Did I compliment her right?

[Bigjo]

Ok so i complimented this girl, she is a physiotherapist and comes in for my mom, and she's a nerdy girl, but she looked different with spectacles a totally different person complimented her that day she laughed. The other day I felt I didn't express the compliment very well, so I said "I gotta admit when you came in yesterday, you looked really different without glasses" she laughed looking up at the ceiling, next I said why dont you stop wearing glasses, it's just a suggestion.... (it's just a suggestion.... That made me feel like a pussy). She said I just find it boring. And I kept continuing for a split second I didn't recognized that if it was and I paused and she completed the sentence saying I get that from a lot of people that I look a different person.


So tell me where did I fuck it up? I felt when she said I get that lot from other people.... It felt that I let her off the hook and I also found that I am still a nervous bitch while talking to girls. But open to your thoughts where did I fuck up and how could I improve it

 

[Derek da man]

I don't think your initial compliment was a "fuck up" in any way - it was genuine, received well. How else would you expect her to respond to such a compliment, she tried to defuse the tension - and you let her. It's the part where you let her that lowered your value in terms of confidence and leading the conversation.

We all tend to do it, defuse the tension, but that tension can also be very powerful and make her see you as strong and confident. There are some good threads on here about it which link to other articles etc. which should help you, I'll add them what I've got a bit more time to find them.

 

[Alpha13SC]

You're overthinking. Continue talking to girls.

 

[Will_V]

Ok so i complimented this girl, she is a physiotherapist and comes in for my mom, and she's a nerdy girl, but she looked different with spectacles a totally different person complimented her that day she laughed. The other day I felt I didn't express the compliment very well, so I said "I gotta admit when you came in yesterday, you looked really different without glasses" she laughed looking up at the ceiling, next I said why dont you stop wearing glasses, it's just a suggestion.... (it's just a suggestion.... That made me feel like a pussy). She said I just find it boring. And I kept continuing for a split second I didn't recognized that if it was and I paused and she completed the sentence saying I get that from a lot of people that I look a different person.


So tell me where did I fuck it up? I felt when she said I get that lot from other people.... It felt that I let her off the hook and I also found that I am still a nervous bitch while talking to girls. But open to your thoughts where did I fuck up and how could I improve it

Alpha is right, just keep going and don't worry too much about it.

One thing, asking her why she doesn't stop wearing glasses is not a great idea. Whether she just likes wearing them, or whether they make her eyes better, implying that they aren't cool isn't going to help.

 

[POB]

The other day I felt I didn't express the compliment very well,

This is overthinking for sure.
You were genuine, she took it well, let it be.

Plus you gotta remember she's there to work...not the perfect environment to seduce her.

 

[Bigjo]

Alpha is right, just keep going and don't worry too much about it.

One thing, asking her why she doesn't stop wearing glasses is not a great idea. Whether she just likes wearing them, or whether they make her eyes better, implying that they aren't cool isn't going to help.

That's what I thought after analysing the interaction