Socializing dealing with approach anxiety from unsuccessful approaches

[barneystin]

i made night game my main game since moving back to college because i didn’t want to deal with reputation problems. i’ve had only two lays in a couple of weeks so far(both of which involved a serious amount of luck/timing).

Most of my interactions end up in getting phone numbers which never go anywhere so i decided to slowly get back into day game (my system is to just approach girls i see while going about my day on campus)

However I noticed i’ve started burning out from night game. I went out last night because i was bored but i didn’t even approach a single set because i was convinced it wouldn’t go anywhere.
Any tips to get out of this mindset? I think i’ll have to take a break from night game

 

[Chase]

@barneystin,

Night game phone numbers are notoriously unreliable.

I wrote an article on it a while back here:

Why Are Girls You Meet in Clubs so Flakey?

Women you meet in nightclubs can be super flakey. Why do they flake so much later – and what can you do to reduce their ghosting/flaking? Spend any amount of time in nightlife, and you fast learn a rule: don’t go for phone numbers; go for same-night lays. Contents 1. Why Are Club Girls so...

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You could always try @Teevster's video message strategy. He's used this to good success with girls met via club game:

Video Messaging Girls, Part 1: Why to Video Message Her

Girls may not always respond when you text. And many girls are too shy to answer phone calls. The ideal alternative? Leave women VIDEO messages. Hey guys and welcome back. Today’s post won’t be specific to COVID-19 (as I write this, the pandemic has taken over the world – sadly). However, what I...

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Anyway, for getting your groove back in nightclubs, I would suggest setting some smaller goals that will show you yes, girls are DEFINITELY into you:

• Go out and see how many girls you can get isolated with you. i.e., how many you can pull away from their friends/wherever you met them to another, more intimate part of the venue where you and them can talk more deeply.
  
  
• Go out just to see if you can get make-outs in a club. Club make-outs usually aren't going to lead anywhere BUT they will prove to you beyond a doubt that yes, girls in nightclubs are into you enough to want to kiss you/shove their tongues down your throat.
  
  
• Go out and see if you can find a girl who will change venues with you, either to another bar or club or to a diner.

None of those require you to take phone numbers. You also don't have to outright pull a girl back to your place and shag her. But they are all goals that are absolutely along that path.

Try some of those and see if they don't reinvigorate you.

Chase