Dancing on New Years And Competiton.

[Anonymous]

Taking a girl out dancing on New Years and I want to make her
never take her eyes off me. In other words her focus becomes me.


Details. Lived with my girlfriend for last ten months. Was what I call pretty happy.
She gets a new job working 16hours a day. I react clingy. Dumb I know. It breaks down
months later and we both move out. A ton of work went into getting this girl
back interested in me. A huge thanks to this website and it's texting clues. I realize
I broke the rule of effort. But beingthat it's an ex it required
That work.

So she wants to try dating. A simple start and I thought it great idea. Probably another rule
But we did have sex agian. We having amazing sex, which is for the most part
My doing. She isn't going to find it anywhere else. I know I can use this tool.

I want to work on the social and outer effects of the relationship. My sex appeal wall, and
over behavior has changed substantial. I am getting other girls phone number, and going on
Those dates with "success". It's only way I could change my "clingy" mindset.

She has noticed all this. Here in lies the problem. She wants to fun and flirty. And I laid the correct
Frame down, she is absolutely not to have sex with other guys. She didn't buck one bit. I've been
more dominant and controlling and she has been submissive.

The agreement made was "we are dating"

New years we are going out to dance, county bar. Line/swing/cha cha/ Walt.

There was no way to frame break fun and flirty. She will be talking to other guys
and to be honest gals. She wants to have fun with "toys" which she
refers to other women.

I'm already guaranteed the midnight kiss and I will be going home with her.

I just don't know how play out the night. I want to capture interst, so she doesnt
even think about being flirty. If I play his wrong
and frame battle, such as hovering or interfearing with her dancing with a rando
Guy. I lose.

 

[Anonymous]

I thought I might help to described her.

She was raised poor and worked
Hard to get somewhere in life.
Works as a manger and is dominate
On the workplace. This helps
Like crazy in the bedroom as she
Enjoys being submissive. Is naturally
social. I suspect she seek approval
Or acceptance from those she sees as higher
Class because she feels she earned her life.
We met through dancing and mutual friends.
As we both enjoy it, it is our common bond.

 

[Anonymous]

My thoughts.... I need to immediately go and start talking to other women. My day can only be hurt by "hovering". If I produce enough jealousy she will pull me back to the table? I know the risk is she will want to talk to guys... She going to do that anyway, I'm still the winner at the end of the night? Would really love some input on this.

 

[Just_Dave]

Hey Cowrevenge,

First let me address you to Chase article about dance floor game.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/tactics-tuesdays-dance-floor-game

Next let me handle this as a "working" relationship I applaud you managing to tie her down into the whole "we are together". In general I'll also direct you to ways to lose girls.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/4-things-will-lose-you-your-girlfriend

From an actual boyfriend approach Just Dave no bullshit perspective, keep it chill bro!
1. She's "with" you, dating whatever you want to call it
2. Your only competition is yourself
3. Your already guaranteed to win according to you!

What I'm really getting at here is don't psych yourself out. You worried about things that probably aren't ever going to happen. Just have fun for the evening, meet some people and enjoy the time. When you decide that it's time to go take her with you. Besides you make it sound like you're an dancing expert. Just focus on yourself and have a great time!

But wait there's still more!!!!!
1. Remember to make sweet love to her at the end of the night!
2. Don't give her too much fun dancing
3. "Women relate dancing to sex" Hitch

Enjoy the weekend,

Just Dave (The D is silent, Django Unchained yes I'm pushing that movie!!!)