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Do you answer all the questions a girl asks you? Both on approach and dates?

razir110

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So this is a quick one, I spoke to a girl in the gym yesterday and at some point she started to interrogate me like "where do you work, where do you live, etc."
When girls start to ask me too many questions in succession that seem like a questionnaire, I start to play around with the situation and ask back like "Are you from the immigration office or smth?" "Should I tell you where I live? We just met.." Usually it gives a witty vibe to the interaction and I don't want to seem like I am a kid being interrogated by the teacher. Also, I think it adds to the mystery about myself.

How do you guys go about these situations? Do you answer those questions or do you cut the interrogation? I am not sure if actually answering the questions would put her more at ease, but I just feel that it would make me look like an innocent teddy bear ready to satisfy all her curiosity to seem likable enough, does this make sense?
 

Beck Bass

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Yesterday I was out clubbing and this girl I made out with started asking me questions, but we already had made out, we were both drank (actually I wasn't that drunk anymore, maybe just a bit dehidrated, but I digress), so I just dodged her questions. The interaction went kinda like that:

Me: How's your name? ;) (not a wink, that's weird in general lol, more like a sexy smirk)
She: It's HBDoll...
Me: (extending my hand to clasp hers while eyefucking her) Pleasure meeting you, HBDoll, my name is Beck
(I get closer to her and we make out for a while)
She gets away a bit

We start talking again a bit after, we are both on the line to pay and leave:
She: So what do you do?
Me: Lots of stuff.
She: What do you do, seriously?
Me: A loooot of difffent stuff (making a face that suggests sexual things)
She: What do you do for a living?
Me: ... (I start turning away from her a bit, as I'm thinking for an answer, maybe it came across as if I was like I was out of patience, like "what's the point of this question")
She: you're not going to tell me, are you? (kinda mad, but kinda laughing)
Me: (I get a bit closer) What do youu do for a living, then?
She: I'm studying to be a doctor
Me: Oooh my gosh, you're one of those, then... (implying some experience with it, actually a good amount of the girls I slept with were studying to be or already doctors)
She: What do you mean? yadayadayada...
She then stops asking me what I do. To be fair, I didn't wanna tell her what I do that moment, because it's tech related (some BI stuff), she's not gonna get it, she's just gonna think I'm a nerd probably, so fuck this shit.

She: So how old are you?
Me: I'm 53 ;)
She: Ohh (pushing me a bit and getting closer) How old are you?
Me: Take a guess
She: Hmmmm...

Then she proceeds to ask my friend to guess her age. He eventually gets it, I'm just kinda watching and listening, not giving much of a fuck. She asks his age and he gives it, she then turns to me.

She: And you?
I don't even remember if I answer it or not, but then she says something like
She: Oh my gosh I don't even know anything about you, only your name...
Me: Do you know my name, really?
She then hurries to take my ID out of my hand (it was there for me to leave), I put in into my pocket, her hand goes inside with mine...
My friend says that my name indeed is what she knows.
I then proceed to make out a bit more with her and get her number, suggesting we meet again:
Me: Maybe I'll text you tomorrow, then
She: Well I won't be looking forward to it, then
Me: But you should be! (like c'mon, I know you like me, we have something going on here)

That was just an example, of course, and it's like 3PM night game in a club while people are leaving, tired and kinda drunk still.

How much you can get away with not giving the girl any info depends on the situation, I think, but it's better for you to be as mysterious as you can be to her, so you leave her mind wondering about you... (specially if you're chase framing while doing so).
Girls love talking about themselves, so many times turning the question to her is the best thing you can do.
Sometimes though I'll have to give her a bit, try to be as remarkable and interesting as possible while doing so, putting in as little effort as possible, of course.

"Cutting" the interrogation can be hard, if you just try to ignore her you can come across as insensitive or worse, like socially unaware, it's more like you have to dodge it, avoid it as much as you can. Pretend you're a spy like James Bond or something, and the less people know about you, the better. It also makes you revealing things about you and sharing with people much more powerful, they will chase you for it (specially women that are sexually attracted to you).

EDIT: another thing I just noticed reading this is that she's the one questioning me for stuff, she's the first one to ask me what I do, and my age. The only thing I asked her was her name, and that was my opener (openers that get you compliance already are nice, this one worked because she was already looking at me for a while, and we were right next to each other). If a girl is questioning you, that's generally a good sign, she's interested, at the very least, so try escalating things instead of being matter of fact and telling her about you.
 
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Beck Bass

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Me: "Let's save some conversation for the date m'Kay?"
Her: "Oh what date?" (if she shit tests you)
ME: "the one that's going to happen between now and this next Sunday?"
Her: "Oh and what if I'm not going on a date this week?"
Her: "then I guess you are just going to have to lay awake at night and wonder about all my personal details you had a chance to learn but frittered away"

If she is attracted and captivated by your mystery she will fall in line. It really is a good way to see how attracted she really is.
 

TomInHo

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If a girl is questioning you it means she is interested and that is a good sign. But you also have to be careful because she is also secretly trying to find something to disqualify you on

So don't be a social retard and keep dodging questions because it will just raise her guard and make you look silly. Instead you can..

Call her out for being an interrogator

"What's going on? Am I a suspect for a crime or something? Do you also want me to give you my social security, drivers license and bank account number?"...

She'll get the gist that she's being too much and then you can redirect convo somewhere else

Answer in ridiculous ways then give her a short real answer and redirect convo back to her

HB:
What do you do?
R10: I'm an exotic dancer
HB: No way!
R10: Yes, and if you play your cards right, you might get a free show
HB: Oh God
R10: Just playing! I'm actually a dentist. But what would you do for work if you could follow your passion without financial consequences?

Answer her like a politician using rich descriptions to get her to hook even more

HB:
What do you do?
R10: Is that an American thing?
HB: Huh?
R10: Because I've noticed that in America, you tend to focus a lot of your identity on what you do for a living. But in my home country it is very different. People work to live and usually have passions outside the office
HB: Wait, you're not American? Where are you from
R10: Guess!

Play guessing games and make her work hard for her answer then redirect convo somewhere else

HB:
What do you do?
R10: Guess
HB: Oh no, not the guessing game
R10: Yes, you get three tries and then I'll tell you
HB: hmmm. A pilot
R10: That would be fun, but nope. Try again
HB: A barber
R10: Nope, one more try
HB: A real estate agent
R10: So close, but I'm actually an ass model
HB: hahahah, no way
R10: Just playing, I'm a dentist but hey, you never finished telling me about all the juicy details from your recent trip to Paris

Moral of the story is to distract her from the reason she asked the question in the first place, so you can regain control of the frame and move the conversation in a direction that is more conducive to the seduction
 
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