does being attractive make girls play hard-to-get? and should you chase a little to compensate, even for the shy types.

[Lushie]

my friends say im attractive and i noticed sometimes girls would act a little aloof or hard-to-get or purposely avoid looking at me despite later on showing attraction. should you ignore those signs and not fall into a chase frame or just accept the chase frame?

one minor example was today i was at an orientation for a new university i'm attending. i had a good social momentum and chatted and bantered with all 8 people in my group. when i proposed that we all exchanged IGs, the cutest girl there, and the only one, followed everyone but me (or at least the accounts that were written on the white board. i had mine written too and i saw her looking at it). in my mind im thinking is she baiting me to make myself ask her/chase her? so i chose to pretend like i didn't care thinking she'll follow later. she didn't. shes the quiet type, so should i have just accepted the bait and ask for her socials while keeping it non-chasey?

 

[DaVinciMatrixStyle]

Yeah, they play some games depending on their self-esteem. I had a girl tell me one time "If they're a 9 or a 10, they're used to getting what they want. So you do the opposite in order for them to chase you" This girl was probably like a 5 or a 6, your average normal cutie. Do what you will with that info.

 

[ulrich]

Short answer, yes.

Long answer, that’s attainability right there.
If a girls feels that you are too attractive for her and is used to be ignored by guys of “your level” she is going to reject herself to save her ego. Your job is to prevent that from happening.

Go read some of Chase’s articles on attainability, it’s a pretty counterintuitive concept but it is key and what separates the beginner from the intermediate seducers.