Delusional women?

[DaVinciMatrixStyle]

So I have a girl acquaintance who is a bit.. delusional. She's pretty fat and well not the most attractive, yet believes that she deserves the best guy. She used to be fun to be around when she was younger, but it seems like she's starting to get a bit.. too much for me. She now brags about how many guys she has or seeing, which is really annoying.

When you are around a girl who's a bit on the lower attractive side but believes she's the shit for some reason, do you just let them believe in their delusion? Or how would you respond? I've been in contact with her because we were friends as children but its starting to really annoy me.

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

All women love to be validated or feel validated, that could be why she's bringing it up, because these interactions with men that she's mentioning validate her. She also might be trying to impress you. All I know is that a lot women think they are the shit when it comes to romance, probably because they can get laid a lot easier than a guy can (they always have options). I'm no expert on women yet so take my thoughts with a grain of salt

 

[happynanako]

Then stop hanging out with her if her words are annoying you. Im not sure why people continues hanging out with people they find annoying?

 

[DaVinciMatrixStyle]

Then stop hanging out with her if her words are annoying you. Im not sure why people continues hanging out with people they find annoying?

You don't just cut off a child friend cause you find em annoying lately. Stop being retarded.

 

[happynanako]

You don't just cut off a child friend cause you find em annoying lately. Stop being retarded.

Which explains why you're in this situation. Have fun

 

[DaVinciMatrixStyle]

Which explains why you're in this situation. Have fun

No, it explains how much of a social retard you are.

 

[Chase]

Well, since you want to retain this friendship, obviously it has value to you.

Either way, it is normal for people to think they deserve the best. Note that their idea of the best and your idea of the best may not exactly match up.

Wanting to correct your friend for feeling like she deserves the best is not healthy unless she is REALLY delusional. It doesn’t sound like she’s delusional, though… She’s telling you she is dating a lot, and is happy with her dating, and deserves the best. The implicit communication there is she ALREADY gets the best (the men she is dating), and deserves them. I don’t know why you’d want to tell a friend she doesn’t deserve what she’s getting… doesn’t sound like a healthy friendship to me.

I expect what’s really going on is you’re just really annoyed at the boasting and bragging. In which case, the solution is not to beat her down, but to tell her to knock off the showboating:

“Hey, I know you feel really good about all the guys you’re going out with. Can we just hang out as friends without the boasting though? It’s honestly getting a little annoying hearing about how great your dates are and how you deserve only the best. I’m happy for you, I just don’t want to have to listen to that all the time.”

Chase

 

[Warped Mindless]

No, it explains how much of a social retard you are.

Fat girl gets laid more than you. This pisses you off so you make a post on an Internet forum asking strangers how to deal with a simple situation and then you call other people social retards. Lol.

Not trying to be an asshole but I think you have deeper issues than your fat friend you want to fuck getting laid and bragging about it to you.

sometimes we all need someone to just call us on our BS. I just called you on yours. You can get mad or you can log off and do some reflection.

 

[DaVinciMatrixStyle]

“Hey, I know you feel really good about all the guys you’re going out with. Can we just hang out as friends without the boasting though? It’s honestly getting a little annoying hearing about how great your dates are and how you deserve only the best. I’m happy for you, I just don’t want to have to listen to that all the time.”

Hit the spot! Thanks chase.

 

[DaVinciMatrixStyle]

Fat girl gets laid more than you. This pisses you off so you make a post on an Internet forum asking strangers how to deal with a simple situation and then you call other people social retards. Lol.

Not trying to be an asshole but I think you have deeper issues than your fat friend you want to fuck getting laid and bragging about it to you.

sometimes we all need someone to just call us on our BS. I just called you on yours. You can get mad or you can log off and do some reflection.

Lmao what are you the truth bomber? Who cares about what your opinion is.

How bout this. You live your life and I'll live mine.

Keep scrolling if u see my name or not, but I’ll scroll right past urs since ur replies to my posts are nothing that’s of value.

 

[DaVinciMatrixStyle]

Wanting to correct your friend for feeling like she deserves the best is not healthy unless she is REALLY delusional. It doesn’t sound like she’s delusional, though… She’s telling you she is dating a lot, and is happy with her dating, and deserves the best. The implicit communication there is she ALREADY gets the best (the men she is dating), and deserves them. I don’t know why you’d want to tell a friend she doesn’t deserve what she’s getting… doesn’t sound like a healthy friendship to me.

It's not that I wanna correct her. It's that she has these standards for a man when she doesn't meet those standards herself. She wants a guy that's fit, dressed well, etc. Also granted, she used to slim herself until lately she let herself go and doesn't take care of herself the best. It's like me saying I want a hot girl that's extremely wanted without working on my game skills.

Second, she dates around a lot with guys who obviously doesn't meet ' her'ideal standards' but still wants to brags 'lmao these guys all want me but dont even know about each other' etc.

One side of me cares about her because she's a childhood friend that I grew up with when I was young so I've been supportive, but the delusion is just too much. When I bring it up, she also gets defensive.

There's obviously a lot more subtleties but it's too much to type.

 

[TomInHo]

It's not that I wanna correct her. It's that she has these standards for a man when she doesn't meet those standards herself. She wants a guy that's fit, dressed well, etc. Also granted, she used to slim herself until lately she let herself go and doesn't take care of herself the best. It's like me saying I want a hot girl that's extremely wanted without working on my game skills.

Second, she dates around a lot with guys who obviously doesn't meet ' her'ideal standards' but still wants to brags 'lmao these guys all want me but dont even know about each other' etc.

One side of me cares about her because she's a childhood friend that I grew up with when I was young so I've been supportive, but the delusion is just too much. When I bring it up, she also gets defensive.

There's obviously a lot more subtleties but it's too much to type.

Honestly G... get over it

I'm not sure why you're mad that your friend deserves the best. If you think she is delusional then why are you friends with her? Why do you keep people around that you don't think are valuable?

If the delusion is too much for you then tell her to stop talking about her dating life because you don't care or simply stop hanging out with her

Also let me tell you a secret...

Deep down she knows she is full of shit. Women ain't dumb. What she is doing is posturing to make herself seem higher value than she really is because she has low self esteem...

There is even a study about the relationship between delusion and self esteem you see here

Because women that are high value don't need to brag about the plethora of men they date to prove their worth. If anything I would feel sorry for your friend because she is clearly having issues with getting the men she really wants to want her

 

[Gunwitch]

Unless it's your mom or dad or something don't hang out with fat people period. Ever heard of "social proof", well it's a bullshit concept that just gets eyes on you nothing more.

However reverse social proof is very real. Seen with fat girls, you ain't getting no hot pussy. I wont even hang out with friends in field if they have a chubby or ugly girlfriend they want to bring out with us. One thing at a family barbecue or on phone or something sure. No mercy in dating world though. So shouldn't be too much of a hassle anyway, unless you are in field non stop.

If listening to her act like she's all that is annoying you just tell her to "shut the fuck up bragging" in a joking manner. If she can't take that, and you don't have that kind of relationship you aren't friends, she probably thinks you are an orbiter my dude.

I kind of agree with @Warped Mindless and @TomInHo here though, unless she's fuckin up your cat bird seat, why is it even bothering you?

Gun

 

[DaVinciMatrixStyle]

Honestly G... get over it

I'm not sure why you're mad that your friend deserves the best. If you think she is delusional then why are you friends with her? Why do you keep people around that you don't think are valuable?

If the delusion is too much for you then tell her to stop talking about her dating life because you don't care or simply stop hanging out with her

Also let me tell you a secret...

Deep down she knows she is full of shit. Women ain't dumb. What she is doing is posturing to make herself seem higher value than she really is because she has low self esteem...

There is even a study about the relationship between delusion and self esteem you see here

Because women that are high value don't need to brag about the plethora of men they date to prove their worth. If anything I would feel sorry for your friend because she is clearly having issues with getting the men she really wants to want her

Very good point. Thanks!

 

[DaVinciMatrixStyle]

Unless it's your mom or dad or something don't hang out with fat people period. Ever heard of "social proof", well it's a bullshit concept that just gets eyes on you nothing more.

However reverse social proof is very real. Seen with fat girls, you ain't getting no hot pussy. I wont even hang out with friends in field if they have a chubby or ugly girlfriend they want to bring out with us. One thing at a family barbecue or on phone or something sure. No mercy in dating world though. So shouldn't be too much of a hassle anyway, unless you are in field non stop.

If listening to her act like she's all that is annoying you just tell her to "shut the fuck up bragging" in a joking manner. If she can't take that, and you don't have that kind of relationship you aren't friends, she probably thinks you are an orbiter my dude.

I kind of agree with @Warped Mindless and @TomInHo here though, unless she's fuckin up your cat bird seat, why is it even bothering you?

Gun

Yeah, it’s def the childhood friend loyalty thing. But you know what, it’s time to cut it back.

 

[pickup243]

So I have a girl acquaintance who is a bit.. delusional. She's pretty fat and well not the most attractive, yet believes that she deserves the best guy. She used to be fun to be around when she was younger, but it seems like she's starting to get a bit.. too much for me. She now brags about how many guys she has or seeing, which is really annoying.

When you are around a girl who's a bit on the lower attractive side but believes she's the shit for some reason, do you just let them believe in their delusion? Or how would you respond? I've been in contact with her because we were friends as children but its starting to really annoy me.

Let them believe in their own delusion. In the dating, you can think whatever you want of yourself, but the world will tell you what you are. She'll come to reality soon enough

 

[foggy]

why does ego threaten you?

 

[Skills]

So I have a girl acquaintance who is a bit.. delusional. She's pretty fat and well not the most attractive, yet believes that she deserves the best guy. She used to be fun to be around when she was younger, but it seems like she's starting to get a bit.. too much for me. She now brags about how many guys she has or seeing, which is really annoying.

When you are around a girl who's a bit on the lower attractive side but believes she's the shit for some reason, do you just let them believe in their delusion? Or how would you respond? I've been in contact with her because we were friends as children but its starting to really annoy me.

I am just going to contribute to the post for the dynamics, she is not lying she is right... She is telling the truth but a big BUT, she will not be able to lock in any of those guys, so women game is too keep the dudes, any girls even transvestites can get a bunch of guys (due to online tbh), is that pathetic, but she is not bragging she is trying to feel important in your eyes, maybe she may have a secret crush on you and trying to raise her value and get you jealous (maybe when you come back from the ban you can clarify)...

p.s. in a club you hanging out with the fat girl with no other girls is a dlv, if you are just opening as part of mingling to show you are life of the party is ok/sometimes actually good, as long as you don't stay in there for ever.... If you are opening a fat girl and a target, be careful not to stay with the fat girl for too long cause then the target will think "let me give this dude to my friend" and you are fucked, so interact with the fat girl in a 2 set but no sexually but platonic while with the target men to women sexually...

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