Hi there, looking for some advice on a recent encounter. I was talking to a dance instructor lastnight, we talked for about 10-15 mins, at one point she said she does private lessons, and gave me her phone number. Her hair was up and at one point she let it down and played with it for a bit, I got the feeling she was flirting with me. She gave me her number and again talked about the private lesson and told me to call her. I'm really not sure if she is looking purely for a business arrangement or if this is her way of asking me to ask her out. Not really sure how to play this. I haven't called or texted. I thought about just flat out asking her out, but didn't do it in person last night and so don't know if I should do it over text. Any thoughts or advice would be a big help. thanks.
did she just ask me out, or is she trying to get me as a business client?
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If your first meeting was social, and her being a dance instructor was the byproduct of a social conversation you can keep it social.
If you met her while taking a class and she mentioned private lessons then it's business.
Do you have anything you are good at that is social? Beerpong, Shuffle board, Cornhole, Cardgames, Dice games, etc. Offer to trade her lessons. "Saturday night, I'm headed to XYZ club you teach me salsa,and I'll teach you how to roll for drinks at the bar."
Good signs was bringing her hair down and playing with it.
This reminds me of an interaction I had Here is the FR as a follow up, I did some Social network snooping and that woman recently changed her status to "in a relationship" with a person I know. She was on the hunt that night.
If you met her while taking a class and she mentioned private lessons then it's business.
Do you have anything you are good at that is social? Beerpong, Shuffle board, Cornhole, Cardgames, Dice games, etc. Offer to trade her lessons. "Saturday night, I'm headed to XYZ club you teach me salsa,and I'll teach you how to roll for drinks at the bar."
Good signs was bringing her hair down and playing with it.
This reminds me of an interaction I had Here is the FR as a follow up, I did some Social network snooping and that woman recently changed her status to "in a relationship" with a person I know. She was on the hunt that night.
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Of course she's marketing her business but that doesn't mean she couldn't be interested. If you have no interest in her dance lessons, then just ask her out for a coffee instead. "I'd love to learn dance from you but I'd rather go for a coffee. I'm more interested in who you are as a person."
This is direct and takes balls.
The problem with being instructed is it puts you in the student role, which isn't a very dominant position. And she will see you as a customer, not a lover.
This is direct and takes balls.
The problem with being instructed is it puts you in the student role, which isn't a very dominant position. And she will see you as a customer, not a lover.