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For the longest time I've been consciously mirroring other people, including and especially girls, because I've found it to be the only way I can get my interactions to have some semblance of smoothness. I started to feel pretty feminine which scared me a lot, and have stopped doing it--but this has caused a problem. Without the mirroring, girls tend to be nervous around me (in an awkward/uncomfortable way, not an attracted way) and I lose my intuition for what to do.
So my question is, does anyone consciously mirror girls? If so, when? And, how much spontaneous (unconscious) mirroring do you notice in yourself with girls, and is this related to doing well/not well with them?
In general I would like to reduce the mirroring (intentional or spontaneous) I do as much as possible; it temporarily improves interactions but then caves as I start to feel feminine in my experience. Obviously unconscious mimicry is just part of socializing, but I can tell if it's good or just making me seem more reactive
So my question is, does anyone consciously mirror girls? If so, when? And, how much spontaneous (unconscious) mirroring do you notice in yourself with girls, and is this related to doing well/not well with them?
In general I would like to reduce the mirroring (intentional or spontaneous) I do as much as possible; it temporarily improves interactions but then caves as I start to feel feminine in my experience. Obviously unconscious mimicry is just part of socializing, but I can tell if it's good or just making me seem more reactive
