disqualifying yourself as a boyfriend

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

Just read the article about disqualifying yourself as a boyfriend. I can understand that some of the single moms or 26-year-old girls who gave me a hard time screening me on a date would feel relaxed and just have sex with me, but I have a hard time imagining that a 21-year-old Angelic girl who really liked me and looked at me with poppy eyes would agree with the perspective that we're not going to date after we fuck/

please someone with real experience paint me a picture of how it looks like with all kinds of different girls when you disqualify yourself as a boyfriend on a date

 

[Chase]

@thats_a_penis_disgustang,

Most of those angelic 21 y/os are a lot dirtier, saucier, and more curious than you think.

I will say there is SOME portion of women (typically: low sex drive and/or sexually very repressed types) who are almost completely closed to the idea of casual lovers and will only proceed forward if a relationship is definitely in the cards.

Most of the rest are basically just looking for guys they are attracted to then exploring what the possibilities are:

• If there is a possibility for you to be a boyfriend and she thinks you might be qualified for that, you get slow-gamed to not risk blowing it with you by giving it up too soon; also, so she can vet you more properly.
  
  
• If there is no possibility for you to be a boyfriend, but she finds you sexy and likes talking to you, hanging around you, and touching you, she is not going to bother slow gaming you and will just let things unfold with you naturally based on her arousal and leadership (i.e., she quits inhibiting her own desires).

If you want the highest odds -- if you also want to get the repressed girls who don't want casual sex and only want LTRs -- then you probably want to feel them out for a little before you start boyfriend disqualifying. But if you're going that route, I would hope you are actually going to wife those girls up / give them LTRs, and aren't just leading them on... because otherwise: sleazy dude!

I think the important point to bear in mind with boyfriend disqualification (as I highlighted in the article on boyfriend disqualification) is that SHE must be the one to conclude you're not boyfriend material -- it is not YOU coming out and obviously saying it! If you say or strongly imply "I'm not looking for a relationship", you run a high risk of making her feel rejected -- same way many guys get all butt-hurt if a girl tells them, "I'm not looking for a hookup right now." Their heads go "Well she hooks up SOMETIMES -- just not with ME, huh!"

So long as you are doing boyfriend disqualification in a way where the girl feels that she herself is deciding you aren't a boyfriend (e.g., you might even be telling her "I'd make a GREAT boyfriend!" --> meanwhile she is going "Haha, no way, not THIS guy!"), that is when, assuming you are sexy enough to her / have enough lover value / are showing her a fun enough time, you are going to get the fast lay.

Chase

 

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

I read the article several times, still don't get it, what's the difference between me telling her I'm not a boyfriend material and me INCEPTION planting that idea in her head? how do I plant that Idea?

I am a successfull wedding videographer making dude's average monthly salary in a day,and I have big goals of being a movie director. I can't realistically make it seem like I am a stoner skank dude, who you can fuck and forget.

I have never tried this before, I have several dates lined up, could you please tell me how to do this technic properly?

I think this is going to happen in these cases:

• Let her know you have a girlfriend or are in a relationship - wow, dude, you are a fucking piece of shit! (storms off)
• Let her know you’re newly out of a relationship and still recovering and not looking to get involved - ok, I will be together with him and I will change his mind later
• Let her know you’re on travel and only in town another night or two - well, that a waste of my time then, I like him too much
• Let her know you’re moving out of town and will be far away - same
• Let her know you have all kinds of friends in your life, but that when it comes to serious dating, you usually only date girls of XYZ race / nationality (something different than her) - she will get offended and auto reject
• Let her know you’re not really all that sure about relationships anymore, and not even sure you want to have another one (in a very neutral, non-negative / pessimistic way) - again, just a rejection

please, repaint those pictures for me, so I can recalibrate my brain and believe. and try in out tomorrow

 

[Chase]

@thats_a_penis_disgustang,

If you're pulling down like $5K/day shooting weddings, you're probably also ridiculously busy.

On top of that, you have huge career ambitions.

I don't know how your prior relationships have ended, but if I was you the first frame I'd probably be trying out would be:

• I have literally zero time right now, pretty much all I do is hustle 24/7
• I feel like such a douche, the last relationship I was in the girl almost died from neglect, lol
• I'm probably not going to be slowing down any time in the next 5 years

I would not say any of that directly tied to any kind of "so blah blah what are you looking for" conversation, except the second one, which you can drop if she asks about prior relationships.

Instead, just work that in RANDOMLY to the conversation, totally unrelated to anything she says about relationships.

It does not need to be connected to those. She will make the connections herself.

e.g.:

HER: blah blah last week at my crochet class etc. etc.​

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YOU: Where do you get time for that? You just have space on the weekend and say "Hey, how about I take a class?"​

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HER: Yeah, pretty much! [laughs]​

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YOU: Wow. That's like another life!​

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HER: You don't have time to take a class?​

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YOU: I have literally zero time right now. The only thing I do is hustle 24/7. Three hours off a week for a single coffee meet like this. That's all I get.​

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HER: Wow. That's a lot.​

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YOU: Yeah. So blah blah [change topic]​

This is one I have personally used and like using a lot (the "time poor perpetual hustler" frame). Wasn't using it yet at the time I wrote the boyfriend disqualification article which is why it's not in that one.

But the frame hits hard, and you'll know it's hit because she starts weaving in sporadic questions like these every 5-10 minutes:

• "So do you really only have time for like a single coffee meet-up per week?"
• "How long are you going to maintain a schedule like that?"

These are just her stress-testing whether you really don't have time for a relationship at all.

If you are chill but firm about it, and portray yourself as, yes, a super, SUPER busy guy, she is normally just going to conclude on her own that a relationship with you would be hell.

Then, if you are still sexy, she will decide to go to bed with you.

The only part that gets a little suspicious is if your date runs long and you don't seem overly worried about time, lol.

That's easily correctible though.

Just pull out your phone, tell her you need to check your schedule, tell her to wait a minute while you fire off this text, then tell her it's okay, we can keep hanging out.

(i.e., you just rearranged your schedule a bit for her)

But she is going to assume that is she is actually dating you, you are not really going to be doing that very much (so, once again, dating you would be hell... as successful/ambitious as you are, you are for hookups only!).

Chase

 

[Skills]

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please someone with real experience paint me a picture of how it looks like with all kinds of different girls when you disqualify yourself as a boyfriend on a date

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