Do you guys agree that you shouldn’t text everyday

[Raprebell]

I think it’s nothing new to be unpredictable in the dating scene. My question is whether it helps the game when you don’t message for a day and instead wait for a couple of days or text and start a conversation the next day.

and does texting everyday hurts your game?

 

[Skjöldr]

All depends. Sometimes I text once a day, sometimes once every few days, sometimes multiple times the same day. Depends on alot of factors. What hurts your game is lack of calibration. It's intuitive what you go with.

 

[Terms]

It really depends, the advice has shifted over the years because it can all work depending on the girl and the situation and how you happen to connect with her in the moment.

Its ultimately a game of odds, with some things working better some times and other things working better others, depending on the situation.

In the Swingers era the standard advice was to wait three days. The early PUA scene went the other way and advised to strike while the iron is hot and keep trying till she blew you out. Both of these compensate for a lack of game to some degree, the ideal is more fluid to the situation and the girl, which comes from putting in the reps to develop your intuition.

Starting off you can err on the side of playing it cool (Swingers), or striking hard and fast (early PUA). Both will work for you and against you at times, depending.

EDIT: damn @Skjöldr this time you preemptively read MY mind

 

[Raprebell]

All depends. Sometimes I text once a day, sometimes once every few days, sometimes multiple times the same day. Depends on alot of factors. What hurts your game is lack of calibration. It's intuitive what you go with.

Can you give an example what bad calibration would look like

 

[Terms]

Can you give an example what bad calibration would look like

Some simple examples. .

If she's attracted to you as someone high value and busy, then a lot of texting and availability can work against you. Its incongruent with what she's attracted to in you.

If she's attracted to you as a young hedonistic artist living in the moment, then waiting for days can work against you. Its incongruent with what she's attracted to you in.

You want to be aware of what you're selling yourself as, of what's attracting her to you, and calibrate your game towards the behaviors congruent with that.

 

[DoWhatWorks]

As others have said it depends.

If you're new and just want to get quick results > avoid texting often, guys usually get in their own way

If you're new and want to learn > experiment with texting loads and texting very little until you work it out

If you're at a good level > text as much as you "feel"

Search "Skills Text Guide" personally took my texting to the next level.

 

[Skjöldr]

Can you give an example what bad calibration would look like

Girl texts you after 10 hours, you text her after two seconds. But even then, I have done that succesfully. Idk, you build your intuition through trial and error.

Bad calibration is the manosphere shit about "If she takes 1 hour to reply, take 2 hours! If she sends you 2 lines of text, send her 1 line of text!". If I text a girl in the morning and then suddenly she disappears until the evening, then I think "oh she was probably at work", wait 20 minutes to reply and then text her. Usually she will start replying again shortly after. So it is alot of factors.

My advice is to get alot of numbers and text them and then get better. You will start seeing patterns and you will get a "feel" for things. Also share them with the forum.

tldr bad calibration is lack of flexibility and adapting to the situation

 

[Raprebell]

As others have said it depends.

If you're new and just want to get quick results > avoid texting often, guys usually get in their own way

If you're new and want to learn > experiment with texting loads and texting very little until you work it out

If you're at a good level > text as much as you "feel"

Search "Skills Text Guide" personally took my texting to the next level.

I can’t find it. Can you drop a link to Skills text guide

 

[DoWhatWorks]

I can’t find it. Can you drop a link to Skills text guide

Simple/basic texting guide

There are 2 types of texting most guys use: 1.- long texting setting sexual frames.- This is hard to do, but is possible to do with experience. I had to rely in this style for 2 reasons: a.-) I relied a lot on physical game, no talking dance floor game and i had a heavy latin accent. b.-) By...

www.skilledseducer.com

 

[Warped Mindless]

If you have time to text women every day, what are you doing with your life?

I guess if you have one girl you are seeing and you just send a quick text or two… ok. But long texting converstations? You probably need bigger goals if you are capable of doing that every day. Then again, maybe I just suck at time management lol.

 

[HoofHearted]

If you have time to text women every day, what are you doing with your life?

This shit hurts my feelings. I love to text.

Anyways, no, I would say don't text girls. If you're like me, you might get confused. You might feel like you need to make her think you're cool, funny, or try to get attention from her.

What you really need to do is just get her in person. That's where all the pussy is, I guess.

If you're not careful all you might end up with is some downward trending loveletters and jerkin' off alone. Ask me how I know this.