Condoms

[Cam87]

Hey guys,

I was in a 7ish year relationship until last September. During that time we rarely used condoms. So now that I'm single and condoms are a requirement for sex, I'm finding I'm having a hard time "finishing", which is actually really funny because it was the opposite probably with my ex. It's really a totally different sensation that I'm just not used to. I've slept with four girls since I've been single on only recently was able to finish, but still have trouble every once in a while with this girl I've been seeing.

I've cut down/out masturbation and try not to have sex while drunk. I also bought Trojan Thintensity condoms, which have helped a bit.

Any tips or advice here would be appreciated. Anyone else have a similar problem???

 

[PinotNoir]

It's going to sound dumb, but masturbate with some condoms on. It's like pavlov's dogs with connecting pleasure to condoms. Get yourself extremely horny with some videos, and then after you feel like your dick is going to burst with ecstasy, put the condom on and masturbate.

Now, you don't want to do this too much. Because also one of the good things about condoms is being able to last longer and give the girls more orgasms

Also, try other condoms, but it sounds like you've already been doing that. Cheap condoms make my dick feel like it's in a vise-grip with no way out...

EDIT: I think this is obvious, but just a note that you will have to use lotion in your hand to cum in a condom. Don't put lotion in the condom -- as that's a different feeling and not something you'll be doing when having sex (the condom would come off and you'd be getting some babies).

 

[Grand Pooba]

Try using polyurethane condoms. Brands I personally like are "Sagami 002" and "Okamoto 0.02," which are both Japanese and can be bought on Amazon. Polyurethane condoms transfer heat very well, and it feels like there is nothing there. On the flip side, you will need to apply extra lube as these dry out fast and you don't want them to break from too much friction.

 

[Cam87]

Thanks for the tips guys!

At this point it's a bit psychological too. Too in my mind.

 

[Grand Pooba]

I know all about the psychological component. I went through a phase in my life where I couldn't keep my erection if I used a condom. In other words, everything would be going smoothly with a girl, our clothes were off, she'd be wet and horny, she would start asking me to put it in her, and the EXACT moment that I took out the condom and began to put it on, I would start to lose it. It was the worst feeling possible and I couldn't help but be disappointed. It didn't help my self esteem with sex either, nor is it easy to explain to a girl. The worst part is that the more I thought about it, the more I would psych myself out, and it ONLY happened when I used condoms.

I got past this through practice, a lot of patience, and focusing less on the actual act of putting it on and more on the situation at hand. I sometimes even build up the sex in my head. Maybe something similar might help you with finishing, i.e. imagine a time where you had really good sex, and think about it. Or maybe focus on a part of her body that you really, really like. I feel that a lot of times these types of things are more mental than anything else, but that's just me.

 

[Chase]

Cam-

If you only have sex with condoms for a while, you'll regain sensation while wearing them. Your penis gets used to it, and the sensation with a condom becomes almost as sensitive as it was before without one.

Of course, you can't go bareback at that point, or you'll lose all that - suddenly you take the condom off, and it feels way better with way more sensation than you'd become accustomed to. Then you have to retrain yourself on using condoms all over again.

Chase