having learned skills with women and a reputation, or with no reputation and no skills? Don't let YOUR BELIEF of what people will think of you hold you back from making progress.

You're rationalizing not approaching. Just do it.

Actually it is true. People talk and gossip in college especially girls. If you're making clumsy direct approaches with others nearby listening and it doesn't go well that's negative social proof which will affect future connections you could've possibly made with other guys of value and girls. People recognize regulars in places that they go to like the college gym for example.
Wrong way to go about it.

Who says don't improve your skills? Why are those the only two options? In college your focus should be on improving your social skills which you then leverage to getting girls by sliding in their circle or bringing them into yours.