Dealing with stronger resistance during escalations

[DarkJedi]

Sometimes girls give a stronger resistance to an escalation and I feel like I fall into a negative frame. I don't know then what to do with that next.

When a girl resists my moves in a neutral way, for example I try to kiss her and she moves her head in a coy way, or I touch her leg and she moves my hand away with a playful disapproving look, I know that it is still on and I will be able to get there when they get more comfortable/ready. Usually these times I have also noticed I was already in a dominant or cocky vibe and it feels congruent to me that I will try again.

But I have a problem when I get stronger resistances. For example in a date, a girl mentions that I touch her too much. Since it is verbalized, I feel it a stronger rejection of sorts. Or like yesterday when on an insta-date with a girl, I put my hand on her shoulder while walking and she threw my hand off her shoulder in a kind of forceful way, I felt clueless what to do. Usually I have seen that in these I was not in the dominant mindset and maybe more friendly/neutral. So maybe they were a bit more botched from the start. Still, how would you guys handle this?

 

[Karea Ricardus D.]

When it happens, it's already damage control.
Take it as feedback and adjust your game accordingly next time.

 

[DarkJedi]

When it happens, it's already damage control.
Take it as feedback and adjust your game accordingly next time.

Alright. And is there a way to fix it when I've already messed up? Or is it beyond repair?

 

[Karea Ricardus D.]

Yeah, you gotta back off and lean back and be chill, show her you're not affected by it, not getting needy or pushy in any way.

You really also want to microcalibrate, meaning return the IOD, then go back to building more attraction and compliance, then keep bonding more and try again later.

The real goal however really is to never get any resistance, leave alone verbal resistance.

That should be your main focus, learn to read her signals, her body, so you never make a move she's not ready for, back off BEFORE she can stop you as you see it coming.

 

[DarkJedi]

Yeah, you gotta back off and lean back and be chill, show her you're not affected by it, not getting needy or pushy in any way.

You really also want to microcalibrate, meaning return the IOD, then go back to building more attraction and compliance, then keep bonding more and try again later.

The real goal however really is to never get any resistance, leave alone verbal resistance.

That should be your main focus, learn to read her signals, her body, so you never make a move she's not ready for, back off BEFORE she can stop you as you see it coming.

Yes that is my focus, reading the signals correct. I feel I have traditionally played things too safe, so I'm trying to push myself more than I normally would to see what is possible.

How would you IOD here? You're having a conversation while walking or sitting in a cafe and this happens. Do you talk less? Or tease her? Or something else entirely?