Compliance Builder Primer

[Zen]

Gents,

Wanted to start a thread on different ways to build compliance. As Chase advocates, investment is one of the main cornerstones of attraction. Building compliance should therefore be an integral part of our arsenal when seducing women; moreover, investment goes beyond the scope of seduction, it can be applied to our friendships, business and family. The thing i find most fascinating about investment is its cause-and-effect quality. Naturally, when we are attracted to certain things, we instinctually invest more into it. Simple examples could be that girl in class you fancy thus you find yourself thinking about her more and more. Or it could be that college application you're trying to perfect because it's your dream school. Therefore from one side of the equation, we're attracted therefore we invest.

But it works from the other side of the equation too. The more we invest in something, the more attracted we become. This is the true beauty of investment. Thus by building compliance and encouraging the girl to invest more, she naturally becomes more attracted.

Thus arrives the point of this thread: I want to start a thread where we can all share different ideas/techniques that we use in our process when building compliance with a girl. Since building compliance is almost like a hack in the matrix of attraction, gaining a plethora of techniques would be truly beneficial to us all.

For example, when I meet a girl for the first time, I always shake her hand and hold it for a bit while conversing in the beginning. Moving girls is a big compliance booster; "Come over here", "Let's talk over there" etc. Another thing I like to do is tell a girl to hold my drink (literally "hold my drink") while i fix my tie etc. "Tell me more", "Go on" etc are common phrases I use in my interactions. Telling a girl to move over when we're sitting. Taking a sip of her drink. High fives are nice (by her returning it, she's complying), just make sure you interlock your fingers afterwards to avoid making it seem to friendly. These are just some examples.

So what are some things you say to girls to build compliance? What role does compliance building/investment play in your process? How does it look like?

Looking forward to hear your responses.

- Zen

 

[Flames]

I think maybe it'd help if we built a list of things that are compliance and things that arnt.

I'd say that it's anything she does for you that she wouldnt do for someone els (or rather 'just anyone')

Things like,

Giving you her phone no.
Allowing you to move her elsewhere
Making you jealous? (that's investment not compliance as such)

It's probably not stuff like

Making you a cup of tea (unless she usually hates doing it)

But also it can be somewhat the opposite, ie if a girl you know gives her no. out freely to everyone but you, she either hates you or is waiting for you to ask for it. (kind of a reverse Compliance).

I've been working on this recently as it wasn't really part of my game, or at least not intentionally. So I'm very interested in what people's ideas are on this subject.

I had another post going but it didn't really take off

 

[Chase]

Compliance is great.

One of my favorites now is to get into directing girls very early. "Come here," "Stand here for a second," "Give me your hand," "Here, sit down," "Move over here with me, let's talk."

If you're doing it from near the outset of an interaction it acts as an instant polarizer - you screen out immediately the women who'll refuse, and you get a large attraction boost right away from the women who'll comply. You can often move the girl very quickly and start skipping steps if she complies right out of the gates.

Meet her, move her around a few feet, chat, take her to sit with you in 3 to 5 minutes. Take her out of wherever you met her not long after.

This sounds scaldingly fast if you haven't done it, but as soon as you start doing it, you're like, "Wait a minute. We just met... 3 minutes ago. She's sitting with me? *I* did this? Oh, this is awesome! I'm going to do this all the time!"

It's not hard with girls who like you, and most girls who like you like you the moment you start talking to them. This maybe marginally reduces your odds with girls you potentially could've built some intrigue and attraction with, but once you're getting reasonably strong attraction from women at least some of the time initially, most of the girls you're going to end up with are the girls who liked you the moment you met them, and those girls are the same girls who will comply and move with you very quickly with little protest (because they like you!).

You will sometimes also blaze forward with girls who DIDN'T even like you that much, but you're so smooth and commanding that they just naturally follow you because it feels like the only thing they can do. Then after sitting with you for a few minutes, they start getting a little guarded and awkward, like, "Uh... what am I doing sitting with this guy I just met?" It isn't that you moved "too fast" and freaked the girl out, though - it's that you got a girl who normally would never have done anything with you and got her to comply a great deal more than she ever would have in any other situation. Just realize that, laugh it off, and let her go, and go find another girl. Your powers of persuasion are so mighty that you're moving things along with girls who weren't even feeling you...!

Chase

 

[Flames]

I have a question relating to this.

If someone does something for you before you ask them, does that still count? Would that be better or worse than if you'd ask and they did it?

 

[Xpander]

I also have a question. If a girl does stuff for you, without you asking, like bringing you a piece of cake, asking if you want to borrow a book, is this always a sign of interest?

 

[Knight]

Ha compliance is fun. On New Years Eve I was on a beach with some friends when around seven girls and one guy stopped to take a photo infront of us. It was around 11pm and was pretty dark. My friend joked about meeting them and couldn't believe it when I walked over there (as I'm usually very shy and hadn't seen him in a while) and told them "oh, I'm late to the photo shoot. Take some more photos"

I immediately had the entire groups attention (as well as my friends) and had resistance from a girl. At this stage I just put her to ease and made her invest in me until she was dying to open me. A few minutes later I moved two girls to deep dive them at once, to see how well that would work. Was pretty great and had one in the bag until her other friends really needed to go home, and didn't want to leave her. Ah, still a fun time and goes to show how compliance from the get go can get girls who think they're higher status to turn their attitude right around!

 

[Chase]

@ Knight-

Fun story. Compliance can do all kinds of good things for bringing situations into your favor.

@ Flames-

If someone does something for you before you ask them, does that still count? Would that be better or worse than if you'd ask and they did it?

That's even better. It's just the girl actively looking to move things forward, without you even needing to ask her. So, she's doing it fully under her own recognizance - she's totally committed to the interaction and to seeing it progress.

@ Xpander-

I also have a question. If a girl does stuff for you, without you asking, like bringing you a piece of cake, asking if you want to borrow a book, is this always a sign of interest?

Usually, yes. Occasionally you'll see girls who just do this for EVERYONE, because they're naturally very matronly, but most women only do this either with men they have a very close connection with (close friends... boyfriends... etc.) or with men they really like and are trying to catch the eye of.

Chase

 

[Flames]

Thanks Chase thats what I thought but it's good to hear it from someone such as yourself.