Hey guys,
I'm not sure if this has been discussed earlier or you already use it in your dates but I thought I'll share this technique which I use on dates that rapidly builds attraction and comfort.
This is similar to conversation threading but this technique amplifies it a little more that you'll discover below..
Let's say you are deep diving a girl asking her the 8 important questions and eliciting her values, every now and then make a mental note of few key words and topics that she talks about. These need to be tiny details which are very insignificant. This is the key of this technique. Jump off of that subject and bring back that tiny detail later in the conversation. This does a few things, this shows that you were really listening to what she was saying and you really pay attention to her that you recorded even the tiny details. This builds massive attraction as a good listener and good conversationalist to begin with but also shows your intelligence, social skill and your groundedness.
Further, this builds massive amounts of comfort which I always think is paramount compared to attraction. This makes her trust you and think of you as someone who isn't talking to her only to get inside her pants.
Let me give you an example:
Me: What's your favorite place that you've been to where you'd like to go again, even if you're waken up in the middle of the night?
She: I like to go to X place.
Me: What is so special about that place?
She: Blah Blah Blah.. When I went there, I was walking along the beach and came across this small stream of water that was flowing into the sea. When I was walking over that bridge, I saw this stone formed in the shape of a castle naturally. What I really liked about that stone castle is the color of it. It was somewhat greenish yellow. It was just so amazing.
Me: Nice.. I can relate to what you're saying, there are some things that catch your attention and makes you feel a certain way. I think it happens because there are experiences that have happened in our lives that are stored subconsciously without our conscious knowledge and they resurface and bring back those emotions again which makes us feel the way we feel.
She: Interesting, I had not thought about that.
Me: Yeah, interesting isn't it? I like psychology and think there is so much connection between what happens around us and what goes on in our minds. Are you interested in psychology?
She: Yeah, I love it.. blah blah blah..
Me: Let's go to the beach. You'll love it.
She: Let's go
After 20 mins and several other topics..
Me: (While walking.. ) Do you notice that color on that wall?
She: Yeah.. what about that?
Me: It reminded me of the Greenish yellow color stone castle that you mentioned earlier. Was it the same color?
She: Grinning.. Haha.. ya, something similar to that
You can see her face light up...
You can do this with whatever she says. The topic itself doesn't matter. It's the fact that you remembered what she told you.
You can do this 2-3 times max. Don't over do it, you'll come across autistic, trying to remember tiny details of everything.
If she asks if you remember everything? Say you're known to be a good listener but sometimes the way someone describes it makes a lot of difference and can be impactful. This makes her invest more and more (rewarding good behavior
)
Cheers
I'm not sure if this has been discussed earlier or you already use it in your dates but I thought I'll share this technique which I use on dates that rapidly builds attraction and comfort.
This is similar to conversation threading but this technique amplifies it a little more that you'll discover below..
Let's say you are deep diving a girl asking her the 8 important questions and eliciting her values, every now and then make a mental note of few key words and topics that she talks about. These need to be tiny details which are very insignificant. This is the key of this technique. Jump off of that subject and bring back that tiny detail later in the conversation. This does a few things, this shows that you were really listening to what she was saying and you really pay attention to her that you recorded even the tiny details. This builds massive attraction as a good listener and good conversationalist to begin with but also shows your intelligence, social skill and your groundedness.
Further, this builds massive amounts of comfort which I always think is paramount compared to attraction. This makes her trust you and think of you as someone who isn't talking to her only to get inside her pants.
Let me give you an example:
Me: What's your favorite place that you've been to where you'd like to go again, even if you're waken up in the middle of the night?
She: I like to go to X place.
Me: What is so special about that place?
She: Blah Blah Blah.. When I went there, I was walking along the beach and came across this small stream of water that was flowing into the sea. When I was walking over that bridge, I saw this stone formed in the shape of a castle naturally. What I really liked about that stone castle is the color of it. It was somewhat greenish yellow. It was just so amazing.
Me: Nice.. I can relate to what you're saying, there are some things that catch your attention and makes you feel a certain way. I think it happens because there are experiences that have happened in our lives that are stored subconsciously without our conscious knowledge and they resurface and bring back those emotions again which makes us feel the way we feel.
She: Interesting, I had not thought about that.
Me: Yeah, interesting isn't it? I like psychology and think there is so much connection between what happens around us and what goes on in our minds. Are you interested in psychology?
She: Yeah, I love it.. blah blah blah..
Me: Let's go to the beach. You'll love it.
She: Let's go
After 20 mins and several other topics..
Me: (While walking.. ) Do you notice that color on that wall?
She: Yeah.. what about that?
Me: It reminded me of the Greenish yellow color stone castle that you mentioned earlier. Was it the same color?
She: Grinning.. Haha.. ya, something similar to that
You can see her face light up...
You can do this with whatever she says. The topic itself doesn't matter. It's the fact that you remembered what she told you.
You can do this 2-3 times max. Don't over do it, you'll come across autistic, trying to remember tiny details of everything.
If she asks if you remember everything? Say you're known to be a good listener but sometimes the way someone describes it makes a lot of difference and can be impactful. This makes her invest more and more (rewarding good behavior
)Cheers
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