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One thing I notice newer guys tend to trip over quite a bit is displaying higher value. New guys have often found game through the pickup scene which says that a guy must demonstrate higher value or "DHV" to every girl he meets if he wants to be perceived as an alpha male. Where a lot of pickup artists get DHV wrong is that they believe that women are attracted to obvious (or overt) displays of higher value. This affects mainstream thinking as well. Guys think that the guy with riches always gets the girl. Because of this, they feel as if they don't have to learn game. They then purchase a lot of expensive things and work their ass off at a job they don't really like. When they realize that doing this was all for naught, they then *attempt* to learn game.
Women communicate and operate at a level from men. Women generally tend to communicate through overt or indirect words, phrases, and gestures. It's no surprise then, that women are better at reading body language than men. Men operate on a more direct level and are more concentrated on the surface meaning of things. Men are better at adapting to an covert mentality than woman are to an overt one. When you try to pull the woman into your masculine, rational, direct world, she will feel uncomfortable and want out. Have you noticed that it is MUCH easier to talk to men in direct, interview style conversation and get a deep conversation than it is to a woman? With a woman you will only go so far with this direct interview style conversation. Women are much more comfortable with insinuations.
Now, back to the subject of "DHVing". Overt displays of wealth and status do little to anything to turn a woman on. When you're out on a date, she doesn't care how much money you made last year. She doesn't care that you have the Diablo parked out in valet parking. She doesn't care that you have a house in Biscayne Bay. She doesn't care that you donated $150,000 to a homeless shelter. She doesn't care that you frequently visit Monaco. But the thing is, she DOES care... if you do it the right way. When talking about money with a woman, you never want to give solid details. You should treat your exorbitant wealth as just another consequence of your lifestyle. If you get in the Diablo and start it up like it's just another car, it won't be an issue. If she asks: "Oh my god, is this a Lamborghini?" You say: "Yeah, it is." Then you change the subject. Not only have you "demonstrated higher value", but it is an overt display of higher value. You aren't saying "Yeah, my Lamborghini is so fucking awesome. I paid 300,000 for it and I have three others like it in my garage in my exclusive penthouse." No. No. No. No. Women often enjoy unwrapping the layers of mystery that surround a man and if you brag about things like this, you can often sour the moment.
What is "high value" to one girl may be different to the next girl. A Brooklyn indie hipster chick may have different values than a Miami beach girl. Or a Cali beach girl. Still, to most Americans, wealth is an indicator of high status or "high value" because it is the one thing that often guarantees easy acquisition of resources. A girl may see a guy who rips incredible solos on guitar as a "high value" male rather than the guy who is rich. In that case, same rules apply. You don't talk about how awesome you are on guitar. You show it and act as if it isn't that big of a deal.
This is similar to Chase's post on Sprezzatura. https://www.girlschase.com/content/sprez ... -investing
I hope this post cleared some things up for some of you guys so you don't make the same mistakes many others have made.
More success in 2013 and beyond.
Women communicate and operate at a level from men. Women generally tend to communicate through overt or indirect words, phrases, and gestures. It's no surprise then, that women are better at reading body language than men. Men operate on a more direct level and are more concentrated on the surface meaning of things. Men are better at adapting to an covert mentality than woman are to an overt one. When you try to pull the woman into your masculine, rational, direct world, she will feel uncomfortable and want out. Have you noticed that it is MUCH easier to talk to men in direct, interview style conversation and get a deep conversation than it is to a woman? With a woman you will only go so far with this direct interview style conversation. Women are much more comfortable with insinuations.
Now, back to the subject of "DHVing". Overt displays of wealth and status do little to anything to turn a woman on. When you're out on a date, she doesn't care how much money you made last year. She doesn't care that you have the Diablo parked out in valet parking. She doesn't care that you have a house in Biscayne Bay. She doesn't care that you donated $150,000 to a homeless shelter. She doesn't care that you frequently visit Monaco. But the thing is, she DOES care... if you do it the right way. When talking about money with a woman, you never want to give solid details. You should treat your exorbitant wealth as just another consequence of your lifestyle. If you get in the Diablo and start it up like it's just another car, it won't be an issue. If she asks: "Oh my god, is this a Lamborghini?" You say: "Yeah, it is." Then you change the subject. Not only have you "demonstrated higher value", but it is an overt display of higher value. You aren't saying "Yeah, my Lamborghini is so fucking awesome. I paid 300,000 for it and I have three others like it in my garage in my exclusive penthouse." No. No. No. No. Women often enjoy unwrapping the layers of mystery that surround a man and if you brag about things like this, you can often sour the moment.
What is "high value" to one girl may be different to the next girl. A Brooklyn indie hipster chick may have different values than a Miami beach girl. Or a Cali beach girl. Still, to most Americans, wealth is an indicator of high status or "high value" because it is the one thing that often guarantees easy acquisition of resources. A girl may see a guy who rips incredible solos on guitar as a "high value" male rather than the guy who is rich. In that case, same rules apply. You don't talk about how awesome you are on guitar. You show it and act as if it isn't that big of a deal.
This is similar to Chase's post on Sprezzatura. https://www.girlschase.com/content/sprez ... -investing
I hope this post cleared some things up for some of you guys so you don't make the same mistakes many others have made.
More success in 2013 and beyond.
