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I went to the mall today with a wingman who came along for the ride and helped talked to the girls after I opened them. There were many girls I opened that told me they had a boyfriend right off the bat, or just ignored me, but from now on, I won't post those because there's nothing to learn from them.
What I want to focus on are my conversations with girls that could have done something with me. Whether it fails or succeeds, this is where the real learning is, and it's what I'll keep the focus on.
Alexis: After being turned down repeatedly within less than a minute, I found a girl that hooked. She was sitting in the food court with her sister, so I walked up while my friend pretended to get a call.
Me: "Hey, I thought you were super cute and wanted to come say hello! I'm AP!"
Her: "Oh... thank you!"
Me: "What's your name?"
Her: "Alexis"
Me: "Are you two here as friends?"
Sister: "No, we're sisters!"
Me: "Oh, wow! Really? I honestly couldn't tell!"
WingMan: *comes over* "Hey bro! What'd I miss?"
Me: "Just talking to these two over here." *turning back to girls* "This is my friend Roman! Roman, this is..." *turn to Alexis* "What's my name?"
Her: "Huh?"
Me: "What's my name?"
Her: "Ummm.... I forgot, sorry!"
Me: "Then we're even. That's good because I couldn't remember yours either! I'm AP!"
Her: "I'm Alexis!"
Me: "Anyway, I hope I'm not interrupting anything between you two."
Her: "Oh no! You're fine! We're just waiting for a friend."
Me: "Do mind if we sit down?"
Her: "Sure!"
Me: *sit down* "Okay, so obviously I thought you were attractive. What I can't learn from plain sight is whether or not my personality will match with a girl. Can you tell me something interesting about you?"
Her: "Um... I don't know... nothing really!"
Me: "Everyone's got something special... Are you into music? Sports? Dancing maybe?"
Her: "Nope."
Me: "What do you want to do after high school?"
Her: "Um... I'm not sure..."
Me: "You're just gonna figure it out as you go then huh..."
Her: "Sorta..."
Me: "Well, what do you do for fun then?"
Her: "Nothing really... I just sleep a lot."
Her: "I don't really know..."
Me: "So... that and hanging out at the mall with your sister then..."
Her: "Kinda..." (I'm pretty much dumbfounded at this point)
Sister: "She's on the computer a lot!"
Me: "Oh okay!"
Her: "I'm hardly ever on facebook... Like tumblr, vines..."
Me: "There's this game learned on the computer where you... go to google images, type in something totally innocent, and type the word insertion right next to it... You turn off the SafeSearch and you try to make something raunchy come up... Like... 'Cucumber insertion' or 'Korean chopstick insertion'" (Risky move, but I had nothing to lose)
Her: "Oh... Hahahahaha!" *wingman shakes head*
WingMan: "AP.... No...."
Me: "What? I'm not one of those guys that likes talking about mundane topics you know."
Sister: "How old are you two?"
Me: "18"
WingMan: "16.. How old are you?"
Her: "I'm 16"
Sister: "How old do you think I am?"
Me: "Hmmm.... Mid twenties?"
Sister: "Haha, what??? You think I'm older than her???"
Me: "You're not? Haha, whoops."
Her: "We're just waiting for our friends, so we're not really dressed up."
Me: "What?"
Her: "I said we're waiting for our friends, so we're not really dressed up."
Me: "Oh, no you're fine. I walked up to you didn't I? I have 18 years of being yelled at in my ear by my dad for my grades, so I can't hear you too well."
Her: "Oh, haha! Do you get good grades?"
Me: "You could say that... There's more to intelligence than a person's grades. I fool around a lot and I get Asian F's! Do you know what those are?"
Her: "No"
Me: "Those are B+ grades."
Her: "Oh haha! Those are actually my highest grades."
Me: "Oh, so what do you get mostly?"
Her: "Mostly B's"
Me: "See, I should be getting A's, but I spend to much time playing guitar."
Her: "Oh, you play guitar?"
WingMan: "Yeah, both do!"
Me: "Here, I'll show you..." *give her my keys* "Don't run off with my keys now..."
Her: "I won't."
Me: "Here's my guitar pick. We have a tenancy to carry picks with us at all times." *hand her my pick*
Her: "Oh, okay.. thank you!"
WingMan: "Do you play guitar?"
Her: "Nope."
WingMan: "Do you play any instruments?"
Her: "Nope."
WingMan: "Do you sing?"
Her: "Nope."
Me: "Surely you must do something for entertainment."
Her: "What?"
Me: *brush her hair aside and whisper into her ear*
Her: "Oh! No, really, I don't! Haha!"
Me: "You and me should do something fun together then. You can help me put Try Me stickers on the condom boxes at Target!"
Her: "Oh... Haha.. I don't really do pranks a whole lot..."
Me: "Okay, how bout just coffee and talk then?"
Her: "Sure!"
Me: "You seem like a Caramel Cooler kind of person to me."
Her: "Well... I don't really like coffee.."
Me: "Are you a tea person?"
Her: "Yeah!"
Me: "Me too! What do you normally get?" (I was actually excited to have found something)
Her: "I usually get Chai Tea."
Me: "I'm a huge fan of Green Tea.. I grew up drinking it, cuz, you know, Asian family... and... I just kind of got into it whenever I went to Caribou! Let's meet up and grab some then!" *hold up phone* "You have one of these?"
Her: "Haha, yes!"
Me: "Does it come with a phone number?"
Her: "Yeah *gives me phone number*"
My wingman also asked for her number, to which she gave him too. The conversation really went nowhere, but continued for a while before I excused us, gave the girl a hug, and went on our way.
As it turned out, this girl was only the second girl that didn't number flake on me... Unfortunately, trying to connect with her through text went about as well as it did in person.
Me: "Hey alexis
so what kind of music do you like?"
Her: "Punk rock and garage rock"
Me: "Garage rock... Like nirvana?"
Her: "No, too mainstream"
Me: "So you like counter culture? Lol what bands then?"
Her: "You probably haven't heard of them"
Me: "Try me
I'm a guitarist, so I listen to some odd music haha... I'm into rock and roll from the 60s, 70s, and 80s" (I should have just told her that I'd be open to giving it a listen if I haven't heard of them)
Her: *names a bunch of bands I haven't heard of*
I proceeded to look up every single band for songs that might potentially have a guitar riff I could replicate and play for her... I found none.
Me: "You got me there... I looked up all of them and couldn't recognize a single riff lol. I'm open minded to trying new things though
if you showed me a few of your favorites, I could try to play them!
I don't listen to mainstream music... The stuff I listen to was mainstream during its time though... Like the rolling stones, the doors, sex pistols, neil young, and rush!"
Her: *no reply*
Me: "Do you want to meet up tomorrow still? I still think you're cute, and if you still think I'm cute, I'll give your music a listen
"
Her: "You'd seriously be wasting your time."
Me: "I've got nothing else planned for sunday after three, and on monday I start my job at Denny's lol. If tomorrow's my last day of freedom, I'd still love to spend it with someone cute... if she's still interested anyway
"
Her: *no reply*
I'm actually sort of glad she didn't reply to that. There was such a lack of connection, I almost feel like she purposely made herself seem uninteresting. I can't post my usual what I learned, realized, and what I could do better, because I don't see anything I can use for a reference with this one.
What I want to focus on are my conversations with girls that could have done something with me. Whether it fails or succeeds, this is where the real learning is, and it's what I'll keep the focus on.
Alexis: After being turned down repeatedly within less than a minute, I found a girl that hooked. She was sitting in the food court with her sister, so I walked up while my friend pretended to get a call.
Me: "Hey, I thought you were super cute and wanted to come say hello! I'm AP!"
Her: "Oh... thank you!"
Me: "What's your name?"
Her: "Alexis"
Me: "Are you two here as friends?"
Sister: "No, we're sisters!"
Me: "Oh, wow! Really? I honestly couldn't tell!"
WingMan: *comes over* "Hey bro! What'd I miss?"
Me: "Just talking to these two over here." *turning back to girls* "This is my friend Roman! Roman, this is..." *turn to Alexis* "What's my name?"
Her: "Huh?"
Me: "What's my name?"
Her: "Ummm.... I forgot, sorry!"
Me: "Then we're even. That's good because I couldn't remember yours either! I'm AP!"
Her: "I'm Alexis!"
Me: "Anyway, I hope I'm not interrupting anything between you two."
Her: "Oh no! You're fine! We're just waiting for a friend."
Me: "Do mind if we sit down?"
Her: "Sure!"
Me: *sit down* "Okay, so obviously I thought you were attractive. What I can't learn from plain sight is whether or not my personality will match with a girl. Can you tell me something interesting about you?"
Her: "Um... I don't know... nothing really!"
Me: "Everyone's got something special... Are you into music? Sports? Dancing maybe?"
Her: "Nope."
Me: "What do you want to do after high school?"
Her: "Um... I'm not sure..."
Me: "You're just gonna figure it out as you go then huh..."
Her: "Sorta..."
Me: "Well, what do you do for fun then?"
Her: "Nothing really... I just sleep a lot."
Her: "I don't really know..."
Me: "So... that and hanging out at the mall with your sister then..."
Her: "Kinda..." (I'm pretty much dumbfounded at this point)
Sister: "She's on the computer a lot!"
Me: "Oh okay!"
Her: "I'm hardly ever on facebook... Like tumblr, vines..."
Me: "There's this game learned on the computer where you... go to google images, type in something totally innocent, and type the word insertion right next to it... You turn off the SafeSearch and you try to make something raunchy come up... Like... 'Cucumber insertion' or 'Korean chopstick insertion'" (Risky move, but I had nothing to lose)
Her: "Oh... Hahahahaha!" *wingman shakes head*
WingMan: "AP.... No...."
Me: "What? I'm not one of those guys that likes talking about mundane topics you know."
Sister: "How old are you two?"
Me: "18"
WingMan: "16.. How old are you?"
Her: "I'm 16"
Sister: "How old do you think I am?"
Me: "Hmmm.... Mid twenties?"
Sister: "Haha, what??? You think I'm older than her???"
Me: "You're not? Haha, whoops."
Her: "We're just waiting for our friends, so we're not really dressed up."
Me: "What?"
Her: "I said we're waiting for our friends, so we're not really dressed up."
Me: "Oh, no you're fine. I walked up to you didn't I? I have 18 years of being yelled at in my ear by my dad for my grades, so I can't hear you too well."
Her: "Oh, haha! Do you get good grades?"
Me: "You could say that... There's more to intelligence than a person's grades. I fool around a lot and I get Asian F's! Do you know what those are?"
Her: "No"
Me: "Those are B+ grades."
Her: "Oh haha! Those are actually my highest grades."
Me: "Oh, so what do you get mostly?"
Her: "Mostly B's"
Me: "See, I should be getting A's, but I spend to much time playing guitar."
Her: "Oh, you play guitar?"
WingMan: "Yeah, both do!"
Me: "Here, I'll show you..." *give her my keys* "Don't run off with my keys now..."
Her: "I won't."
Me: "Here's my guitar pick. We have a tenancy to carry picks with us at all times." *hand her my pick*
Her: "Oh, okay.. thank you!"
WingMan: "Do you play guitar?"
Her: "Nope."
WingMan: "Do you play any instruments?"
Her: "Nope."
WingMan: "Do you sing?"
Her: "Nope."
Me: "Surely you must do something for entertainment."
Her: "What?"
Me: *brush her hair aside and whisper into her ear*
Her: "Oh! No, really, I don't! Haha!"
Me: "You and me should do something fun together then. You can help me put Try Me stickers on the condom boxes at Target!"
Her: "Oh... Haha.. I don't really do pranks a whole lot..."
Me: "Okay, how bout just coffee and talk then?"
Her: "Sure!"
Me: "You seem like a Caramel Cooler kind of person to me."
Her: "Well... I don't really like coffee.."
Me: "Are you a tea person?"
Her: "Yeah!"
Me: "Me too! What do you normally get?" (I was actually excited to have found something)
Her: "I usually get Chai Tea."
Me: "I'm a huge fan of Green Tea.. I grew up drinking it, cuz, you know, Asian family... and... I just kind of got into it whenever I went to Caribou! Let's meet up and grab some then!" *hold up phone* "You have one of these?"
Her: "Haha, yes!"
Me: "Does it come with a phone number?"
Her: "Yeah *gives me phone number*"
My wingman also asked for her number, to which she gave him too. The conversation really went nowhere, but continued for a while before I excused us, gave the girl a hug, and went on our way.
As it turned out, this girl was only the second girl that didn't number flake on me... Unfortunately, trying to connect with her through text went about as well as it did in person.
Me: "Hey alexis
Her: "Punk rock and garage rock"
Me: "Garage rock... Like nirvana?"
Her: "No, too mainstream"
Me: "So you like counter culture? Lol what bands then?"
Her: "You probably haven't heard of them"
Me: "Try me
Her: *names a bunch of bands I haven't heard of*
I proceeded to look up every single band for songs that might potentially have a guitar riff I could replicate and play for her... I found none.
Me: "You got me there... I looked up all of them and couldn't recognize a single riff lol. I'm open minded to trying new things though
I don't listen to mainstream music... The stuff I listen to was mainstream during its time though... Like the rolling stones, the doors, sex pistols, neil young, and rush!"
Her: *no reply*
Me: "Do you want to meet up tomorrow still? I still think you're cute, and if you still think I'm cute, I'll give your music a listen
Her: "You'd seriously be wasting your time."
Me: "I've got nothing else planned for sunday after three, and on monday I start my job at Denny's lol. If tomorrow's my last day of freedom, I'd still love to spend it with someone cute... if she's still interested anyway
Her: *no reply*
I'm actually sort of glad she didn't reply to that. There was such a lack of connection, I almost feel like she purposely made herself seem uninteresting. I can't post my usual what I learned, realized, and what I could do better, because I don't see anything I can use for a reference with this one.