Debilitating Nervousness.

[Thomas123]

Hello

If you have some sort of social anxiety (which I belive I have), you know exactly what I'm talking about. You are overwhelmed, you are feeling so stressed that you wish you would dissapear. It takes away your ability to talk clever and makes awkward expressions on your face.
I feel that when I'm out, talking to girls and socialazing. Around people I feel usually uncomfortable. I feel awkward tension on my face and I think that everybody around me see that.
It's not always like that, I can be relaxed around people but it happens only when I'm in social mood which is really really rare.

How to fight that nervousness? I often don't approach girl which I really would like to talk to, because I know that I will be so nervous and awkward that I will creep her out...
Often I approach and let's say I opened her smooth and she is happy to talk to but I start freaking out, because I cannot hold that nervousness in me. In result the girl which was really into me initially, at the end thinks I'm strange and don't want to have anything common with me (it happens often to me).

Anybody had familiar experiences? Especially those ones who managed to overcome that, your feedback is priceless.

 

[lostnumber]

So, there is a difference between approach anxiety (which everyone has) and general social anxiety. Take away the approach aspect, do you still feel uncomfortable around people? What is it that makes you feel uncomfortable?

I would focus on that and ignore the approach. If you can't comfortably socialize with friends, acquaintances, strangers, etc then being smooth while walking up to girls isn't going to do you much good. Focus on improving those things, which will be generally useful in ALL areas of your life, and then worry about your openers.

 

[Parkour]

Anxiety sucks but here are some things that may help:
Recharge your batteries (nap/sleep) and take care of your appearance before you go out.
Consider self hypnosis for social anxiety. There are some free or low cost recordings online
Laugh off your awkward moments and embrace the learning curve.
Any social momentum will do. Talk to anybody and let it sync in when your comfortable
Love yourself
Consider both internal and external self awareness (ask friends how they think other people see you with an aim to help you improve uncalibrated behavior, likewise ask what is attractive about yourself that you could do more of)
Kava kava
Keep on reading here and anywhere else with social tips. Get out there. It's a process.