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i smile fondly as i recall this.
the sun has gone down in medellin and sitting with me is qbaby. a supercute 24 year old colombian hipster with long shiny brown hair. we're on a busy rooftop patio getting to know each other.
shes leaning in, listening intently as I explain a story about my friend kate:
as i tell this, i see her eyes gleaming - signs of a good start. a couple of minutes later, i bring up a perspective on meeting new people:
now she bursts with excitement. i know what shes thinking. she gives me 2 subtle verbal IOIs right after. one of which is her apologizing for sometimes speaking rough english. shes doing great, and i let her know.
after some more talk discussing the difference between fulfilling and unfulfilling relationships, she wants to grab a drink at another bar. we head there and on the way she confesses to me about a negative life-changing experience she had recently. i get her to recall the emotions and manage them with empathy.
at the new bar i find us huddled outside again, this time our legs firmly pressed together. slow colombian rhythms thump from the speakers inside, setting a vibe i quite like. from here, i continue to focus on deep diving her past and add in OTHERing to make her feel more connected to me.
later when i directly ask her what her biggest dream is, she needs a second to think about it, but returns the question.....so i explain the fantasy of extreme intelligence. amidst a shocked-impressed look from her, i continue and talk about the fantasy of indulgence. she becomes overwhelmed by my description of easement, especially when i contrast with a "grab life by the horns" statement.. her eyes get wide and she exclaims:
soon after the moments start to pass a little more tenderly as she wonders out loud if its fate that we met. we get lost in each others eyes longer than usual and i escalate the vibe. what are we gonna do about this between us, hmm? she nudges the conversation back to social frame after and i chuckle in my head.
i seed the pull with music, and we leave the bar to walk back to my place. on the way there I stress the importance of nonjudgement, privacy and anonymity. we move on to flirt cultures and she starts to giggle and get more feminine. by the time we're close to seclusion, the topic has turned towards what it feels like to get closer to someone.
sitting on my couch together, I get her to show me her tattoos, which leads to cheek and neck kisses between us. when I slowly bring my lips closer to hers, she starts leaning in as well. our lips almost meet but i pull away slowly - a tease that causes her to jump on me and start kissing me passionately.
that night, we become lovers. the memory is one i will cherish forever
TRANSCRIPTS FROM BUMBLE
the sun has gone down in medellin and sitting with me is qbaby. a supercute 24 year old colombian hipster with long shiny brown hair. we're on a busy rooftop patio getting to know each other.
shes leaning in, listening intently as I explain a story about my friend kate:
as i tell this, i see her eyes gleaming - signs of a good start. a couple of minutes later, i bring up a perspective on meeting new people:
now she bursts with excitement. i know what shes thinking. she gives me 2 subtle verbal IOIs right after. one of which is her apologizing for sometimes speaking rough english. shes doing great, and i let her know.
after some more talk discussing the difference between fulfilling and unfulfilling relationships, she wants to grab a drink at another bar. we head there and on the way she confesses to me about a negative life-changing experience she had recently. i get her to recall the emotions and manage them with empathy.
at the new bar i find us huddled outside again, this time our legs firmly pressed together. slow colombian rhythms thump from the speakers inside, setting a vibe i quite like. from here, i continue to focus on deep diving her past and add in OTHERing to make her feel more connected to me.
later when i directly ask her what her biggest dream is, she needs a second to think about it, but returns the question.....so i explain the fantasy of extreme intelligence. amidst a shocked-impressed look from her, i continue and talk about the fantasy of indulgence. she becomes overwhelmed by my description of easement, especially when i contrast with a "grab life by the horns" statement.. her eyes get wide and she exclaims:
soon after the moments start to pass a little more tenderly as she wonders out loud if its fate that we met. we get lost in each others eyes longer than usual and i escalate the vibe. what are we gonna do about this between us, hmm? she nudges the conversation back to social frame after and i chuckle in my head.
i seed the pull with music, and we leave the bar to walk back to my place. on the way there I stress the importance of nonjudgement, privacy and anonymity. we move on to flirt cultures and she starts to giggle and get more feminine. by the time we're close to seclusion, the topic has turned towards what it feels like to get closer to someone.
sitting on my couch together, I get her to show me her tattoos, which leads to cheek and neck kisses between us. when I slowly bring my lips closer to hers, she starts leaning in as well. our lips almost meet but i pull away slowly - a tease that causes her to jump on me and start kissing me passionately.
that night, we become lovers. the memory is one i will cherish forever
TRANSCRIPTS FROM BUMBLE
QBABY: hey how are you
QBABY: do you speak spanish or prefer english?
FOG: english please
QBABY: oki
QBABY: are you currently living in medellin?
FOG: yeah
FOG: im so happy you speak english because
QBABY: jaja because what?
FOG: id rather seduce you in english than my gringo spanish
QBABY: jajaja and have you ever failed flirting in your grngo spanish?
FOG: only when theres no connection
QBABY: true connection goes further jeje
QBABY: how long have you lived here?
FOG: soooo long now
QBABY: rly?
FOG: yeah sometimes i think im actually colombian
FOG: i forget how to be canadian
QBABY: jajaja wow that definitely sounds like a long tiime
QBABY: where in medellin do you live?
FOG: right now im in provenza. is it close?
QBABY: yah, we are close
QBABY: i live in X
QBABY: like 15 minutes away from provenza
FOG: i want to meet you but i have one question first
QBABY: yeah, what question
FOG: are you an open minded person?
QBABY: depends on what
QBABY: i consider myself very flexible and open minded
QBABY: but definitely there are things that id rather say no to...but that depends on what
QBABY: why the question jaja
FOG: well the most open minded people i know think for themselves. they arent afraid to try a new experience that will broaden their perspective. or they pursue a connection with someoone their friends dont approve of
FOG: on the other hand, some people are like sheep and dont think for themselves
FOG: its a shame how little trust they'll put in their own judgement
QBABY: oh i get what you mean now, ya in my opinion i like this kind of people who try next experiences to have a broader look of things and life itself
FOG: thats the type of peple i get along best with
QBABY: i lived in asia almost one year ago and it seemed to me many people just dont like their experience of things...especially women
QBABY: most of the people i met was afraid of the judgement of others
QBABY: i find colombian people a little more open, but you can find many like that...
QBABY: think we'll get along jeje
FOG: oh yeah?
QBABY: uuuh ya
FOG: i agree. i think you are different than most people
QBABY: so far i think the same and we have just exchanged a few sentences jeje
QBABY: what do you do in medellin?
FOG: im a kindergarten teacher
QBABY: wow, english teacher?
QBABY: cool, so do you like children?
FOG: yes im really passionate about helping children grow. its crazy how the experience of growing up can happen in so many different ways.
QBABY: the first years of life of a human are very important in the psyche
FOG: what about you? normally i can guess but....
FOG: 0.0
FOG: i have no clue
QBABY: jajaja normally you can guess? whys that?
FOG: ever since i was a kid, i always got it right. like you said, the first years of life are very important in the psyche
QBABY: jeje
QBABY: im an X for X company
FOG: i knew it
QBABY: jeje you should have said it
FOG: have you ever hung out with a canadian before?
QBABY: yep, my ex was canadian
QBABY: jaja
FOG: oh shit. you know about canadians
QBABY: jajaja i know just about one canadian...
FOG: youre gonna know about another canadian soon....
QBABY: looking forward to it
FOG: one day soon youre gonna be walking down the street to go meet fog
QBABY: what part of canada are you from?
FOG: the cold part
QBABY: jajaja good joke. all of canada is cold
QBABY: but dont tell me yet
QBABY: let me guess give me clues
QBABY: how cold
QBABY: how many degrees in winter?
FOG: lol...-40. please dont go there
QBABY: mmmm -40. thats probably the left side of canada, close to british colombia but northward
FOG: wow
QBABY: yes or no? to move to the next part which is guessing the state
FOG: i think im going to tell you when we meet
QBABY: jaja ok
FOG: lets make plans
QBABY: sounds good, are you free on weekends?
QBABY:for me its better some weekend because during the week im quite busy and at night i just wanna chill at home after a hard day
FOG: i know the feeling. after a long, hard day of X, you just want to relax and unwind
FOG: i have time this weekend
QBABY: saturday or friyay?
FOG: which one is better for you?
QBABY:my friends were talking to me to go out on saturdaym let me confirm with them if thats happening. if so we can meet tomorrow
QBABY: whats your whatsapp?
FOG: yeah
FOG: msg me XXX-XXX-XXXX
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