I met a girl walking by my apartment about three hours ago.
I noticed she had what seemed to be a painted face. I had seen quite a few of these around, so I asked her what the story behind it was. She told me the Indian club at the school put on an event for Holi, yadda yadda, we talked a bit. She studied Medieval literature ('round the era of Chaucer), we talked a bit about that...
I got her to share the festivities of the event with me by painting on my arm with what was on her hands. We kept up the chatting, there was quite a bit of it (3-4 minutes) and then I asked her to come grab a cup of tea with me. She accepted, we went inside.
We talked, I unfortunately don't remember a ton of details. I took my jacket off, and revealed my "I fucking love to cuddle" T-shirt.
She told me that between my mention of swing dancing and my t shirt, I was "lucky there was a table between us". (Some forward girls 'round here...)
A few sentences later I was teaching her a new dance style, no table between us. We danced a couple of songs, sat down, and I got a message on my phone and realized I was late for meeting with a friend. We swapped numbers and chatted a bit more, then I took off. Shortly after I left, she texted me thanking me for dancing with her and that she was looking forward to next time.
Wrapped up things with my friend, texted her. This was about 1.5 hours later by that point. I asked her if she was still nearby and would like to join me heading out to a nearby park/nature trail. She suddenly got really inquisitive.
She asked me, 1) If I lived nearby
2) If she heard me right when I said I was moving in 2 months
3) Where I was moving.
When she I told her that I was moving soon, she sent me a grimace face: " :-\ ".
So, girl's looking for a boyfriend.
I then gave her a forced decision:
"Now, would you like to join me this evening or will I be enjoying the pseudo nature of Forest Park by myself?"
She told me she'd like to join me, but that she had to do laundry...I told her I could wait and grab some food. It seems there was some miscommunication here, she thought I was suggesting we get food...she asked if I meant food or going to the park...she then told me she could meet me at the park in 20 minutes, and stay for an hour.
Now, this was kind of a big step back from what I had in mind (get her out and moving in a somewhat secluded, natural place with some breathtaking vistas only a few minutes from my place). I reiterated my plan, and she told me she couldn't because she "had plans my boyfriend". I'm thinking she was kind of flustered at the fact that I didn't just say yes to her...but I was trying to be the one 'in control' of the interaction. Maybe not quite the best move in this particular instance.
So, the whole "boyfriend" thing didn't show up until after I reiterated that I was leaving in only 2 months.
I'm also thinking I'm an idiot for leaving her in the first place when she was digging me so much without pressing to see what I could pull off, but I am fairly new to this whole "moving fast intentional seduction" bit.
My assessment?
1. I opened a girl.
2. Girl was digging me, got hooked
3. I got her to be somewhat physical
4. I moved her.
5. I got physical with her, got her a bit invested in me.
6. I backed out of the initial interaction before I really had to (thing with my friend really COULD have waited...)
7. She had a moment to sit back and think about it and realized I wasn't a good boyfriend candidate...and although she liked her first impression, it wasn't quite so strong that she was still in hot and ready lover mode (most likely...I suspect I'll see her again and get another shot, but I'm not very invested in that idea/outcome).
8. I possibly fucked up by insisting that we move further from one another's places rather than straight up trying to get her back to my place right away. An hour is plenty of time to work with in a seduction with a girl who is THAT warm, I think. It would have been worth a shot, probably. I overcomplicated things / killed my own "fast seduction" logistics.
Lessons learned:
1. Push the first interaction as far as I can.
2. Don't overcomplicate and don't demand anything too draining of her. Try to keep it low energy / low effort if you can.
Things I'm glad I did right:
1. Said hello and stayed with her.
2. Moved her.
3. At least tried to recover from not pushing the interaction all the way immediately.
4. Got her acting physical towards me really quickly.
I noticed she had what seemed to be a painted face. I had seen quite a few of these around, so I asked her what the story behind it was. She told me the Indian club at the school put on an event for Holi, yadda yadda, we talked a bit. She studied Medieval literature ('round the era of Chaucer), we talked a bit about that...
I got her to share the festivities of the event with me by painting on my arm with what was on her hands. We kept up the chatting, there was quite a bit of it (3-4 minutes) and then I asked her to come grab a cup of tea with me. She accepted, we went inside.
We talked, I unfortunately don't remember a ton of details. I took my jacket off, and revealed my "I fucking love to cuddle" T-shirt.
She told me that between my mention of swing dancing and my t shirt, I was "lucky there was a table between us". (Some forward girls 'round here...)
A few sentences later I was teaching her a new dance style, no table between us. We danced a couple of songs, sat down, and I got a message on my phone and realized I was late for meeting with a friend. We swapped numbers and chatted a bit more, then I took off. Shortly after I left, she texted me thanking me for dancing with her and that she was looking forward to next time.
Wrapped up things with my friend, texted her. This was about 1.5 hours later by that point. I asked her if she was still nearby and would like to join me heading out to a nearby park/nature trail. She suddenly got really inquisitive.
She asked me, 1) If I lived nearby
2) If she heard me right when I said I was moving in 2 months
3) Where I was moving.
When she I told her that I was moving soon, she sent me a grimace face: " :-\ ".
So, girl's looking for a boyfriend.
I then gave her a forced decision:
"Now, would you like to join me this evening or will I be enjoying the pseudo nature of Forest Park by myself?"
She told me she'd like to join me, but that she had to do laundry...I told her I could wait and grab some food. It seems there was some miscommunication here, she thought I was suggesting we get food...she asked if I meant food or going to the park...she then told me she could meet me at the park in 20 minutes, and stay for an hour.
Now, this was kind of a big step back from what I had in mind (get her out and moving in a somewhat secluded, natural place with some breathtaking vistas only a few minutes from my place). I reiterated my plan, and she told me she couldn't because she "had plans my boyfriend". I'm thinking she was kind of flustered at the fact that I didn't just say yes to her...but I was trying to be the one 'in control' of the interaction. Maybe not quite the best move in this particular instance.
So, the whole "boyfriend" thing didn't show up until after I reiterated that I was leaving in only 2 months.
I'm also thinking I'm an idiot for leaving her in the first place when she was digging me so much without pressing to see what I could pull off, but I am fairly new to this whole "moving fast intentional seduction" bit.
My assessment?
1. I opened a girl.
2. Girl was digging me, got hooked
3. I got her to be somewhat physical
4. I moved her.
5. I got physical with her, got her a bit invested in me.
6. I backed out of the initial interaction before I really had to (thing with my friend really COULD have waited...)
7. She had a moment to sit back and think about it and realized I wasn't a good boyfriend candidate...and although she liked her first impression, it wasn't quite so strong that she was still in hot and ready lover mode (most likely...I suspect I'll see her again and get another shot, but I'm not very invested in that idea/outcome).
8. I possibly fucked up by insisting that we move further from one another's places rather than straight up trying to get her back to my place right away. An hour is plenty of time to work with in a seduction with a girl who is THAT warm, I think. It would have been worth a shot, probably. I overcomplicated things / killed my own "fast seduction" logistics.
Lessons learned:
1. Push the first interaction as far as I can.
2. Don't overcomplicate and don't demand anything too draining of her. Try to keep it low energy / low effort if you can.
Things I'm glad I did right:
1. Said hello and stayed with her.
2. Moved her.
3. At least tried to recover from not pushing the interaction all the way immediately.
4. Got her acting physical towards me really quickly.
