As I am traveling in Kenya and having a very -highlight very- easy time getting laid, tonight I had a "wow" moment speaking with a very well traveled and smart local girl about dating.
I'll make it all shorter for ease of reading -and writing-: contrary to what was my idea, such as that black guy tend to be very forward, she explained instead that somehow here the men have the upper hand in dating here. Because of that, there's a strong tendency for the men to be passive while the women are the ones driving forward the dating game.
This is reflected in social ambition as well: black men in Africa tend not to care too much about improving their career and social standing in general. They'll get some anyway.
Often black girls are the ones to even do the approaching.
Suddenly it clicked.
Why were all those black women I was meeting in Europe always warm? Why were they replying to my texts so much more commonly than white ones? Even much more commonly than Asian ones, and I do relatively well in that category.
Why were they even doing the absolute anathema among white girls: calling you if you left your contact?
I always thought it was because they liked white guys. But in Europe that doesn't hold too well. I thought because they played less "games" compared to the white ones. That they were naturally more straightforward -which might still be the case-.
Now, if what this girl told me is right, it finally makes all sense: they were warm and replying and calling me back because they were used to taking a leading role in dating.
Thoughts?
I'll make it all shorter for ease of reading -and writing-: contrary to what was my idea, such as that black guy tend to be very forward, she explained instead that somehow here the men have the upper hand in dating here. Because of that, there's a strong tendency for the men to be passive while the women are the ones driving forward the dating game.
This is reflected in social ambition as well: black men in Africa tend not to care too much about improving their career and social standing in general. They'll get some anyway.
Often black girls are the ones to even do the approaching.
Suddenly it clicked.
Why were all those black women I was meeting in Europe always warm? Why were they replying to my texts so much more commonly than white ones? Even much more commonly than Asian ones, and I do relatively well in that category.
Why were they even doing the absolute anathema among white girls: calling you if you left your contact?
I always thought it was because they liked white guys. But in Europe that doesn't hold too well. I thought because they played less "games" compared to the white ones. That they were naturally more straightforward -which might still be the case-.
Now, if what this girl told me is right, it finally makes all sense: they were warm and replying and calling me back because they were used to taking a leading role in dating.
Thoughts?
