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Sometimes in social circle I see the following from women I've interacted with before, there's tension in their voice, they have uncomfortable, closed off body language, they won't really make eye contact. I've seen this before with different women when:
1) Asking a woman who was showing interest if they want meet up and they respond with "I can't I'm busy" and behave like this for a while before suddenly switching behavior and becoming warm again a few days later.
2) A woman who was showing interest but didn't want to meet up said she likes me as a friend, I said I don't think of her as a friend and then she acts as described for about four hours when seeing another woman enjoy an interacting with me; so I left her alone and then she switches to harm and friendly before reverting to the described behavior again the next day.
3) A woman agrees to meet and then changes her mind and says she's busy.
4) When a woman obviously likes me, but when near me she behaves as described.
The problem is I don't know what I'm seeing. Is this a form of autoreject? I assume that when they do this they are contemplating something, the thing is I don't know if they should be left alone when behaving like this, should they be left to cool off and initiate contact themselves, or if I should be initiating contact?
Also, sometimes when trying to talk out drama with a woman I encounter the following power play where they say something like "I don't want to talk about this right now, we can talk about it next week or something". I suggest we can talk about it now, they refuse and say they can't because they are busy (not true) and suggest next week. Obviously this is a form of punishment on their part and they are trying to set up a situation where you're waiting a week for them to talk it over. How should this be handled?
And when a woman throws out an "I'm busy" when you suggest a meet, and you know it's not a real "I'm busy" but more if "I don't want to go", should you be attempting to win a battle for frame control regarding their availability and the amount of time you would spend together, or should you just let it go and attempt to build more attraction, etc and try again another time?
1) Asking a woman who was showing interest if they want meet up and they respond with "I can't I'm busy" and behave like this for a while before suddenly switching behavior and becoming warm again a few days later.
2) A woman who was showing interest but didn't want to meet up said she likes me as a friend, I said I don't think of her as a friend and then she acts as described for about four hours when seeing another woman enjoy an interacting with me; so I left her alone and then she switches to harm and friendly before reverting to the described behavior again the next day.
3) A woman agrees to meet and then changes her mind and says she's busy.
4) When a woman obviously likes me, but when near me she behaves as described.
The problem is I don't know what I'm seeing. Is this a form of autoreject? I assume that when they do this they are contemplating something, the thing is I don't know if they should be left alone when behaving like this, should they be left to cool off and initiate contact themselves, or if I should be initiating contact?
Also, sometimes when trying to talk out drama with a woman I encounter the following power play where they say something like "I don't want to talk about this right now, we can talk about it next week or something". I suggest we can talk about it now, they refuse and say they can't because they are busy (not true) and suggest next week. Obviously this is a form of punishment on their part and they are trying to set up a situation where you're waiting a week for them to talk it over. How should this be handled?
And when a woman throws out an "I'm busy" when you suggest a meet, and you know it's not a real "I'm busy" but more if "I don't want to go", should you be attempting to win a battle for frame control regarding their availability and the amount of time you would spend together, or should you just let it go and attempt to build more attraction, etc and try again another time?
