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Hey hey hey,
The girl
So, I have a date on Saturday with girl I matched with on Hinge. 32, pretty cute. Girl seems pretty invested, we've been chit-chatting a bit on whattsap, just what have you been up to kindof stuff. I was basically trying to keep things ticking along, as she couldn't come out last weekend.
She answers back pretty quickly, even when she's at work, lots of smiley faces from her, lols at my jokes (although, tbf, I am hilarious).
There's nothing on her profile to say she's just looking for a husband, but also nothing to suggest she's just looking for a good time.
The frame
But she's been asking a few 'potential boyfriend' type questions, like if I'd been married before (i'm divorced), if I had kids (nope!).
I might be reading too much into it, and she just wants to check that I'm not a dick.
So, I'm quite keen to avoid being seen as 'the boyfriend' and want to be 'guy who is cool to hook up with every now and again'
I realise I have to frame it as she is entering my world, rather than the other way around, but still new to the idea of them chasing me.
Any tips for this? Or pitfalls to avoid?
The Date
Was on a date recently (my first in quite a while) and had no plan, we went to bar in the afternoon and just ended up getting very drunk, which wasn't really what I had in mind. So, I'm keen to avoid that happening again.
I've suggested a walk and a few drinks near where I live, said I'd flirt with her a bit. She's up for that.
So I'm thinking try the 3 bounce thing, meet in my local area (it's a nice part of town) for coffee, maybe a walk in nearby park, then some drinks at bar near me, then back to mine (well that's the plan anyway).
I've got the articles by @POB and @Skills about the 3 bounce technique.
Not sure, when is best to start? early afternoon? what about food?
It's either that, or drinks in early evening at bar near me, then back to mine (hopefully).
If you guys have any suggestions about how best to approach this, then I'm all ears.
Thanks
The girl
So, I have a date on Saturday with girl I matched with on Hinge. 32, pretty cute. Girl seems pretty invested, we've been chit-chatting a bit on whattsap, just what have you been up to kindof stuff. I was basically trying to keep things ticking along, as she couldn't come out last weekend.
She answers back pretty quickly, even when she's at work, lots of smiley faces from her, lols at my jokes (although, tbf, I am hilarious).
There's nothing on her profile to say she's just looking for a husband, but also nothing to suggest she's just looking for a good time.
The frame
But she's been asking a few 'potential boyfriend' type questions, like if I'd been married before (i'm divorced), if I had kids (nope!).
I might be reading too much into it, and she just wants to check that I'm not a dick.
So, I'm quite keen to avoid being seen as 'the boyfriend' and want to be 'guy who is cool to hook up with every now and again'
I realise I have to frame it as she is entering my world, rather than the other way around, but still new to the idea of them chasing me.
Any tips for this? Or pitfalls to avoid?
The Date
Was on a date recently (my first in quite a while) and had no plan, we went to bar in the afternoon and just ended up getting very drunk, which wasn't really what I had in mind. So, I'm keen to avoid that happening again.
I've suggested a walk and a few drinks near where I live, said I'd flirt with her a bit. She's up for that.
So I'm thinking try the 3 bounce thing, meet in my local area (it's a nice part of town) for coffee, maybe a walk in nearby park, then some drinks at bar near me, then back to mine (well that's the plan anyway).
I've got the articles by @POB and @Skills about the 3 bounce technique.
Not sure, when is best to start? early afternoon? what about food?
It's either that, or drinks in early evening at bar near me, then back to mine (hopefully).
If you guys have any suggestions about how best to approach this, then I'm all ears.
Thanks