LR Cold Approach Turned Warm

[Devilicious]

Funny how things in life turn out.

Am still in the midst of studying for exams which leads me to have no time to do anything other than it. My roomie (bless his heart) cooks for me as well at times because of how little time I have!

And at the same time, when you keep your awareness open for opportunities... you never know when you might find something to pounce on.

HBSmile. Cold approached this brunette on campus (one of my rare campus approaches) at the start of the semester (of course indirect), turns out we are literally in the same small class of this one course, where we even have a group work together. So naturally don't escalate. Turned from cold approach to "warm" xd. She's from France moved to other French-speaking country and speaks in this sensual French accent.

Problem is, this girl... is a bit different. The type where you find yourself deeply aroused around. And HBSmile is not even that crazy attractive actually, but somehow I would get super hard thinking about her. Super charming, raw and feminine in her own way. Very much on the slim side but still drives me somewhat crazy. Her smile is simply gorgeous.

So of course I would project sexuality with her also since this has been my pet project this semester - state projection. Which due to certain circumstances I have been able to practice quite well. Leading groups with just energetic pacing is a goal for sure.

Then, at one point I have us go to the close-by water, which she takes the wrong way into bf-territory and essentially gets hurt when I have to boyfriend disqualify. Yes, she's inexperienced, but is not a virgin. I have to make up some spiel about having come out of a relationship and thus not being able nor wanting anything, shift blame entirely.

So I distance myself a bit from her to not hurt her further, also got injured so was away for another month. Our group project went on online.

Then, group project over, and she texts me a bit more again. On a Saturday night, she pings me again. Since this (seduction?) happens entirely over text and I found it interesting I posted it below. Might seem strange but it's what I felt made complete sense for this specific scenario. Also, most of seduction happened before over the course of semester. So this is just the final 100 meter line.

Spoiler: Texting seduction at midnight

Her: Youre going to bed soon?
Me: Yes You?

Her: In half an hour maybe

Me: I'm lying in bed with the lights off already
Me: Feeling warm and cozy [being provocative, eliciting]

Her: Youre right
Her: Goodnight then

Me: Good night

Her: Still feel attracted to me?

Me: Let's just say... I wish you were here under my warm comfortable covers too

Her: Ow
Her: My heart is melting🫠

Me: And you?

Her: I wish i could be under your covers in your arms too
Her: I miss the way you hug me too

Me: And under the covers, it's like it's just us. Able to be free and no one could stop us. Almost like our own private world where we can feel free to be open and explore [me making her picture it and getting her excited. Still in weasel phrase format]
Me: I miss hugging you and having you close to me

Her: I miss it soo bad you have no idea
Her: I somehow became addicted to you a bit dont know how you did this

Me: It's because I'm a bit equally addicted to you and how you make me feel so excited for you

Her: My heart completely melted 🫠🫠

Me: Baby you should be here with me now
Me: You make me want you

Her: I wish I were to be honest

Me: But I don't want to hurt you [setting up the honest soft barrier]
Me: And yet you have me so adoring and excited for you
Me: It's like you can imagine if we met like this... how passion would overtake us. And you'd imagine us having an incredible, wonderful experience together. No words, no thoughts. Just being in the moment
Me: Like can you picture it too? I'd take you by the hand and we would smile knowingly and deeply at each other. Then we'd be kissing deeply... and before you know it, we're under the covers, wild and free and completely in the thrill of the moment and each other, letting our bodies primal nature do the talking... can you imagine it?
Me: It's what you make me imagine. How you feel. How to tease you best... finding out what you like and being merciless in giving it to you

Her: I picture it very well
Her: How can you be soo adoring yet wanting no relationship with me?

Me: I'm wondering about it too. I think it's in my nature, the way I am somehow created
For me it's somehow more pure and raw this way. Because when you have no expectations, you notice how you're more fully in the moment and cherishing and living it. But this may be just the way I was created to think and feel, I really don't know
So everything we do, it's important we are aligned. Because we can only have good outcome and experiences, us two

Her: Youre like a multi partner kind of person?

Me: Oh I wouldn't say multi partner per se. Altho I don't think that far. Much more of a being in the moment person
Me: I'm thinking about it now. I'd say it's about the mentality of when we're together and experiencing each other, it's because we both chose to consciously let loose together and enjoy our company, no extra pressure, just raw being with each other
Me: Doing what feels best
Me: So we know how we are addicted to each other somehow. So you feel this irresistible pull mysteriosly always drawing our bodies closer snd hotter to each other. At least this is how it feels like. And you deeply know it would be a great wonderful experience, you can almost imagine it deeply now. And this is perhaps also simply who I am, thinking like this, seeing life in this raw and in-the-moment way. I'd love to share this experience in life with you, but only if you feel like it's a great experience letting go of expectations somehow and relaxing, releasing into just the moment. And feeling it much more intense this way..

Her: So it will be just once?

Me: Oh I mean fully, deeply exploring each other... takes more than just once
Me: But if it's what you want then it can also be just once

Her: No this option hurt
Her: So to put it in a nutshell, you want me as a sex friend?

Me: I want us to be able to share wonderful, intimate experiences together. With all it entails
Me: Without pressure or expectations. Just us... being us
Me: You made me somehow addicted to you

Her: Yes me too, to be honest i have never been soo obsessed with someone
Her: I really like you, strong attraction

Me: It goes both ways... which is why... you really should be here with me under my covers

Her: I would love to

Me: So... we're doing this Mm, just thinking about what we're going to do to each other... makes you happy and excited

Her:
Her: I love when you write me its always soo beautiful messages [and here I thought I was overdoing it with trance words and Riker in general]

Me: You bring it out of me
Me: So if I were to ask what works better, my place or yours, what would you say?

Her: Now?

Me: Hmm now my roomie is home
Me: But what about in general?

Her: In general more yours

Then some logistics as I find out more about what would work

Me: I should go to sleep. You're already keeping me up late...

Next day I text her again because we had said we'll check if next day night works, and it does since my roomie is gone.

Then she LMR's me.

Her: I wanted to ask you also..

Me: Yes?

Her: Is it ok if we dont have sex today, but hugging and kissing because we didnt meet for quite a long time
Her: Like going crescendo

Me: Oh of course there are no expectations... but at the same time, if you feel like our emotions and desire is real and genuine... holding back would be the most cruel thing to us
Me: But we can have slow and sensual sex, taking our time, being in tune with each other... if you like Because I would find it hard to resist you otherwise
No overthinking. Just being in the moment and pleasure, seeing where our bodies lead us
Me: Does this sound good to you too?

Her: Sounds good
Her: I just dont want you to be disappointed if im not feeling like having sex today

Me: We will kiss and talk either way So what's stopping us from going all the way?
Again, you might be feeling nervous, excited, and a bit overwhelmed. And it's completely normal and natural... and a good sign
So recognizing this and thus breathing deeply, relaxing, and letting loose and choosing to enjoy the ride and emotions... is only natural as well Enjoy it, [HBSmile]. Me: Because I already am

Her: Can we not just kiss for today? And talk? I really need that step to have sex the next time..
Her: I know its hard for you but i need it to "feel" you and digest all these emotion

Me: Oh baby I really understand you. I do. And I think it's great that you can tell me this! And you know how hard it is for me, how wild you drive me... and I have stress from my important exams next week and I don't want to feel extra tortured on top of it. It's how you make me feel so attracted to you.
So we don't have to have sex the moment you enter my door... I'd like for us to smile warmly, kiss each other deeply, talk a bit and really feel each other... and then naturally our clothes vanish and we are on my bed making a beautiful mess of each other.
Otherwise, I wouldn't want to torture myself especially now with exams. So if you truly feel like it's what you need - which is completely fine and I fully accept - then we can check after my exams... as tough as it would be for us

Her: Thats a terrible dilemma

Me: Yes And it's entirely up to you - no matter what you choose, I will understand Of course, it's natural for us to hope you can feel allowed to take the pleasurable, warm leap into our mutual experience together now
Me: I will walk you to bhf when you go home, no worries So you can feel safe

Her: How does it work with contraception in [my country]?

Game over.

Then she tells me she's in her fertile month (lol what) so condoms are important. Of course I reassure her that safety is important. And before she goes, I tell her:
Me: Again, just to confirm. You stepping out of the house means we're not holding back...

I pick her up from the bus stop, and she looks super sexy in the golden street lights. Meeting we hug and I manhandle kiss her a bit but she's resisting a bit too, so we start walking and I manhandle kiss her again - after which it is smooth sailing. "Let's go to yours," she says breathlessly under the shadows.

We get to mine and basically directly lead her to my bed.

I learned two important things.
1) Dim the main lights and have only minimal lighting
2) When naked, get her under covers (now in winter) since my room is rather cold.

But then she wants me to rub her for what is like forever. I am also not so experienced honestly. The switch really happened when I got us under the covers and warmed up, hands all over each other... where she got so turned on and start saying things like, "how are you doing this,". I had fingered her before and she was SUPER TIGHT, so by now it was ok. Since I'm not fully hard due to the condom and long time, I have her sit on me and guide me in. She does, and I feel strong resistance before she impales herself fully on my cock... and she is so tight and warm I almost come immediately, it felt so wonderful. Definitely the tightest pussy I've ever been in... so hot.

After an hour I have to kick her out though because my roomie is coming home soon. She is super... affectionate. Bratty, even. Not wanting to leave the bed, etc. I have to almost sternly get her out! It takes forever and in fact I need to grab her and carry her away from bed to speed up the process. It makes me really glad I lied on the time he's coming back because it took this longer!

She's also grabbing my dick and wanting to make out with me while leaving. Not satisfied yet, this girl.


Overall, lovely experience. Now have exams so great excuse not to see her for a bit! Will be Feb or March for next time. I just don't want her to get attached and am glad at least I could set good frames keeping my power.

Learned more about frame setting and bf disqualifying, had some success with Riker adapted to texting, learned about how to escalate in my room much better.

Onwards!

-Dev

 

[Kvothe]

Can’t go a few weeks without hearing about you getting a new girl… Honestly amazing

I do wonder if your response to her saying no sex via text was optimal. It seems like you could have ended saying “whatever you’re comfortable with”, curious on why you tried to deal with it over text instead of in person.

Also I assume you weren’t free, but the best move would probably have been to have her come over that night itself, instead of waiting for the next day. I feel like it might have caused some attainability issues, or led to her testing. If you’re so attracted to her (as you stated in text) why wouldn’t you want her to come over that night itself?

 

[Devilicious]

Thanks for the kind words brother!

I do wonder if your response to her saying no sex via text was optimal. It seems like you could have ended saying “whatever you’re comfortable with”, curious on why you tried to deal with it over text instead of in person.

Yes I was wondering about this too. The reason why I went for it is because I wanted to reduce ambiguity and get her buy-in. Was not feeling like getting her over and then just getting blue-balled. In hindsight it is quite likely what would have happened, probably could have pushed through but this way I saved myself a lot of time. Also because I didn't have much time to begin with so was less willing - but I absolutely agree that "no expectations" is generally the smoother path

Also I assume you weren’t free, but the best move would probably have been to have her come over that night itself, instead of waiting for the next day. I feel like it might have caused some attainability issues, or led to her testing. If you’re so attracted to her (as you stated in text) why wouldn’t you want her to come over that night itself?

Same, it was 1am at that point and I needed to study the next day. Actually considered it but overall had a very abundance mentality mindset of, "Well if it happens, nice, and I will focus on being precise, but I'm not going to go out of my way here." Hard to say if it's the correct mindset or not, but at least for me right now it was what was best for me.

Appreciate your comments a lot as always, can't wait to see you be back in field soon!

 

[Derek da man]

But then she wants me to rub her for what is like forever.

You don't say where she want's you to rub her but I assume you mean her pussy. I avoid touching her there for as long as possible as she will become more aroused more quickly. I know it's hard when you're in experienced, but she only gets incidental brushing from your hands as you caress the inner part of her upper thighs and squeeze her arse she will get a more frustrated demanding feeling from her pussy, a bit like when you get blue balls, but if you rub her pussy the edge from this is taken off. The more arrouesd she gets the wetter she gets, if you judge it right so she is climbing the walls with the need you will never get any last minute resistance as she is just too horny and her body will be telling her she needs penetration.

 

[Bismarck]

A beautiful report that shows the power of Riker and "writing womanese".

I envy you for, at such a young age, being able to smash tight college-age broads that you feel an organic, genuine attraction to (as explained by your descriptors of her being the "smiling" HB) and where she writes things like "i feel strong attraction" "what did you do to me" etc.

I hope you don't get consumed by the narc/"notch count" side of all this, and instead follow the path of the true Casanova, the man who loves falling in love with women, over and over again.

Kudos brother!

 

[Echoes]

Problem is, this girl... is a bit different. The type where you find yourself deeply aroused around. And HBSmile is not even that crazy attractive actually, but somehow I would get super hard thinking about her. Super charming, raw and feminine in her own way. Very much on the slim side but still drives me somewhat crazy. Her smile is simply gorgeous.

Had the same experience with a Mexican girl in Portugal! Looks-wise she was...okay, but I felt a crushing pull towards her across my whole body. Sadly, she didn't play along, but that was a first for me (even my exes didn't create that).

After an hour I have to kick her out though because my roomie is coming home soon. She is super... affectionate. Bratty, even. Not wanting to leave the bed, etc. I have to almost sternly get her out! It takes forever and in fact I need to grab her and carry her away from bed to speed up the process. It makes me really glad I lied on the time he's coming back because it took this longer!

She's also grabbing my dick and wanting to make out with me while leaving. Not satisfied yet, this girl.

Wait...why is the roommate being back so terrible? I had roommates the last 8 years and just made sure sounds were minimal and adapted movements that were quiet but effective.

Other than that, nice job! My latest FwB fell super hard and it was similarly confusing for her why I wouldn't date her. Issue is she didn't look the greatest (maybe my ex's body spoiled me). I forget who it was, but someone mentioned seeing each other weekly for 3 weeks, then down to every other week to get the girl into your orbit and keeping her there without bringing here all the way in.