First of all, im pretty new to this blog and forum.
Im a guy who for a long time didn't went out a lot and then I just started to do it cuz I felt like doing so. When I started going out I could feel that women were attracted to me, i'm sure about that. I was just crazy cuz i haven't went to bars or clubs in so many years that I didn't know I had that attractiveness. I found it incredible so I started trying to analize situations, and to make the story short I discover (by my own) lots of things that Chase teaches (elite eye contact, tease no to make a conversation to deep and boring, fundamentals in general, etc). Im kind of an attractive guy so that helps and I've actually had good fundamentals (although i never thought of them until reading Chase's book 'How to make girls chase'). I've got many qualities in me so that when I read the book many things were pretty familiar to me. It felt great to have discover this by my own. But theres was still LOT to improve cuz im no PUA at all (I yet need to improve so much, like opening with no hesitation, transition well on stages, etc). I've got advantages and I'm sure it will be easier and quicker for me than the regular guy.
The thing i wanted to know is something that just happened to me today at a party. There is a girl that i knew because she works in a place where i sometimes go. Like 2 days ago we were sitting near (there were like 6 guys and her so it was almost impossible to hit on her and escalate. Well, at least thats is what i think as there are to many guys in a situation that is more like a friend gathering) and she casually touch my leg with hers. Of course i stretched my legs so i make it easier for her. But there were touches that she could definitely could have not made if she wanted so. Also a grab there when talking. She wanted those touches to happen because sometimes I didnt iniciate them, I just left my leg really near so she could touch me (i also did the same thing were I gently iniciate the touch). I took this as a sign of interest cuz it was deliberately touching. Leaving from there (and 2 other guys), while walking, she was also pretty close to my side and the same thing in the cab where my arm was touching her thigh's side.
Today, in a party. I saw her buy avoided eye contact. Im pretty sure at a moment she move so i could spot her but I kept avoiding like I didn't see her. I just didn't want to go directly to her just to say hi. When her friend (a guy) saw me and wave at me I came close to say hi to everyone. I stay with the guy and other 2 friends. After a while she was leaving and we talked. She told me she was going to the bathroom and so I told her: okay, come back. I did this assuming she is already chasing, which i'm pretty sure. After a while she came but stayed talking to a guy behind me. A few minutes later someone took my arm, like putting his whole arm under mine (like when a father walks with a bride to a wedding) and stand next to me: it was her. We talk a little. I wasted no time. Almost as soon as that happened i grabbed her hand to see if she had anything written in her hand (one day i saw she had something writing in her hand and ask her about it), then took the other and said that i was looking for something because there were like her notebooks (she laughed). Then I told her to go with me to grab a drink I had already bought. She came. She waited for me to get my drink. Then we went outside and hold her hand to guide her. When we got outside she kinda changed. She started looking for his friends. She told me she wanted to know where they were. She walk to ask someone and I follow. Then inmediately returned and i said to myself "fuck you" and started to talk to some girls i knew in other table. I clearly saw a change in her so I didn't want to be like a pursuer. She went directly to stand besides other friend and after that we never really interact again almost. But later she was with other, and other. And at the end with a guy is his roommate and they were pretty much the whole time together but not really doing anything at all. I'm pretty glad I didn't follow cuz It would have been being with someone that its just no alone with me anymore and in other mindset for some reason.
I wonder. Could it have be my fault for the conversation? (She told me she saw the movie Django and I ended up talkin about Titanic because DiCaprio is in both movies. And how he turned out to be a really good actor) I guess is not that. Just because our interaction from the moment she grab my arm and stand by my side to the moment she said she wanted to know where were her friends was no more than 7 minutes, really. Is kinda weird that she let me touch her, grab her, comply to my request and then move away. Is it possible that is a way to test me? I took like that and that's why i said to myself fuck you and started to talk to other girls (who were more than happy with me. I'm quite charismatic). I'm glad I didn't follow i would have ended with her and the other friend were I could have not done anything. Eventually leaving for sure just to talk to other girls. Maybe I'm kinda curious for something doesn't matter. Perhaps she didn't want anything more because of her roomy (cuz they went together to the movies). Anyone who care to comment on this great. But a question that this situation has leave me is: Is it possible for a girl to test you in that way? Which is be with you and just leave to see what you do? If so, i guess my decision was perfect: not to chase after her and just continue with my night interacting with other people as if I don't care (which i don't really care much although she is pretty. Plenty of fish in the ocean, right?)
Any insights?
PS: If doing this kind of post to seek advice is not what this board of Field Reports is about please tell me so.
Im a guy who for a long time didn't went out a lot and then I just started to do it cuz I felt like doing so. When I started going out I could feel that women were attracted to me, i'm sure about that. I was just crazy cuz i haven't went to bars or clubs in so many years that I didn't know I had that attractiveness. I found it incredible so I started trying to analize situations, and to make the story short I discover (by my own) lots of things that Chase teaches (elite eye contact, tease no to make a conversation to deep and boring, fundamentals in general, etc). Im kind of an attractive guy so that helps and I've actually had good fundamentals (although i never thought of them until reading Chase's book 'How to make girls chase'). I've got many qualities in me so that when I read the book many things were pretty familiar to me. It felt great to have discover this by my own. But theres was still LOT to improve cuz im no PUA at all (I yet need to improve so much, like opening with no hesitation, transition well on stages, etc). I've got advantages and I'm sure it will be easier and quicker for me than the regular guy.
The thing i wanted to know is something that just happened to me today at a party. There is a girl that i knew because she works in a place where i sometimes go. Like 2 days ago we were sitting near (there were like 6 guys and her so it was almost impossible to hit on her and escalate. Well, at least thats is what i think as there are to many guys in a situation that is more like a friend gathering) and she casually touch my leg with hers. Of course i stretched my legs so i make it easier for her. But there were touches that she could definitely could have not made if she wanted so. Also a grab there when talking. She wanted those touches to happen because sometimes I didnt iniciate them, I just left my leg really near so she could touch me (i also did the same thing were I gently iniciate the touch). I took this as a sign of interest cuz it was deliberately touching. Leaving from there (and 2 other guys), while walking, she was also pretty close to my side and the same thing in the cab where my arm was touching her thigh's side.
Today, in a party. I saw her buy avoided eye contact. Im pretty sure at a moment she move so i could spot her but I kept avoiding like I didn't see her. I just didn't want to go directly to her just to say hi. When her friend (a guy) saw me and wave at me I came close to say hi to everyone. I stay with the guy and other 2 friends. After a while she was leaving and we talked. She told me she was going to the bathroom and so I told her: okay, come back. I did this assuming she is already chasing, which i'm pretty sure. After a while she came but stayed talking to a guy behind me. A few minutes later someone took my arm, like putting his whole arm under mine (like when a father walks with a bride to a wedding) and stand next to me: it was her. We talk a little. I wasted no time. Almost as soon as that happened i grabbed her hand to see if she had anything written in her hand (one day i saw she had something writing in her hand and ask her about it), then took the other and said that i was looking for something because there were like her notebooks (she laughed). Then I told her to go with me to grab a drink I had already bought. She came. She waited for me to get my drink. Then we went outside and hold her hand to guide her. When we got outside she kinda changed. She started looking for his friends. She told me she wanted to know where they were. She walk to ask someone and I follow. Then inmediately returned and i said to myself "fuck you" and started to talk to some girls i knew in other table. I clearly saw a change in her so I didn't want to be like a pursuer. She went directly to stand besides other friend and after that we never really interact again almost. But later she was with other, and other. And at the end with a guy is his roommate and they were pretty much the whole time together but not really doing anything at all. I'm pretty glad I didn't follow cuz It would have been being with someone that its just no alone with me anymore and in other mindset for some reason.
I wonder. Could it have be my fault for the conversation? (She told me she saw the movie Django and I ended up talkin about Titanic because DiCaprio is in both movies. And how he turned out to be a really good actor) I guess is not that. Just because our interaction from the moment she grab my arm and stand by my side to the moment she said she wanted to know where were her friends was no more than 7 minutes, really. Is kinda weird that she let me touch her, grab her, comply to my request and then move away. Is it possible that is a way to test me? I took like that and that's why i said to myself fuck you and started to talk to other girls (who were more than happy with me. I'm quite charismatic). I'm glad I didn't follow i would have ended with her and the other friend were I could have not done anything. Eventually leaving for sure just to talk to other girls. Maybe I'm kinda curious for something doesn't matter. Perhaps she didn't want anything more because of her roomy (cuz they went together to the movies). Anyone who care to comment on this great. But a question that this situation has leave me is: Is it possible for a girl to test you in that way? Which is be with you and just leave to see what you do? If so, i guess my decision was perfect: not to chase after her and just continue with my night interacting with other people as if I don't care (which i don't really care much although she is pretty. Plenty of fish in the ocean, right?)
Any insights?
PS: If doing this kind of post to seek advice is not what this board of Field Reports is about please tell me so.
