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@James D,
He's still here.
He's been thinking about going off on his own for a little while now. He's had a Patreon he's been running a few years that is his own, unaffiliated with Girls Chase, and he's been working on setting up his own website, has his own YouTube channel, etc.
I've encouraged this / left the door open to it for years. My general assumption with talent is that sooner or later guys are going to want to go do their own things, so I'm not overly worried about trying to handcuff a guy to the business or anything.
Anyway, it's up to him if he wants to do his own thing separately, or do GC + that, or focus on GC. The only thing I care about is if we pay him for something, that thing (whatever we paid for) needs to stay focused on promoting Girls Chase. Otherwise, his path is his to forge!
Chase
He's still here.
He's been thinking about going off on his own for a little while now. He's had a Patreon he's been running a few years that is his own, unaffiliated with Girls Chase, and he's been working on setting up his own website, has his own YouTube channel, etc.
I've encouraged this / left the door open to it for years. My general assumption with talent is that sooner or later guys are going to want to go do their own things, so I'm not overly worried about trying to handcuff a guy to the business or anything.
Anyway, it's up to him if he wants to do his own thing separately, or do GC + that, or focus on GC. The only thing I care about is if we pay him for something, that thing (whatever we paid for) needs to stay focused on promoting Girls Chase. Otherwise, his path is his to forge!
Chase
Off topic, what was the turning point in your life that made you feel, you're enough? In other words, does losing anything at all scare/bother/worry you? What's your inner dialogue when you lose a friend/material possessions/women etc?
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@Gladiator,
I can't say any one thing. More like you lose enough and you find out losing ain't so bad, life goes on, you still exist, and then you just don't fear it as much.
I've lost girls I really cared about, had businesses implode, fell deep into debt, lost good friends. You go through periods of extreme stress, then come out of it and you're still here. You pick yourself up. Keep going.
At the same time I've got enough stuff I want to do that I don't nearly have time for it all. If something hits the off-ramp from my life, it means goodbye, but another space has opened up for one of the things I lacked time for before but suddenly have time for now. So goodbyes aren't purely sad anymore for me; more like bittersweet. One thing ends, something else begins.
Plus I've reflected deeply on impermanence and accepted it. I still keep working at the things I want to do, but on a long enough time scale it all gets forgotten. A billion years from now no one will remember Alexander the Great, and they certainly won't remember me. So why do any of the things I want to do? No reason, aside from those are the things I aim to do.
Then couple that on top with a strong belief in destiny. I will fight tooth and nail for what I want, or think I should have, but if the fates conspire to deliver me losses, then that was my destiny. There's a lesson for me to learn in it. I should seek to understand what that lesson is, for my own spiritual development.
So lots of losing + lots of stuff to do + acceptance of impermanence + belief in destiny = you're pretty okay with losing most anything, more or less. Or at least that's how it works for me.
Sure. If I were to lose all my possessions, I would have a tougher time of it. If I lost family, I would mourn. If all my friends and colleagues decided I was actually totally awful and decreed they would have nothing further to do with me I'd probably get thrown into a period of doubt and loneliness. I'm not an island.
At the same time, when I go into nature, it's peaceful. I spend a lot of time in big cities, but have gotten to spend some time more in nature recently. I like to tell myself that if I lost absolutely everything, I could always go out into nature, with the grass, trees, streams, and mountains, and make a home for myself there. All these human concerns we have in human civilization are all connected to other people and civilization. The vast majority of the Earth is totally unpeopled. Get outside the major population centers and the world is empty. Out there is freedom from all this. It's the escape hatch, and it's ever present.
In times of stress, loss, or fear of loss I think of that: "If it all goes tits up I can always go build a cabin in the woods, far away from it all."
I doubt that'll ever happen. Maybe when I'm 80 I can go build my cabin in the woods. Too much to do for now. Gotta stay plugged into civilization.
Well, if there's some possibility to fight and keep it/him/her without compromising what's important to me, I will.
But if we reach the point where someone or something feels completely lost, I will take a deep breath, sigh, and say, "I guess that's over, then." I will then immediately start making plans for what comes next.
Strangely, much of the time I do that, the person or thing comes back. I've had numerous incidents over just the past year or so where I sighed and said, "Guess that's it, then," but then the situation rectifies itself. I don't know why.
But, e.g., girl is gone? Then my thought is just that she's gone. Where can I go out to tonight? Or where would I like to relocate to, now that I'm no longer bound by a woman to a place? Friend is gone? Well, he's gone. Who should I talk to instead, or what should I fill the time I used to spend with him doing? Possession is lost? Then it's lost. If it's replaceable and I need it, then I have to get a replacement. If it's irreplaceable, or not easily replaceable, then perhaps it was time for me to move on from that possession, and its loss has set me free. When I was born into this world my only possessions were my hair, skin, and bones, and anything that brings me closer to that is only just making me freer again. So perhaps I should be grateful.
I will also say that with the spiritual beliefs I have these days, I don't worry overmuch about lost relationships if they are lost. Obviously I try to avoid that. But if I lose a relationship, and there is some sort of misunderstanding I'm not able to bridge, well, we'll both understand each other once this life is over, and we can laugh at our petty worldly arguments together once we're no longer bound by the limits of knowledge and awareness we're bound by in this world. We'll be friends again at the end of time, so to speak.
That's how I think about loss.
Chase
I can't say any one thing. More like you lose enough and you find out losing ain't so bad, life goes on, you still exist, and then you just don't fear it as much.
I've lost girls I really cared about, had businesses implode, fell deep into debt, lost good friends. You go through periods of extreme stress, then come out of it and you're still here. You pick yourself up. Keep going.
At the same time I've got enough stuff I want to do that I don't nearly have time for it all. If something hits the off-ramp from my life, it means goodbye, but another space has opened up for one of the things I lacked time for before but suddenly have time for now. So goodbyes aren't purely sad anymore for me; more like bittersweet. One thing ends, something else begins.
Plus I've reflected deeply on impermanence and accepted it. I still keep working at the things I want to do, but on a long enough time scale it all gets forgotten. A billion years from now no one will remember Alexander the Great, and they certainly won't remember me. So why do any of the things I want to do? No reason, aside from those are the things I aim to do.
Then couple that on top with a strong belief in destiny. I will fight tooth and nail for what I want, or think I should have, but if the fates conspire to deliver me losses, then that was my destiny. There's a lesson for me to learn in it. I should seek to understand what that lesson is, for my own spiritual development.
So lots of losing + lots of stuff to do + acceptance of impermanence + belief in destiny = you're pretty okay with losing most anything, more or less. Or at least that's how it works for me.
Sure. If I were to lose all my possessions, I would have a tougher time of it. If I lost family, I would mourn. If all my friends and colleagues decided I was actually totally awful and decreed they would have nothing further to do with me I'd probably get thrown into a period of doubt and loneliness. I'm not an island.
At the same time, when I go into nature, it's peaceful. I spend a lot of time in big cities, but have gotten to spend some time more in nature recently. I like to tell myself that if I lost absolutely everything, I could always go out into nature, with the grass, trees, streams, and mountains, and make a home for myself there. All these human concerns we have in human civilization are all connected to other people and civilization. The vast majority of the Earth is totally unpeopled. Get outside the major population centers and the world is empty. Out there is freedom from all this. It's the escape hatch, and it's ever present.
In times of stress, loss, or fear of loss I think of that: "If it all goes tits up I can always go build a cabin in the woods, far away from it all."
I doubt that'll ever happen. Maybe when I'm 80 I can go build my cabin in the woods. Too much to do for now. Gotta stay plugged into civilization.
Well, if there's some possibility to fight and keep it/him/her without compromising what's important to me, I will.
But if we reach the point where someone or something feels completely lost, I will take a deep breath, sigh, and say, "I guess that's over, then." I will then immediately start making plans for what comes next.
Strangely, much of the time I do that, the person or thing comes back. I've had numerous incidents over just the past year or so where I sighed and said, "Guess that's it, then," but then the situation rectifies itself. I don't know why.
But, e.g., girl is gone? Then my thought is just that she's gone. Where can I go out to tonight? Or where would I like to relocate to, now that I'm no longer bound by a woman to a place? Friend is gone? Well, he's gone. Who should I talk to instead, or what should I fill the time I used to spend with him doing? Possession is lost? Then it's lost. If it's replaceable and I need it, then I have to get a replacement. If it's irreplaceable, or not easily replaceable, then perhaps it was time for me to move on from that possession, and its loss has set me free. When I was born into this world my only possessions were my hair, skin, and bones, and anything that brings me closer to that is only just making me freer again. So perhaps I should be grateful.
I will also say that with the spiritual beliefs I have these days, I don't worry overmuch about lost relationships if they are lost. Obviously I try to avoid that. But if I lose a relationship, and there is some sort of misunderstanding I'm not able to bridge, well, we'll both understand each other once this life is over, and we can laugh at our petty worldly arguments together once we're no longer bound by the limits of knowledge and awareness we're bound by in this world. We'll be friends again at the end of time, so to speak.
That's how I think about loss.
Chase