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Hi,
This girl is the cousin of my sister's boyfriend. He presented us through facebook.
We talked a lot, got along pretty good and tried to set up a date. But then she flaked a lot, hours before she would come up with some excuse and re-schedule for other day (she was the one that tried to)
I got tired and stopped talking to her for a few weeks, then started talking again, didn't mention a date. And suddenly one day she talked to me first and in the conversation she said "we still have to meet up!" So we set up a date for a few days later. The idea was a coffee, though we also ended up playing a pool game close to where the cafe is.
I tried to talk little and let her do the talking and more or less I got it good, asking little and just hearing while walking around town. But then the problem came when we had to decide where to go, we were walking to one direction (aimlessly) when she said while walking
She: Where should we go?
I: Do you like to play pool?
She: Yes! though I'm not very good
I: No problem, Let's go to "bar 1" to play some
She: But that's to the opposite side
Then it became awkward, there was also "bar2", which was the way we were going, so I tried to go there instead, but it was like, "so where should we go?" and didn't have enough confidence/dominance to do it nicely.
It was a little short awkward moment tough, nothing big. Then we got to "bar2" and played some. Tried to enter the wrong door (I need to guide better lol). Had fun, chatted and had a nice time as far as I know.
Then we went to the coffee shop, and we sat in front of each other. There was some nice conversation and lots of eye contact, but no sexual vibe, or frames, and very little flirty vibe, it felt a bit like talking to a good friend.
Also whenever we crossed street I would put my hand in her back and also touch her shoulder/hips when making a point.
After that I took her to a park and we sat next to each other in a bench, I was planning to lock some eye contact, get closer and go for the kiss.
But she didn't look at me directly, she looked away and kept talking. I put my hand behind her without touching her (leaning on the bench). But didn't grab enough courage to actually put my arm around her (Should i have?)
I couldn't get her to look at me or point her body at me, so we just kept talking for a bit until we both had to go home.
I can't get that sexual/flirty vibe going easily, but each time it's a bit better. This time for example I talked less and tried to be a bit calmer and less emotional. Thad helped but I think I need to show interest more directly, and more physically.
After a few hours, I texted her and received by mistake a text meant for her friend that said "nope, nothing happened, I even got bored at one point" Which I guess was about me. That I think, means that she wanted/expected something to happen and got disappointed. This is another argument in favor of being more aggressive/interested.
A final question, would trying to set up a second date be worth it? one where I do things more agressively, or what should I do if I get in another date with her?
This girl is the cousin of my sister's boyfriend. He presented us through facebook.
We talked a lot, got along pretty good and tried to set up a date. But then she flaked a lot, hours before she would come up with some excuse and re-schedule for other day (she was the one that tried to)
I got tired and stopped talking to her for a few weeks, then started talking again, didn't mention a date. And suddenly one day she talked to me first and in the conversation she said "we still have to meet up!" So we set up a date for a few days later. The idea was a coffee, though we also ended up playing a pool game close to where the cafe is.
I tried to talk little and let her do the talking and more or less I got it good, asking little and just hearing while walking around town. But then the problem came when we had to decide where to go, we were walking to one direction (aimlessly) when she said while walking
She: Where should we go?
I: Do you like to play pool?
She: Yes! though I'm not very good
I: No problem, Let's go to "bar 1" to play some
She: But that's to the opposite side
Then it became awkward, there was also "bar2", which was the way we were going, so I tried to go there instead, but it was like, "so where should we go?" and didn't have enough confidence/dominance to do it nicely.
It was a little short awkward moment tough, nothing big. Then we got to "bar2" and played some. Tried to enter the wrong door (I need to guide better lol). Had fun, chatted and had a nice time as far as I know.
Then we went to the coffee shop, and we sat in front of each other. There was some nice conversation and lots of eye contact, but no sexual vibe, or frames, and very little flirty vibe, it felt a bit like talking to a good friend.
Also whenever we crossed street I would put my hand in her back and also touch her shoulder/hips when making a point.
After that I took her to a park and we sat next to each other in a bench, I was planning to lock some eye contact, get closer and go for the kiss.
But she didn't look at me directly, she looked away and kept talking. I put my hand behind her without touching her (leaning on the bench). But didn't grab enough courage to actually put my arm around her (Should i have?)
I couldn't get her to look at me or point her body at me, so we just kept talking for a bit until we both had to go home.
I can't get that sexual/flirty vibe going easily, but each time it's a bit better. This time for example I talked less and tried to be a bit calmer and less emotional. Thad helped but I think I need to show interest more directly, and more physically.
After a few hours, I texted her and received by mistake a text meant for her friend that said "nope, nothing happened, I even got bored at one point" Which I guess was about me. That I think, means that she wanted/expected something to happen and got disappointed. This is another argument in favor of being more aggressive/interested.
A final question, would trying to set up a second date be worth it? one where I do things more agressively, or what should I do if I get in another date with her?
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