Day Game Goals for November

[Marty]

Three is a manageable number:

1. Be emotionally unreactive on the opening.

• At present, I am "mirroring" excessively... if she smiles at my genuine interest, I smile back too broadly and come across as lighthearted and friendly, rather than passionate; if she frowns with intense surprise and concentration at the unfamiliar situation, I frown too, and allow the tone to become dull and downbeat, spiking an auto-rejection and ending the interaction prematurely.
  
  My goal is to maintain a breezy, devil-may-care serenity inside; a wry, secretive, impudent smile on my face; and a soulful, suave, unhurried passion in my voice—with only minor finesse to adjust for her observed reaction.

2. Dive right in and start swimming.

• By using simple, attention-demanding phrases to pace her reality, I gain myself an audience and am forced to continue the interaction, thereby avoiding missed openings through hesitation and not knowing what approach to use. "Do you have a second?" "Hey, you know what?" This concept is discussed further here.

3. Persist.

• Recently I have gotten into a nasty habit of "letting her go" if conversation comes to a premature standstill, due to my lack of process. By being prepared, I can give her what she (hopefully) wants: "Don't go just yet... I hardly know anything about you. Tell me something about yourself. What do you do... work, study?"—and from there, proceeding into a deep-dive is natural and simple. Commonsense, when you think about it! )