I am a very logical person. I think the reason I feel so anxious is because I don't want to be labelled as a creep or a harasser. I have instagram since some girls connect with me via instagram, including the ones who came on a date with me. Unfortunately, instagram also recommends me reels of Indian guys cold approaching and when you see the comments, it is always negative. ALWAYS. The interaction with the girl could have gone good but the people who comment always call the guy harasser, creep, etc and even send them death threats. If a white guy does it, there aren't that many negative comments. Well, I am Indian. However, I am not ugly and most say (including white guys and girls) that I look above average. I am 5'10, pale and have an ok physique (not fat).
I had white girls into me too like when making out and stuff. And I know I am respectful to women but I just feel like the whole world is against me, like you know, when it comes to pickup (I also don't have a wingman). Before I started game, it was normal for people to be nice to me. Now it like a different world, it is normal for people to be not nice to me. However, I know I am not a creep or a harasser. Like yesterday in one of my approaches, this is what happened:-
Me:- "Hi, do you speak English?"
Girl:- "Yeah" (she made neutral face)
*I got scared of her reaction and lost confidence but still went thru with the approach*
Me:- "I saw you and I wanted to meet you. Hi I am x" (go for handshake)
Girl:- "Sorry I don't have time" (she takes my hand)
Me:- "Oh ok" (walk away)
*Then she made a face as if she feels guilty. She looks back at me while I walk away*
Girl:- "Sorry, I just don't have time. I hope you have a nice day"
This was unexpected for me. A girl feeling guilty. She literally still talked to me while I was walking away not looking at her. She stopped me that last second.
I know she liked my respectful approach. I know many girls loved my compliments or me just talking to them. But sometimes I am in this negative spiral due to social media, I guess. It's fucked up.
Sorry for the venting. Thanks for reading.
dude straight up, don't watch that social media stuff. If you do watch, for educational purposes like seeing how other guys approach, don't go down a spiral reading the comments.
Social media is not an accurate representation of real life.
People talk a lot of shit behind their keyboards.
You got to learn to trust your own compass when navigating life.
If you are constantly filling your head with other people's opinions (which are often ridiculous and not rooted in reality). then you are actually dampening you're own inner compass.
The idea that approaching a woman defacto makes you a creep is patently absurd. As I am sure you can see from YOUR PERSONAL EXPERIENCE.
Now does that mean you will never creep a woman out? Maybe, maybe not. And I am certainly not advocating for just following whatever wild impulse and having no regard for your potential effect on others. But a woman could very well feel creeped out, even if you aren't actually even doing anything all that creepy.
That's just the nature of life. There is friction. Especially when you decide that you want to have some agency with the things you desire.
There are swings and arrows. And really only you can decide what you are willing to suffer to attain the things you want in life. Be it materialistic, or characteristic development.
Show me any one who has accomplished much of anything who didn't have some haters somewhere running their mouths.
Hell, you could just sit on your thumbs all day and their will probably be someone on the internet ready to talk shit on you, should they get the chance.
Cultural norms do count for a lot. And when you doing something that goes against the grain (to one degree or another), you can count on friction.
Pick up is against the grain. Especially in our current era. So expect that someone out there will be hating on you.
will you ever encounter those haters on real life? maybe to some degree, on the peripheral. You hear whispers. Petty gossip. But guess what?
Has very little bearing on how your life actually plays out. You still get pussy. You still have meaningful connections with the women you end up spending time with. You still have friendships with cool people. You still get to do all the things you set out to do.
Yes, you will have to manage your reputation and be mindful of it. Just comes with the package.
Truth is though, better you are with women, and people in general, people can't really say shit.
Hard to tell a guy he is a creep for approaching a women, when that woman becomes his friend, lover, wife, business partner. whatever.
It's funny how the unconventional people, the ones people love to hate on, often end up being the exceptional in their field. (not always the case, because you can be unconventional in all the wrong ways. but you get me).
So yes, be mindful of your approaches, but also don't let the voices in your head (or on social media for that matter) get the best of you.
For every imagined scenario of utter tragedy, there is also an equally possible reality of abundant success. The later is usually much more accurate to life than the former.
Or at the very least, somewhat neutral. Like that girl who told you she was busy and wished you a nice day
