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This isn't just related to girls- it's with people in general.
Take some of these scenarios: Being in a room (classroom, cafeteria) with many unfamiliar faces. Talking to a group of people you don't know. I feel very insecure in these situations, especially when I'm alone without company of a friend. Instead of having fun, I feel I'm breathing in pressure: I can't enjoy this at all. And this is coming from a guy who is pretty much confident (or at least courageous), very good at giving speeches, quite efficient in one on one interactions, and has a good number of girls he's been out with.
I want to add that parties (anything night related where I don't know anyone) is on the list of these difficult things.. What actually promted me to write this is the fact that I went on a cruise with a friend on a street with packed pubs, and just by being there in my car, even knowing that I don't have to interact with anyone, I felt this pressure/ insecurity.
My question is, what causes this (don't tell me lack of experience since although I don't party a lot, we all constantly get put in rooms with strangers) and how to improve in this case, to be able to at least be at peace with yourself, before you even think of approaching? I'm sure there are articles on this, so could you write the links please
Take some of these scenarios: Being in a room (classroom, cafeteria) with many unfamiliar faces. Talking to a group of people you don't know. I feel very insecure in these situations, especially when I'm alone without company of a friend. Instead of having fun, I feel I'm breathing in pressure: I can't enjoy this at all. And this is coming from a guy who is pretty much confident (or at least courageous), very good at giving speeches, quite efficient in one on one interactions, and has a good number of girls he's been out with.
I want to add that parties (anything night related where I don't know anyone) is on the list of these difficult things.. What actually promted me to write this is the fact that I went on a cruise with a friend on a street with packed pubs, and just by being there in my car, even knowing that I don't have to interact with anyone, I felt this pressure/ insecurity.
My question is, what causes this (don't tell me lack of experience since although I don't party a lot, we all constantly get put in rooms with strangers) and how to improve in this case, to be able to at least be at peace with yourself, before you even think of approaching? I'm sure there are articles on this, so could you write the links please
